Advice for me please?

[Forver]

Hi guys

Wont mind give me some advice please?
i am 40 plus and still i am alone.
I even paid for tinder to match me a match but did not get a positive respond.
mostly are massage girls and ladies providing sexual services.
I am kind of like tired of engaging such paid services. The feel is very transnational.
I see many brothers out there posting wonderful pictures of their sexcape and actions with their FB and GF and ONS and secret etc etc.

To those brothers out there, is there any place i can hook up with a girl?
Like any apps or social groups or places i can just go and get to know them?

I know i will get alot of zap, i don't mind, but hopefully some nice people out there can bring me out of my circle

[mixmasternrv]

Had a good friend at work in the same boat. Early forties no family and heading nowhere fast. I know some guys may give you a hard time but I just wanna point out my friend was looking for love in all the wrong places. One night stands in bars, paid sex with FLs and MLs and even courting KTV hostesses. He finally came to terms that he needed to find someone looking for companionship and relationship.

My pal eventually got hitched to a M'sian gal he met through work. Have another army buddy who had so many failed relationships in SG - just made the same mistakes with the same sort/type of SG gal. He finally settled down with a Thai gal. Both of these guys seem so much happier these days but for every lucky SOB there are horror stories of matchmaking services and mail-order brides from Vietnam and CHINA that scare the living daylights of older guys.

Dun know you bro so in no real position to advise you other than to wish you luck and tell you to hit up ladies who want a relationship. So good luck. If you play your cards right you should be OK. And dun believe anyone who tells you you are better off single....it just isn't true.

[phantomboyz]

nothing wrong to find someone through matchmaking apps. The point is that you need find someone that putting priority to settle down instead of giving each other some times to exchange feelings and understand each other.
Any relationship cant escape from commitment and responsibility thats the key.While give and take no ego are added recipes.like myself i got to know my wife and engage within 2 months then got married less than 6 months.Now happy 7 years with a son now planning for second.

[ramon]

[QUOTE=Forver;19610589]Hi guys

Wont mind give me some advice please?
i am 40 plus and still i am alone.
I even paid for tinder to match me a match but did not get a positive respond.

Sorry to pour cold water, but I think Tinder may not be for you unless at your age you are suave, fit and able to charm/slut a woman.

Perhaps you can try Coffee meets Bagel...many managerial, entrepreneurial attractive women in their 30s looking for love...even from Malaysia too.

[Vivienne]

[QUOTE=ramon;19611008]

Originally Posted by Forver

Hi guys

Wont mind give me some advice please?
i am 40 plus and still i am alone.
I even paid for tinder to match me a match but did not get a positive respond.

Sorry to pour cold water, but I think Tinder may not be for you unless at your age you are suave, fit and able to charm/slut a woman.

Perhaps you can try Coffee meets Bagel...many managerial, entrepreneurial attractive women in their 30s looking for love...even from Malaysia too.

Oh this is actually good advice!

[nitecrawllerr]

Go for foreign wife. Msia, Indon, Vtb...so many. But do ur due diligence.

[Vivienne]

Originally Posted by nitecrawllerr

Go for foreign wife. Msia, Indon, Vtb...so many. But do ur due diligence.

TS only wants hook ups, ONS etc not settling down so I Guess it’s the tinder profile and chatting content that’s not getting him pussies!

[cataramp]

CMB should be the most legit app if looking for real relationship.

Afew of my friends get serious dating partner from there.

All the best bro!

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by cataramp

CMB should be the most legit app if looking for real relationship.

Afew of my friends get serious dating partner from there.

All the best bro!

Yes, agreed...tink tats the best dating app too ...but never reveal to them tat you are a member in tis sex forum...they will shun you after tat ...the gals in OKC in another app are even worse, they r very demanding and set high requirements std and behaviour from guys who want to date them ...most r left on the shelves type but they r pussies who still feel very atas abt themselves

[afterburn]

Originally Posted by Rickey

the gals in OKC in another app are very demanding and set high requirements std and behaviour from guys who want to date them ...most r left on the shelves type but they r pussies who still feel very atas abt themselves

Fast forward several years more with that attitude, then they will be very atas spinsters and grumpy OL (old ladies, not office ladies)

Have heard people say that match-making apps do have some mine-fields, that is, misfits and some borderline mental cases, as far as the ladies are concerned; I mean, there's a good reason they are there! ... If only ONS, should be ok though.

[LordVader]

Originally Posted by Forver

Hi guys

Wont mind give me some advice please?
i am 40 plus and still i am alone.
I even paid for tinder to match me a match but did not get a positive respond.
mostly are massage girls and ladies providing sexual services.
I am kind of like tired of engaging such paid services. The feel is very transnational.
I see many brothers out there posting wonderful pictures of their sexcape and actions with their FB and GF and ONS and secret etc etc.

To those brothers out there, is there any place i can hook up with a girl?
Like any apps or social groups or places i can just go and get to know them?

I know i will get alot of zap, i don't mind, but hopefully some nice people out there can bring me out of my circle

I have had lots of luck with Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB).
Give it a try.
Tinder is just crap.

[itguy2008]

Bro, my first advise is make sure you know what you are looking for. Is it a target to have sex or a long term girlfriend?

The qualities for these two kinds of girl and places to look for them are very different.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by afterburn

Fast forward several years more with that attitude, then they will be very atas spinsters and grumpy OL (old ladies, not office ladies)

Have heard people say that match-making apps do have some mine-fields, that is, misfits and some borderline mental cases, as far as the ladies are concerned; I mean, there's a good reason they are there! ... If only ONS, should be ok though.

Totally agree with wat u said bro ...but most of them r not interested in ONS... there r many 45 and abv yo women in there with such high expectations of their Mr Right ..dream on ...lolx

[coypredator]

Originally Posted by LordVader

I have had lots of luck with Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB).
Give it a try.
Tinder is just crap.

What sort of "luck" are we talking about here?

[randyrockhard]

Hookups is never about us men, it's always about women agreeing to allow you, a stranger to be intimate with her. They control the outcome, not us.

Now ask yourself this question. Are you likable enough, for women to just hookup with you, and not something else more?

In reality, not all men are cut out for this kind of luck. If you appear too serious, their perception of you as hookup material won't be there, more of a desperate instead.

My suggestion is to take it easy. And always be pleasant, be respectful, be smart, and a bit playful, even when things didn't develop as much as you wish it to be.