Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Tony Stark

Thanks for the insight of matchmaking agencies. The matchmaker on that video is really a sing song talk cock salesman only. From the video I know where this matchmaking agency is.

I believe flying over to Vietnam and look personally is better.

The agent looked familiar to me too. I thk the agency is located at parklane.

[happy000]

Right. In fact I have been visting him quite often during last year whenever there is a new gal he brought in. His script on the YouTube is similar to what he told me.

His website is at lifepartnermatchmaker.com and I find his fee is very high although he justify by saying that he need to maintain an 'office' in HCM to source for suitable gals and the expenses for the gals while she is in Singapore and daily ads in the newspaper etc etc etc. By the way he was an ex-property agent and his wife is still a property agent.

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

The agent looked familiar to me too. I thk the agency is located at parklane.

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by Tony Stark

Thanks for the insight of matchmaking agencies. The matchmaker on that video is really a sing song talk cock salesman only.

Spoken by him: "If today, if you feel your bride, if you cannot accept her whatever, you will have to send her back to vietnam yourself." WTF! To me, he is rather irresponsible.

[mao86]

yo guys newbie reporting here.. well let mi share with you my story !

I came to know this viet gurl working in one of the pubs in geylang. At first she was very sweet and treat me very good loh.. kinda of the kana touch by her. Things start to change when she came back to spore on her 2nd trip !

Slowly i found out that her elder sister is going to get married to a guy damm rich lah cos that guy is 45 and her elder sister is only 25yrs old !!! My baxa friend tell mi that baxa wan mi same same like her elder sister husband which is like what she wants i must buy for her and also hor... like she want eat this i muz buy loh... hai bth sia... how can they compare lyk tat ! Then u noe wt ting.. nw she went back vietnam i got gib her $$ but then she juz call mi say nt enuff $$, no eat... wah i find that she like use it to wipe backside loh.. At the airport, i @@ her holding an iphone in her hand loh... wah u noe hw xpensive it is a not.. kaoz no $$ still iphone! i pity her friend also becos she had been scolded by my baxa due to the fact that baxa ask her take $$ from mi but then the frienz say that it is no good loh keep toking $$$$....

Another thing is that she tell mi she dun wanna work but then bo bian cos the family in vietnam poor got owe debts need to pay back so hab to work loh.. Then u gt imagine the best part a not... for the sake of $$ i heard from one of my frienz that she went overnite with one of my friend friend ... so totally piss off that dae becos i ask her where and she say goin back slp..kaoz..

R we reali their i mean passport to spore ?? and pherhaps even if we married them, i tink they will tend to work also... cos free time nuthing to do or worst still bring a guy back to your home.....

Besides that, dunoe y she keep cyco mi go back vietnam with her loh.. my friend tell mi that once i go that meanz i muz married her le.. gt such tings meh ?

Didnt noe that the trap is like so big waiting for you to step in loh.. imgaine wt happens if we get married ?

[mao86]

yo guys newbie reporting here.. well let mi share with you my story !

I came to know this viet gurl working in one of the pubs in geylang. At first she was very sweet and treat me very good loh.. kinda of the kana touch by her. Things start to change when she came back to spore on her 2nd trip !

Slowly i found out that her elder sister is going to get married to a guy damm rich lah cos that guy is 45 and her elder sister is only 25yrs old !!! My baxa friend tell mi that baxa wan mi same same like her elder sister husband which is like what she wants i must buy for her and also hor... like she want eat this i muz buy loh... hai bth sia... how can they compare lyk tat ! Then u noe wt ting.. nw she went back vietnam i got gib her $$ but then she juz call mi say nt enuff $$, no eat... wah i find that she like use it to wipe backside loh.. At the airport, i @@ her holding an iphone in her hand loh... wah u noe hw xpensive it is a not.. kaoz no $$ still iphone! i pity her friend also becos she had been scolded by my baxa due to the fact that baxa ask her take $$ from mi but then the frienz say that it is no good loh keep toking $$$$....

Another thing is that she tell mi she dun wanna work but then bo bian cos the family in vietnam poor got owe debts need to pay back so hab to work loh.. Then u gt imagine the best part a not... for the sake of $$ i heard from one of my frienz that she went overnite with one of my friend friend ... so totally piss off that dae becos i ask her where and she say goin back slp..kaoz..

R we reali their i mean passport to spore ?? and pherhaps even if we married them, i tink they will tend to work also... cos free time nuthing to do or worst still bring a guy back to your home.....

