Single or attached, who is really more happy

[Andrea90]

Being attached or single, which is happier ? guys and girls let vote

[XiaoYaoZi]

Where's the poll though?

Singles feel lonely. Attached couples yearn for more freedom.

The world is complex.

[valkyrierune]

Originally Posted by XiaoYaoZi

Where's the poll though?

Singles feel lonely. Attached couples yearn for more freedom.

The world is complex.

yes human always yearns for the ones they do not have...

and do not treasure when they have it lol

[sexcision]

Originally Posted by Andrea90

Being attached or single, which is happier ? guys and girls let vote

No need to vote lah, it’s gonna be a 50/50 outcome

[Beerbuddy]

Originally Posted by Andrea90

Being attached or single, which is happier ? guys and girls let vote

Attached at home but single outside.

[unsung80]

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Happiness come from within, not by external factor.

[Funlover]

Grasses on the other side are always greener..

[thedevil666]

let me share my 2 cents view.

i'm currently married. in the last 2 years there was about 5-6 months of "singlehood" period each year whereby i went around dating different girls and spend my life as a bachelor. when i was with these new girls, i wished i was single. loving the new attention from these new girls. i like the feeling of being wanted. i hope i was just single and can just sleep around with them without feeling the guilt or feeling lousy. these girls make me feel my wife was lousy and i could have chosen any other girl who is better than her. i also get to go out and chiong with my bro at ktv/club etc without curfew and no need to get off pass. the freedom to go out as and when without answering things is simply money can't buy.

however, when i went overseas (which i did for one of the girl), i suddenly miss my usual travel companion - who is my wife. she knows my habit, she knows how i do my plans. being tgt for 10 years means we have shaped our attitude and way of life similarly. i feel lonely when i couldn't find any of the new girls to go out have a movie or explore a new eating place and do things couples do. their time is not dedicated to me as I am not their bf officially and they have their personal time with their other friends etc. and it gets very tiring when u remain in the dating scene for too long. not everyone is barney stinson, the same introduction, mind games, guessing games can take a toll.

bottomline, i agree with xiaoyanzi. singles yearn companionship and attached yearn freedom. very hard to have both. at different stages of your life u will wish to be one when u are the other.

[RobertTheBruce]

Originally Posted by unsung80

Happiness come from within, not by external factor

Agreed this is probably the best answer

[sexcision]

Originally Posted by thedevil666

let me share my 2 cents view.

i'm currently married. in the last 2 years there was about 5-6 months of "singlehood" period each year whereby i went around dating different girls and spend my life as a bachelor. when i was with these new girls, i wished i was single. loving the new attention from these new girls. i like the feeling of being wanted. i hope i was just single and can just sleep around with them without feeling the guilt or feeling lousy. these girls make me feel my wife was lousy and i could have chosen any other girl who is better than her. i also get to go out and chiong with my bro at ktv/club etc without curfew and no need to get off pass. the freedom to go out as and when without answering things is simply money can't buy.

however, when i went overseas (which i did for one of the girl), i suddenly miss my usual travel companion - who is my wife. she knows my habit, she knows how i do my plans. being tgt for 10 years means we have shaped our attitude and way of life similarly. i feel lonely when i couldn't find any of the new girls to go out have a movie or explore a new eating place and do things couples do. their time is not dedicated to me as I am not their bf officially and they have their personal time with their other friends etc. and it gets very tiring when u remain in the dating scene for too long. not everyone is barney stinson, the same introduction, mind games, guessing games can take a toll.

bottomline, i agree with xiaoyanzi. singles yearn companionship and attached yearn freedom. very hard to have both. at different stages of your life u will wish to be one when u are the other.

Great analysis, care to share how come u can get the 5 to 6 month of single hood period? Heehee

[edwintantan]

Originally Posted by thedevil666

let me share my 2 cents view.

i'm currently married. in the last 2 years there was about 5-6 months of "singlehood" period each year whereby i went around dating different girls and spend my life as a bachelor. when i was with these new girls, i wished i was single. loving the new attention from these new girls. i like the feeling of being wanted. i hope i was just single and can just sleep around with them without feeling the guilt or feeling lousy. these girls make me feel my wife was lousy and i could have chosen any other girl who is better than her. i also get to go out and chiong with my bro at ktv/club etc without curfew and no need to get off pass. the freedom to go out as and when without answering things is simply money can't buy.

however, when i went overseas (which i did for one of the girl), i suddenly miss my usual travel companion - who is my wife. she knows my habit, she knows how i do my plans. being tgt for 10 years means we have shaped our attitude and way of life similarly. i feel lonely when i couldn't find any of the new girls to go out have a movie or explore a new eating place and do things couples do. their time is not dedicated to me as I am not their bf officially and they have their personal time with their other friends etc. and it gets very tiring when u remain in the dating scene for too long. not everyone is barney stinson, the same introduction, mind games, guessing games can take a toll.

bottomline, i agree with xiaoyanzi. singles yearn companionship and attached yearn freedom. very hard to have both. at different stages of your life u will wish to be one when u are the other.

bro i can feel you too
i know what you mean of 5 to 6 months singlehood ,, dont your wife ask when you return home late
as for the oversea part i have the same feeling ,, haha
we are human

[ibanezjem555]

Agree.. OC overseas for few weeks.. bed feels different.. I hate the dating mind guessing games too !

[ItsEileen]

When you are single you long to have a partner . When you are attached you long to be single again . The word " Happines " is very hard to define . As many would have different interpretations to being what is happiness depending on their upbringing ; culture and background . But the most common thing would be how to best make use of your time productively . Doing the things that you would like to do to make you happy .

[thedevil666]

Originally Posted by edwintantan

bro i can feel you too
i know what you mean of 5 to 6 months singlehood ,, dont your wife ask when you return home late
as for the oversea part i have the same feeling ,, haha
we are human

Originally Posted by sexcision

Great analysis, care to share how come u can get the 5 to 6 month of single hood period? Heehee

i told my wife i want to be free again. she left me and went back to the in-laws place. so we are in a separation arrangement for both periods. she knows that i went to know girls, go out with them etc.

Originally Posted by ItsEileen

When you are single you long to have a partner . When you are attached you long to be single again . The word " Happines " is very hard to define . As many would have different interpretations to being what is happiness depending on their upbringing ; culture and background . But the most common thing would be how to best make use of your time productively . Doing the things that you would like to do to make you happy .

my term of happiness now is that i know that despite the 2 occasions of getting "free", she still comes back to me. end of the day, she may not be the prettiest girl and have the hottest body. i just need some one to cuddle at night and sleep soundly. someone whom i know already have the same ambitions and outlook in both career and life. someone who i don't need to change or no longer need to change myself to be with her.

i still have my monkey business outside. but i just treat them as "feng chang zhuo xi".

[conquer]

Originally Posted by Andrea90

Being attached or single, which is happier ? guys and girls let vote

If you are a happy person, you will stay happy no matter whether you are attached or single.