I Yearn To Return To Vietnam

[Tomahawk]

I was so sad in the past few days when it finally dawned on me that, in rapebill's words, I was no longer Lan's sun. Even though I knew it was a futile attempt to get Lan to talk to me again, I still tried hard to reach her. I even ordered a bouquet of flowers for her, hoping to reverse things (oh yah, I had spent a couple of hundred dollars on gifts for Lan so far). I was so sad yesterday. The pain was excruciating. Still, I had to had maintain a smile on my face, as I was at home with the Queen and baby.

I remember that earlier, I had naively hoped that I would be able to break off with Lan next year, after she got her passport -- of course, the longer she took to come over, the better. I did expect a not-so-good ending to our BGR, but I didn't expect it to end so soon. Also, I thought I would the one dumping her, not the other way round.

Now I know that Lan had been using me. And when she realised I could not give her what she wanted, I was no longer of any use to her. And of course, I have no doubt that though she liked me, she did two-time me.

Maybe the break-off was a blessing in disguise. At least now I don't have to be always on my toes at home anymore. Now that the terror alert situation has eased, the alert level can revert to green. I can finally switch my phone back to General mode. No more Silent or Meeting mode and putting myself at risk of not knowing when my mum calls or when the Queen forwards jokes to me.

Yes, the pain yesterday was unberable. But I definitely feel much better now. Perhaps it helped to pour out my sorrows here. Thanks guys for sticking through the episode with me. If anyone here would like to meet up for lunch in town, I'll bring Lan's pictures along -- I still wonder why she left a stack of photos with me on my last day .

[MiniHawk]

bro Tomahawk, it is better to put everything behind you now, no pts keeping on with her photos. Let everything start new again and dun look back. Anyway, just take it as a short fling. You are still you and there is a saying 'old one dun go, new one wont come'.

[Tomahawk]

Sunday, 4 November 2007. It was about 1:30pm local time. The aircraft was making its way to Tan Son Nhat International Airport. Flying over the Mekong Delta, I was awed by its beauty. During my first trip here at the end of August, I had already noticed this natural geographic formation, but didn't quite know it was a well-known feature in this part of the world. It was after a full weekend over which I wasn't able to reach Lan at all and she explained she had followed her friend Lien to her hometown in Mekong Delta that I knew of the existance of this place. Subsequent checks on the map revealed that this was the very location that I had passed on the way to Saigon two months earlier.

Now, as the aircraft started its descent, my heart was filled with excitement. I had waited for a long time for this day. Returning from the commercial hub of Vietnam in early September, I had wondered when I would be able to return. I missed Lan a lot. I had had a tearful farewell with her during my last day on my previous trip, and so many things had happened since then. In the second half of September, I had shipped a handphone battery and travel charger and to her (I spent a good S$100 then), as I knew her old phone was faulty.

It was during one hot afternoon in Singapore when she called me during a meeting to express her disappointment. "I no want battery. I want phone, you know?" she protested. I had, right in the beginning, told her that I would be getting a battery and travel charger for her, and made sure she understood what I meant. However, when the shipment arrived, it appeared that Lan had gotten less than what she had bargained for. I did not know if it was a ploy on her part to con something out of me, but for the sake of our future relationship, I took the plunge and invested S$398 in a brand new Samsung SGH-E900 from Harvey Norman. Add to that another $36 or so for EMS Speedpost, and I had easily spent almost half a thousand dollars. I noticed a marked difference in her attitude towards me once she got hold of the mobile device. She called me excitedly a week later and we spoke for a good 5 minutes or so. Usually she requested me to call her back in order to save on IDD charges, but not this time. She was full of delight. From then, we had engaged in daily conversations. Sometimes she called, sometimes I did. At the very least, we SMSed each other. On days when I did not call her or when I refused to answer as I was angry with her, she got upset and demanded to know why. One such day, she sounded so desperate in her SMS, "Why yesterday you no call me or SMS me? I miss you, you know?"

And so our daily conversations continued right till the day before my departure. This time, I wanted to play a trick on her. She did not hear from me all of Saturday. Then when I was at Changi Airport on Sunday noon, I sent a quick SMS out. "Sorry darling, I am sick. Yesterday and today I feel no good. I will go see doctor later. Maybe next month I try to go to Saigon, ok? Sorry." Lan's reply came quick and furious. "I don't no you sick. Yesterday you no tell me. You don't come to Saigon, no fonblem. Then I no call you and sms you. Bey." Minutes before I boarded my flight, as I was standing at the gate, I gave Lan a call. Clutching a shopping bag containing a small teddy bear for the sweetheart, I called her.