Besides that, dunoe y she keep cyco mi go back vietnam with her loh.. my friend tell mi that once i go that meanz i muz married her le.. gt such tings meh ?

Didnt noe that the trap is like so big waiting for you to step in loh.. imgaine wt happens if we get married ?

[papillon30]

IMHO, match-making agency is jusy 0.1% better than those WLs. It starts with $$$ and ends with $$$. It's like a rancher trying to get a good stud in
a cattle auction.

Budget airline to Vietnam is cheap. Accomodaton is affordable. No need visa to enter Vietnam. What's stopping you to come over to Vietnam to look for your ba xa. No time? Just over the weekend; once a fortnight or month will do.

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by mao86

yo guys newbie reporting here.. well let mi share with you my story !

Actually, I dont really understand some parts of your story. Anyway, going there does not = marry her but it will result in something else. As mentioned by several bros here, they tend to compare here and there. They value "face" mah. Learn from PRC one.

There are so many ladies around so why still stick to this 'one'?

Welcome to VN!

[boysaigon]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Guys are always funny creature.

She is my gf, I give her monthly allowance.

Hmmm how u guys define this "gf" ????

...in some 'traditional' societies like some parts of China or Vietnam, it is a common and acceptabe practice for the richer bf to give their gf some allowance...

it may seem not right in Singapore but this practice per se is not necessarily bad or unjust

just a cultural diff...to me.

..having said that.. never let the gal take u as 'carrot' lah...just buying gifts for girls...if over the 'line' it will make one feel like a 'carrot'...

for any relationship, go in with your eye open wide wide lah...esp sin-vn relationship...they are good...very good...be careful not to fall into the traps and be more mindful not to miss 'real' good girls lah...i have fren who now live happily after with their vn ba xa...some guys just have all the luck...me, still looking...

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by boysaigon

some guys just have all the luck...me, still looking...

U can go to this webpage to look 4 viet gals. VietSingle.com - Vietnamese Friend Connection - All Listing. wish u luck in ur search.

[Kualalumpur]

Originally Posted by X_plorer

Then do you know how to and how much to get a divorce. My wife just brought me to see her friend last Sunday, there is this uncle who married my wife's friend last year. Which i thought my wife is blowing up the story only when i feel it myself, the gal went out with us for a meal together, then to catch up for a while with my wife, but her husband call up and ask where we are, then also ask for my wife's contact.

But here comes the trouble, he call around 10 min later asking where we are going, and ask a lots of question, going where, going to do what, etc..., then after 20 min, he called again, asking where is our exact location, what time coming back etc... then another 10 min called again, asking where is the exact location again, and another 10 min call again, which i n my wife dun even bother to ans, when total to 23 missed call from my mobile, dun how many missed call from her wife's mobile.

But that's not the worst, he calculate even a single cent with his wife that going here and there, like petrol cost to go here and there to eat, so expensive, how much it cost, then eat seafood expensive...etc. I can't even imagine, her wife requested just to eat 2 crab, and my wife told me that the husband didn't even buy for her to eat just because expensive, come on, how expensive is that?

And even she wanted to buy chat chat card to call back to Vietnam, she have to pay for herself.

Here comes the most annoying part. The husband will only give her household allowance after every 30 days in Singapore and will only give 10 days upon reaching 30 days, and she is suppose to work with him from morning 6am to 6pm giving her $50 daily only after work, only food, the husband will pay for her, but all the other things which the wife's need or other things, she would have to pay for herself. I even heard that her husband got a son and a daughter already, but only the son is staying with him. But he even collect rental from his son just because he is staying with him.

The gal told my wife that her husband change totally after marriage from day 1. Which i think, who can endure this type of treatment, is she his wife, or just treating her like a overnight booking working whore?

This uncle is a 60 plus old uncle and the gal is just 20 plus.. And he didn't even give a single cent to her family when married. He is such a miser till who can tolerate this kind of person and act. He is not poor, i seen his car, he can buy a korean car at around $70plus k and fully paid, and wanted to change car in a few months time, and his house also fully paid. But he can be so bastard..

So anyone can figure out who to help the gal to divorce the husband, but the issue is the gal do not have money to pay for the lawyer, but the husband would not file for divorce and pay for the fees neither.

If any bros here wants to know the address of this bastard son of a bitch, i can even find out. I only know he lives at AMK, Blk 547 or 5**, can't remember well, on the second level.

Any comments on this type of people?

