I Yearn To Return To Vietnam

[blue_swatch]

and any updates?

[Tomahawk]

I'm in one of the hotels on Bui Vien Street now. Lan's feelings for me are real. I'll tell you why later. I don't deny the possibility of her two-timing me, but she does feel for me and believe that I'm the one for her.

Yesterday, all day I didn't call her. This was different from the routine, daily call we had. Then this afternoon, at Changi Airport, I told her that sorry, I was sick, and was going to the doctor, so maybe I would try to come to Saigon next month instead. She got so upset, and told me how she had booked a room for me and told her mum and friends about me and now I abandoned her just like that.

Anyhow, I eventually told her to pick me up from the airport as planned, and she did, with a big bouquet of roses (she already told me her plan yesterday). In the cab, she suddenly whipped out her phone and wanted me to say hello to her mum, despite my protests. Her mum was so excited to talk to me. I wonder how she'd react if I had told her that I was only interested in bonking her daughter.

As for the action bit, I managed to get her to give me some bj. No penetration yet, for she was a little dry. Also she loves to lie back and close her eyes as I work on her. She doesn't seem to be the type who'd take the initiative. And I was actually hoping for her to rape me.

It's now 8:45pm. We'll be going out for dinner and adjourn to Apocalypse Now. Hopefully the alcohol will make her horny later tonight.

[Tomahawk]

For those of you who are still with me on this thread, so Lan and I went for dinner -- late by the way... she took 2 hours to dress up at home and meet me when she told me 15 minutes. Then we went to Apocalypse Now and returned to the hotel for some bonking.

As usual, she laid down and relaxed and I thought it was game over again. But she suddenly sprang up and went for a shower and I knew that was the sign that she was getting ready for some action. Eventually, I managed to get some bj and bonk her once.

After the session, she found out about the Queen and refused to talk. For the first time since I knew her, she actually shed tears. Now it's Day 2, she's still on the bed and there's cautious optimism that it seems like things are back to normal.

[Artic]

thks for the contribution....

[oldcar]

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

I couldn't fathom how anyone who had made herself a guy's girlfriend could prance around a bar with two men, getting intimate and all, right in front of him, under his nose.

I felt so humiliated. Chau attempted to divert my attention away from the spectacle still unfolding before me.

I will say a good porportion bar girl in Vietnam will sleep with stranger for a fee. So if you just want to sleep with her dont get too emotion (but sometime difficult as they are so sweet :-)). If you want her as girlfriend or bxa, then you have to give her enough money to stop work. But even then, you cannot be sure you would get humilated again.

I just have a big arguement with my bxa because her idea of going disc with friend and get chat up by stranger and give out telephone number and meeting up alone and get drunk is perfectly ok. The bottomline is they are constantly look for better "provider" to give them a better life.

[Tomahawk]

Thanks for your advice, brother oldcar. I'm not quite sure if Lan still works at Bar Stop. It's very strange, because over the course of the past two days, everybody tells me she's a nice girl who had no boyfriend till I came along and so on, yet I had that experience from two months back that still leaves a bitter aftertaste.

You know, just last night, we were at Apocalypse Now with her two "sisters", plus the French boyfriend of one of them. That guy, who's in his 50s, has been with that one sister for 8 months already, and has known Lan through their cheonging outings for 6 months. He noted that Lan is a nice girl who only stays with her 2 sisters, never soliciting men like many of the women in the disco do.

Today, Lan actually brought me over her home where she got a change of clothes. I was introduced to her neighbours (the upstairs unit of the shophouse contained many rooms, with each room housing a family) and while I was seated there as I waited for her, I realised how humble a background Lan had. If this man from Singapore married her, even an HDB flat would be heaven by Vietnam's standards. You should have seen how run-down and dilapidated that place was. Unfortunately, I'm cheating on her.

