Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by BS KTV

Never marry a vietnamese women I rather go for Sg, Msia or even PRC women. Vietnamese women are just like animals

you married?!?

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro Sha Gua is right to say that only till the day one party dies then you can say she/he is my spouse. Often in marriage, we will choose to trust. No trust will lead to a lot of problems in marriage.

After reading Bro Sha_Gua post and this, I would like to add my own thinking. I feel that communication is very important so that both parties are able to understand each other's expections clearly in order to prevent unnecessary mis-understandings.

For example, after one had married his viet gf and bought her over here to reside, if she had very high expections but was disappointed when she came over and realised the hard-cold truth (no chance of being a tai tai or something else), there is a chance that the wife might resent her husband.

Sorry that I'm unable to express myself clearly but hope that some bros might be able to understand what I'm trying to express.

[hitman69]

I personally feel that this is a never ending topic, trust or cannot trust? There r nobody fault, neither singaporean nor vietnamese, only that our stand r difference. It takes two hands to clap. It is our own free will to make our own judgement. These vietnamese never force us to love or marry them.

It is all depend on individual to make their own decision. Trust or cannot trust is all up to u to decided, anyway it is yr own life. Anyway I believe that when u r together with a gal, more or less u will get to knw abt her personality, just that sometimes we just refused to believe our own judgement.

Once we had made our decision, no matter wat is the outcome, we must face it. This is the rule of the game. 愿赌服输

如果不小心跌倒了，没关系....。
拍拍身上的灰尘，站起来又是好汉一条。

[naemlo]

Marriage is a gamble for all races, religion and nationality. All those communications, understanding, trust will change along the way. If these are so effective, there is no word called "divorce" or "breakup".

Not Vietnamese gers are "loose", sometimes men have to look at themselves first. Human always blame others first before looking at themselves. We always think we are right.

I have to disagree that majority of Vietnamese gers are "bad". We tends to remember, magnified the "bad" Vietnamese gers. The small micro "good" they did, we always forget. Furthermore most of the people here associate more with the WL than normal decent office gers. I have met a lot of decent office gers in Vietnam, their behaviour, lifestyle and thinking are so different from WL.

Vietnamese gers have a lot of good points. An example I remember n still feel strong in my heart, just a small gesture, my ba xa always lay my slippers in front of me when I get out of my bed in the morning.

[carmeo88]

Gee, I wish my bxa can do that do.

[KangTuo]

Today is international women day. What your Vietnamese Life Partner think of this day?

Yesterday my girlfriend call to tell me that it is the 'happy birthday of all women'. She asked me what gift I am sending her? (jokingly)

From what I know from her is that in Vietnam many gals also got gift just like valentine days. The vn gals are having day off from doing household chores. She ask me to wash clothes and prepare meal for her (joking also as I am in Sillypore). She also say today, gal can scold the guy and the guys cannot grumble and scold back the gals. Got such thing wan meh?

[MiniHawk]

My gal in vn also tell me the same things, gals can hit the husbands but husband not allow to hit back. She wish I could be there to be hammer by her.

[BS KTV]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Marriage is a gamble for all races, religion and nationality. All those communications, understanding, trust will change along the way. If these are so effective, there is no word called "divorce" or "breakup".

Not Vietnamese gers are "loose", sometimes men have to look at themselves first. Human always blame others first before looking at themselves. We always think we are right.

I have to disagree that majority of Vietnamese gers are "bad". We tends to remember, magnified the "bad" Vietnamese gers. The small micro "good" they did, we always forget. Furthermore most of the people here associate more with the WL than normal decent office gers. I have met a lot of decent office gers in Vietnam, their behaviour, lifestyle and thinking are so different from WL.

Vietnamese gers have a lot of good points. An example I remember n still feel strong in my heart, just a small gesture, my ba xa always lay my slippers in front of me when I get out of my bed in the morning.

Your ba xa only play-acting to be good & nice to you but when you got no money to feed her whole family, you better be prepare to wear green hat

[u3ishingu]