I am newcomer, and live in Ha Noi. Sorry to say that, but this story of the poor girl sounds too familiar to me to remain unanswered. This girl is once again bullshitting again, and that story is the same standard story they pass with teardrops or otherwise to all their friends and friends of their friends, to explain how "bad" their husband is. Sum up: please help me to destroy him, I want to get another husband/boyfriend.

Viet girls have 2 stories when they want to divorce. First their husband is very bad and play with girls in karaoke, or underage girls, or boys. When the husband is very famous to be "serious" ( or protects himself so no one can proove his mongering ), they have the story 2, that is exactly the one you write down ! The purpose is to lower and destroy their husband reputation before the "final hit", they try to group as many people as possible on their side to finish their husband, and that usually helps to hide the fact that maybe they have boyfriends, or sucked all the money from their husband...

I married a Vietnamese 2 years ago. I was not "poor" by any standards, and she is very well educated with a high salary ( 1500US$/month), from medium-wealthy family. I paid for everything, well actually "she" paid, because at that time I did not speak vietnamese. I passed her the money that she used to pay the house, the car with driver, the restaurants, the maids, an expensive handphone, etc... She was divorced, 1 child, I paid everything from the studies in foreigner school to travel abroad for his holidays... Still "I" did not pay, because she insisted to do it herself, on the basis that "everything is cheaper amongst vietnameses". I happened not to be introduced to her friends too much, just her family ( who actually welcomed all of her boyfriends but that I learned later!).

Suddenly, she had some very bad guys who wanted to harm her in her work, and threatened her. That would be the disaster of her life, she would not keep the guard of her children, etc... Had to pay over the week end 50.000US$. Stupid of me, I did it. I paid for some other things, now I know she had a boyfriend at the time she married, and the said boyfriend happens to have won a lot of money lately. She started to call of her friends to explain exactly the same bullshit that this gal from SG tried to brainwash you with. I am "cheap man", I never paid anything, look, all the invoices under the name, the house paper under her name ( yep, but the receipt from the owner was for a transfer straight from my private bank account ! That saved me, because I could show to her "relationship" that she is a liar), I refused to pay for her children some books ( she forgets to mention the USA travel for US$6000 ). Unfortunately I happened to know several of her friends ( one man needed an expensive surgery for his daughter in Singapore for a cancer, and I passed to him the money like that, no receipt, nothing, so he warned me immediately about what's going on !) better than she expected

Before trusting a girl about her husband, or a man about his wife be very careful. That story sounds really like the "B schedule" from a Viet woman who wants to divorce and make others forget her faults...

[SammyHulk]

Originally Posted by Norikasan55

100% certified virgin by Singapore doctor somemore.

Hah?? serious?? medical chkup i believe, certified virgin???

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Kualalumpur

Before trusting a girl about her husband, or a man about his wife be very careful. That story sounds really like the "B schedule" from a Viet woman who wants to divorce and make others forget her faults...

Bro, i do agree totally with what you say about the different standard stories that vietnamese woman come up with. Like i always point out, marrying a vietnamese and staying in vietnam is always different from marrying a vietnamese and staying in Singapore. There are some things that's just `in the blood'.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by mao86

Didnt noe that the trap is like so big waiting for you to step in loh.. imgaine wt happens if we get married ?

You went to geylang and u expect to find a good decent gal? That's quite impossible. What u went thru is standard and is what almost all bros who know Viet WL has gone thru. going to vietnam is stage two of their WL plans. Very standard, very simple.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by happy000

Right. In fact I have been visting him quite often during last year whenever there is a new gal he brought in. His script on the YouTube is similar to what he told me.

His website is at lifepartnermatchmaker.com and I find his fee is very high although he justify by saying that he need to maintain an 'office' in HCM to source for suitable gals and the expenses for the gals while she is in Singapore and daily ads in the newspaper etc etc etc. By the way he was an ex-property agent and his wife is still a property agent.

Bro, thanks for the info. Up you my humble 3 points.

[Tony Stark]

Originally Posted by papillon30

IMHO, match-making agency is jusy 0.1% better than those WLs. It starts with $$$ and ends with $$$. It's like a rancher trying to get a good stud in a cattle auction.

Budget airline to Vietnam is cheap. Accomodaton is affordable. No need visa to enter Vietnam. What's stopping you to come over to Vietnam to look for your ba xa. No time? Just over the weekend; once a fortnight or month will do.

If talking about going to Vietnam to cheong than no problem. But if going over to sian decent girls will be very difficult due to language problem.