Then, we visited the luxurious apartment of her "sisters", those whom she had introduced to me last night. The French guy had rented this place (US$2,500/mth) for himself and the two sisters, who welcomed us with hearty chicken pasta. As I chatted with the sisters about Lan, I felt more and more guilty about myself. Now I'm really beyond doubt that Lan's feelings for me are real. She's put 100% of her feelings into me, even to the extent of introducing me into her private life. When one of the sisters asked if I would marry Lan, I said, with some form of guilt, let's see how things go. After all I had only known her for two months.

By the way, dinner last night was held at the restaurant where Lan herself works as a waitress. See, she has now even shown me to her boss and colleagues. Now I really don't know how things will turn out when I break up with her in future. As the whole world crashes down on her, this long-distance relationship with the good Singapore man will seem like a very bad dream.

[Tomahawk]

At the Ben Thanh Market today, I was prepared to face some music when I told Lan I needed to get some baby clothes. They're actually for my kid but I told her I was getting them for a colleague's child. These two days I had reiterated to Lan that I wasn't married and she was my girlfriend. To my surprise, Lan didn't have any comments.

Back in the hotel, I made sure I bonked Lan after our sleep. I only had one condom left (I tried to do her this morning but I ejaculated too fast... no chance for penetration) and as I wanted to save it for tonight (I'll be leaving tomorrow), I did her raw.

Know something? In between our kisses and sweet nothings following sex, Lan called her mum and got me to say a few words to her. The poor lady on the other end of the line didn't know that as Lan was talking to her, this good guy from Singapore was molesting her daughter. I was fondling her up and down for a good while.

[blue_swatch]

Brother, no matter how real it sounds or how true she is to you, just remember that you ARE her ticket and her family's ticket out of porvety. That is why she is treating the way she is and even trying to introduce her family/mum to you.

Like what you say, even a HDB would be a luxury to them. Everyone knows that to marry a singaporean by their standards are like marrying a gold mine. Of course she is treating you like a BF and King. If you ask me, even if she knows you are married, I probably think she would still wanna take her chances and hope things change and she can ultimately become your OC, or you will send her money from sg while she keep this current relationship with you.

For a relationship that developed the way it did for you ( i been following ) Trust me, she is prepared for the worse. End of the day, you will still go back to your wife and kid and remain that way.

Seperately, if u will be in HCM in early january we could meet up. Cheers!

[Tomahawk]

Originally Posted by blue_swatch

Of course she is treating you like a BF and King. If you ask me, even if she knows you are married, I probably think she would still wanna take her chances and hope things change and she can ultimately become your OC, or you will send her money from sg while she keep this current relationship with you.

Yes, I completely understand what you're saying, brother blue_swatch. That's a good point. Her real feelings for me probably has some motive behind it. Maybe this has got to do with the fact that I last month sent a brand new Samsung handphone to her (will talk about that seperately if you're interested). She knows I genuinely care about her. Yes, in a way she's my FB, but on the other hand, I really like her too.

Now that you've said what you you said about sending money, maybe I should just take the chance huh? Let her know I'm married and this will stop her from calling me inconvenient times. This is what's happening with Tingting in Shenzhen. While I'm able to manage the two relationships quite nicely, it gets a little dangerous at times. I have had a few close calls at home.

Originally Posted by blue_swatch

For a relationship that developed the way it did for you ( i been following ) Trust me, she is prepared for the worse. End of the day, you will still go back to your wife and kid and remain that way.

Care to explain? Why do you say she's prepared for the worse?

Originally Posted by blue_swatch

Seperately, if u will be in HCM in early january we could meet up. Cheers!

OK, will take note of that. Honestly, I don't know how many more projects/trips I can come up with. It gets really tiring and a bit dangerous (what if the Queen happens to talk to my colleagues?). Not to mention that I have to clear my own annual leave in order to do that. I may well just wait for the next official work trip to Saigon...

[Tomahawk]

It's now 8:35pm here in Saigon. Lan just finished her shower, and I got the scare of my life when she had a brief peek at my laptop! I quickly switched to another window... And she thought I had been doing my email. *phew*

Anyhow, we're going for makan at Highlands Coffee after this, then adjourn to Lush disco. If any of you happens to be in Saigon now, and see a slim, young and fair girl at Highlands Coffee (Opera House) with a Chinese guy, it's probably us.