Well, after seeing so much from all of my bros out there,

I decided to post my story,


Well, i met my wife at a certain KTV during an happy hour session with my customers. Usually i will reject gals that come in early..but the moment i saw my present wife, nothing much was said and she sat with mi. As a playboy, the first thoughts in my mind was how to fxxk her for free(which i have done many times). So as usual i took her number and msg her,and the following mon i drove her to work, and followed up with an happy hour session with her and some of my khakis..From den on, everyday is a routine for me, i will drive her to work everyday without fail,i even told her i will bring her to malaysia for a u-turn and extend her stay which of course its part of my evil plan to close the deal and be done with it. Once she called me, told me to bring her to buy HP, i was telling myself, the pattern come out liao, surprisingly, she paid 300 for the phone herself. Hmm...that started to change my thinking of her, and i brought her to malaysia to spent 1 night in JB, that started to totally change my feelings from lust to love. And the day i bought her back to singapore, i was her ong xa. But our new lovelife was short as she did nt managed to extend her stay so she had to go back to vietnam for a month before coming back. The moment i saw her off at the airport, my heart bled, and shit i told myself,i am really falling in deep love with her. The moment she went back to vietnam, i lost my job,at first i dared nt tell her abt it as i scare that will scare her away. So i told her i have a long holiday and will be meeting with her in vietnam soon, thats the first time i flew to see someone whom i known last den a month and nt knowing her well, but its just in my guts and the urge to go see her...all my friends thought i was crazy, but well its just blinded my love...the few days before i went there i confessed to my gf that actually i am out of job and i am going there using my last savings, she said its ok...she just wanna see mi...so i flew there...and i saw my lovely ba xa waiting for me at the airport, i was so happy to see her, so needless to say, i brought her and her friends to eat,shopping,etc. I was down to like 100-150 sing dollars and my gf was still shopping like crazy,i was like damn,how am i suppose to pay for the hotel and eat, n i have like 5 more days to go? I was already smsing my bros in singapore to get reeady to transfer money to me liaoz...but in the end, my wife is the one paying for everything...to the day we went back to singapore. On then i realised, hey there are still good gals in vietnam. So the moment we got back, her friends urge us to get married and so we did. Act we had a very rough patch during the early times, as i was nt werking and my wife actually had to werk in her past line just to survive, and even our engagement ring is bought by her.I know its feels like i am a useless guy, but no choice, no work=no money. Even then, feed me alone nt enough, she still has to support her family in vietnam. But u guys will nv know how much it hurts to see her go work....but she nv go hotel with any customers one, coz she is quite pretty and can have alot of customers in a day, she can earn up to 300+ dollars a day jus by sitting down and chitchat(i was her customer once) so i know hw she works. And i fetch her to-and-fro work everyday without fail. So nw i am a happily married man, with a kid-on-the-way, with a stable job now and a beautiful wife, wat more can a man ask for? Although sometimes we still send money back to vietnam, but its like 200-300 a month?

Sorry for the long story, but jus wanna share my truth life story..

[hitman69]

To: XXX

缘份有尽时
只要曾经在一起开心过
又何必去在乎谁亏欠谁比较多

我就好比是一头老鹰
而你却像一匹小野马
我在天空飞，你在地面跑
我们原本就是属于两个不同世界
其实有时候舍得放手也未尝不是一种福气

至少对你对我对大家都好....

那么就让我静静地傲翔在蓝天里
看着你自由自在地奔驰在草地上
追逐着你的辛福

这样不是很好吗?....


PS> 感谢你曾经为我付出许多
至今对你仍有一份愧疚
在此衷心地希望你能找到你的辛福
Xin Loi....

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by u3ishingu

Sorry for the long story, but jus wanna share my truth life story..

A real life story that at least provide some +ve image on VN gals (eventhough she was once a ktv gal) after a few post on the -ve image VN gals.

Your persistence also plays a part in a happy marriage life.. Cheers.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by MiniHawk

My gal in vn also tell me the same things, gals can hit the husbands but husband not allow to hit back. She wish I could be there to be hammer by her.

My girlfriend called me in the evening to ask whether I cook dinner and wait for her to come home eat. Again she is joking as she knows I am in Sillypore. I think she really miss me today

Lucky she never wanna hammer me

[Intel Ops]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

My girlfriend called me in the evening to ask whether I cook dinner and wait for her to come home eat. Again she is joking as she knows I am in Sillypore. I think she really miss me today

Lucky she never wanna hammer me

You are so fortunate to find that special someone. Haiz I dont even know if mine got miss me or not? Feeling very lost now...

[Spud_Boy]

Originally Posted by MiniHawk

My gal in vn also tell me the same things, gals can hit the husbands but husband not allow to hit back. She wish I could be there to be hammer by her.

my fren in vn also called me to say the same thing as she was plannin to fly back on sat, so in time to hammer me.. luckily no more seats on the flight, so she can only be back on sunday..

[SingViet]

glad to know that there are still some bros out there who got good vietnamese wives. There are plentiful of bad ones but there are also some good ones around. Best wishes to bros with good vietnamese wives. Cheers