I am ashamed for unknowingly committing incest - Page 6

Botakhead · #76 18-02-2012, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by neyney

If go for dna testing, i think botakhead will go jail.

Especially when the test may show up that the resulting pointing to incest.

With medical technology so advance, no one can escape the truth, if found out.

Botakhead · #77 18-02-2012, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by n30n

Maybe i didn't phrase properly.

I mean have enough savings so that you can provide financial support in case next time the little girl comes into any health misfit. If you read about genetic disabilities it's a lifetime health issue so can be quite a liability if anything were to surface. ChoyChoy.
Whether C want to check anot, doesnt matter. But when the situation arise, at least you can ease the health support and lifestyle bills.
Yes I've made that financial preparation, it should be able to cover for the future, incase something untowards arises. But for the child, she's been to clinic for yearly check-ups, but no problem turn up so far, looks like she's healthy, and I hope she'll grow up well.
As for the two mom's i'm referring to C and F.
They two made the same mistake, which led to such a confused situation. Wouldn't want the little girl to go through similar kind of situation. Break out of this vicious cycle.
Hope the girl will grow up to love and respect herself more.
As F it's been hard, very hard for her to overcome this all by herself, where she had put my future with more importance than to let me know that I'm a father at 16 years old. As fo C, it's been hard too, even harder for her, to conceal her identity from her biological father and had also given her virgin self to her father, bearing their forbidden sacred fruit, all by herself. Again both women shows that they had loved me as a husband and as a father.

From the way you speak of your wife, i think she's not a very open minded type of person. Even if things already happened in the past ( don't know if there are things that happened during dating and marriage time), i don't know if she can take it and support you. So better keep it from her.

Exactly the opposite, she's very open-minded, so that when she could not satisfy my sexual needs, I was allowed to have FB for my regular sexual releases. Only concern, is got to be careful not to contract any form of sexual diseases. Just that now I feel that I've gotten over the edge, how to let the truth be told.

Botakhead · #78 18-02-2012, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by bonkning

since she been thru so much, all the more shuldn't hurt her with this info. it is not necessary for her to know. it only makes her sad, right. just do all u can to keep it from her- for her sake, and
I'm fighting between whether to responsibly own up to my beloved wife with what I've done, it's a matter of time sooner or later the truth will come to light. Would it be better to let the truth be known sooner when I'm still living, if I'm gone , lying inside coffin, then when F and C and child cannot even acknowledge themselves to be related to me so dearly.
bu zhi zhe - can't blame, u dun know it at dat time ma, if u know sure u won't do right.-my humble 1 point to u.

Like I said before unknowingly, but it should never be an excuse for it did happened in the end, sad nothing I can do to reverse that.
Thank you for your point. I'll return to you when I my point is fully charged up.

hornyrabbit75 · #79 19-02-2012, 12:24 AM

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Originally Posted by kra77

woah or wow... not sure which word to use for you bro.
i played 4D and TOTO, never got so much luck in what you have experienced so far.

I am relieved and happy that you did not take your own life as a solution. Imagine the shock and relevations if both sides decides to take you even after death.

I hope you are not neglecting your current family just because you need to repent for your sins bro. That should not be the way ok.

Now you need to find the balance in managing yrself between two families and its not gg to be easy.

For the new child, sooner or later, the child will know and may even report you to the authority since the school will teach of such things. That I am worried for you.

This is me and what I will do if i am in your situation. I will give the child away and never want to be traced back again. Let the child have a good life not knowing this forever. It will be easy to just manage yr other side with just 2 persons bro. I repeat, that this is what I will do and not in anyway asking you to do it.

Wish you all the best and take care.

I hope TS don't follow this guy advice... Tht child is innocent. Pls don't make an innocent child shouldering the faults of the adults.

teach correctly, TS will haf a wonderful families down the road.

TS, just b strong & b a gd papa, hubby & grandpa

xchampsx · #80 19-02-2012, 12:52 AM

wow abit unbelievable, cant believe that such an unlucky thing will happen.
anyway, you have my support. all the best and bring up your kids well =) dont worry, life will work itself out

DreamMaster1985 · #81 19-02-2012, 01:01 AM

TS, there is......a way to find out how will your wife react to this revelation of yours. Use a story. Describe your experience to her but instead of you, use a third person. After describing your 'story' , ask her as a wife how would she feel. Her answer might give you a little indication of what her reaction is IF you ever decide to tell her about your secret.

Do note that the words 'little indication' as real life situation is different from, how should I put it...... 'make believe' situation.

Yardstick · #82 19-02-2012, 04:19 AM

TS, what's done is done. Whatever harm and damage you have caused is already there. Instead of feeling sorry, you should do your best to take care of both families. Afterall, you owe both families a lot.

Take care and stay strong.

38tiger · #83 19-02-2012, 06:11 AM

TS it is to your interest to your child/grand child is to give the child away for adoption.

but this have to get C and F opinions.....

Good Luck and take good care of yourself and your families..

bonkning · #84 19-02-2012, 09:44 AM

i think it depends on whether if your wife can accept your second family, u think so?
if not, then i think better dun say anything.

a bro suggest telling a story about another person, but her reaction for that story can be very different from how she will react actually, knowing women. kou shi xing fei.

u still have a lot of time to think thru and thru. dun have to hurry, only when everyone is ready.

MikeInTheHole · #85 19-02-2012, 10:16 AM

Botakhead :Incest happened only when you knew that they are related to you. Since you doesn't know about it, then I would suggested you to tone it down and move on. If you create too much of a situation, then it is difficult for you and your present family to continue living in Singapore......

cohen · #86 19-02-2012, 10:59 AM

haiz wads has been done has been done no point crying over spilt milk, hope you can carry on with your life

dennischan · #87 19-02-2012, 06:21 PM

I'm sure you know how to deal with your situation. keep on going in life bro!

Istrike4D · #88 19-02-2012, 06:36 PM

My goodness! You guys really think the whole story is real?

lmaolmao · #89 19-02-2012, 09:36 PM

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?f...type=1&theater

Botakhead · #90 20-02-2012, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by hornyrabbit75

I hope TS don't follow this guy advice... Tht child is innocent. Pls don't make an innocent child shouldering the faults of the adults.
I did not follow, just yet, I think I should be fully responsible, being a father/grandfather to this innocent child. And that I repeat, unknowingly committed incest.....end of day, still I'm at fault.
teach correctly, TS will haf a wonderful families down the road.

TS, just b strong & b a gd papa, hubby & grandpa

I'm looking forward to having 2 immediate families, both female partners have been through alot of hardships, that words cannot describe, I'll treasure what I've been blessed with.

Thank you for your support.