[blue_swatch]

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

It's now 8:35pm here in Saigon. Lan just finished her shower, and I got the scare of my life when she had a brief peek at my laptop! I quickly switched to another window... And she thought I had been doing my email. *phew*

Anyhow, we're going for makan at Highlands Coffee after this, then adjourn to Lush disco. If any of you happens to be in Saigon now, and see a slim, young and fair girl at Highlands Coffee (Opera House) with a Chinese guy, it's probably us.

Wat I meant was they are probably prepared that a man in his 30s (which I believe you are) are probably married and in HCM for work and some fun in the evening, especially since she met you in a disco. They may be simple but they are not stupid, and hence the reason why i said most of them are prepared for the worst ie u r already married. Thats my presumption that is.

Oh, enjoy! I like the Highlands coffee. I remember having coffee there in the morning when I touch down late last year.

[rock777]

[QUOTE=blue_swatch;2373526]Brother, no matter how real it sounds or how true she is to you, just remember that you ARE her ticket and her family's ticket out of porvety. That is why she is treating the way she is and even trying to introduce her family/mum to you.


I have to agree with bro blue swatch on this . I don't know much abt Bro tomahawk gal thus i can't comment on her but i can only said your relationship with Lan is still in the early stage so you have to have a clear mind and analysize what happening along the way . Secondly , you are married in spore , how to you maintain your oversea relationship with LAN , i mean how often can you visit her per year . And are u prepare for the worse if your OC found out ?

Just side track abit on this , i have a friend uncle who has a so called gf in HCM , as he is not a well to do type thus he did not send any monthly allowance to her , he only visit her every 2-3 mths and probably buy her gift ect ect . And the gal dare to tell him that another singaporean is paying her a $650 monthly allowance .

[rock777]

After the session, she found out about the Queen and refused to talk. For the first time since I knew her, she actually shed tears. Now it's Day 2, she's still on the bed and there's cautious optimism that it seems like things are back to normal.[/QUOTE]

Bro , it a matter of time u got to make a decision to tell her abt ur status . Are u worry that thing will change after u tell her abt it . From my opinion if u just want to find a gf to accompany u and making love for the time when u are there then i supposed u dont have to tell her . But if u are serious abt her, then probably u have let her make a decision abt this issue too .
Sorry , above is just my personnel opinion .
Remeber i told you before i am in the same situation too ?

[MrDevil]

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

I'm in one of the hotels on Bui Vien Street now. Lan's feelings for me are real. I'll tell you why later. I don't deny the possibility of her two-timing me, but she does feel for me and believe that I'm the one for her.

It may not be easy to really prove if one's feeling is true, as long as both of you are happy for the moment. Do watch out for any sign for deeper trap that may come if any. Would you wonder why a waiteress know so well which hotel is girl-friendly and has bigger bed?

[Tomahawk]

Actually, I did wonder to myself why this girl knew the hotels so well. Yes, I have thought of the possibility -- maybe even the fact -- that this girl has been following men around. While I do believe that she now treats me as THE boyfriend -- since I've confirmation by way of my chats with her mum -- I do believe that she may also be hooking up guys at Bar Stop or some other places when I'm not around. Or even if she doesn't do it now, since she had me, she might have done it numerous times in the past.

What I'm intending to do is to break off with her in a subtle way. No, I won't go to the extent of telling her about the Queen. Dun wish to break her heart. I will just say that it's hard to maintain a LDR and all, and since I'm not able to be physically with her, we may as well just end the relationship. Telling her about the Queen is as good as admitting to her that I've been cheating on her. In the past 2 days, she kept asking me if I was lying to her. Since she's playing games with me, I'll do the same to her.

Anyhow, yesterday she told me that over the New Year holiday, she'll return to Hanoi and take the opportunity to make a passport. Then she'll be able to come to Singapore! Of course, on the surface, I pretended to be happy, but inside I was like ! I will need to break off with her before she flies down!