Me: Darling, I'm sorry. You angry huh?
Lan: No.
Me: I'm sorry okay? But today I'm sick. You know, yesterday and today I don't feel well. I'll see a doctor later.
Lan: It's okay. You don't come to Saigon, it's okay. No problem.
Me: I'm sorry...
Lan: You tell me you come to Saigon. Then I wait until today. But today you tell me you no come.
Me: But I'm sick... You angry huh?
Lan: Yes! I tell my sisters, my mother, my friends you come Saigon. Today morning I go to book the room. Then now you tell me you no come. I go cancel the room.

I got anxious. Lan had booked a room for me at the Lien Ha Hotel and I didn't want to risk having no girl-friendly roof over my head when I arrived.

Me: You mean you have already booked the room? So you are going to cancel it?
Lan: Yes.
Me: Wait, have you cancelled the room yet?
Lan: Yes.

It was time to tell the truth.

Me: Lan, what time is it now?
Lan: ...
Me: Lan, now it's 11:25am in Saigon (it was 12:25pm in Singapore, 20 minutes before my flight departed)...
Lan: I don't know... but you say you come Saigon, now you no come...
Me: Lan! Listen to me. Now it's 11:25am in Saigon ok? Later, 1:50pm, 1 o'clock and 50 minutes, you go to Tan Son Nhat Airport ok? I see you there.
Lan: It's okay. You sick, you stay Singapore ok? No problem...

I was running late. It was only 15 minutes to departure, and the waiting area was nearly empty. The X-ray scanning folks at the gate were watching me as I talked animatedly on the phone.

Me: Okay. I have to go, okay? Later, 1:50pm you go to the airport. I see you there. I'm running late. Byebye!

With that I hung up and made my way onto the aircraft. While on my seat, I sent the girl a couple of messages.

Me: "Darling Lan, anh yeu em lam. I miss you so much. I want to kiss you and hug you."
Lan: "Lan cung the."
Me: "I am on the plane now. Later 1:50pm we meet in Saigon Airport ok? Lan co muon di uong ca phe a Highlands Coffee khong? Heehee..."
Lan: "Co. Em nho anh nhieu lam. Hehehe."
Me: "OK. The plane is flying soon. I cannot talk anymore. See you later, darling. Toi di."
Lan: "Toi di."

During the two months I was in Singapore, I had mastered basic Vietnamese, in part to communicate with Lan more effectively. Of course, it doesn't hurt to master a new language, whether for personal achievement or for career advancement. I hadn't mastered quite enough to be able to hold a decent conversation, but I was able to string a few simple but gramatically-correct sentences together.

The plane touched down in Saigon. I beamed to myself as the aircraft pulled up at the gate. In a few minutes, I would be reunited with my darling. My last trip here, I had come to Saigon on official business, though I had extended my stay by a day. This time round, I did something very bad. I had told my family that I had a project to do here when I had none. Oh my... I didn't expect myself to stoop so low. I was letting everyone down, all because of a pretty 18-year old. I wondered if I would be emotional enough to cry when I had Lan in my arms. I also wondered if I would starved of sex enough to pin her to the wall or wardrobe and lick her all over the moment we checked in to our hotel. I was interrupted in my thoughts by a call. I was still in the aircraft.

A strange number appeared on my phone. 017000. Who could that have been? "Chao em!" I uttered as I walked past the stewardesses who had lined up to say goodbye. Silence. Another call came, this time with a different number, something like 0802100000. "Chao em!" I said again. Again there was silence. I knew it must have been Lan. Why I saw funny numbers instead of her own mobile number, I wasn't quite sure.

I made my way to Passport Control, but not before stopping by a bench and keeping my ring. The last thing I wanted was to give Lan ammunition to fire me with. During the past month, she had questioned me on my marital status and made it clear that she did not want a married man for a boyfriend. She had recounted her bad experience in Hanoi when she found our that her then partner was a married man with a baby. I had come thus far to be with this girl, and I didn't want to do anything that would jeopardise my stay here. I didn't want to lose her. If anything, I was intent on bonking her, after I failed to do so two months before. To put it crudely, I did want to recoup my investments, having spent S$400 on a new Samsung phone for her.

I swopped the memory cards in my phone and camera that contained my family's pictures with less offensive ones. Another call came in.

Me: Chao em!
Lan: Where are you?
Me: I'm in the airport already. But I need to spend some time in Passport Control. You know, Passport Control?
Lan: What time you come Saigon?
Me: I'm here already! But you wait for a while, OK?
Lan: OK...

I was greeted with long lines at Passport Control. While I was fussing around with my phone and camera earlier, another flight had arrived. Before me I could see a large group of footballers from Guam who had arrived on Korean Air. Lan called a few more times. I shut her up with an SMS.

Finally I was done. I picked up my luggage and made my way out of the Arrival Hall. I scanned the people standing outside for my sweetheart but could not find her. Did she not come pick me up? Was there some miscommunication?

I managed to leave the railed area and walked out into the open area, wandering aimlessly. Out of nowhere a bouquet of flowers was shoved into my face. I turned around to see Lan. She was in a knited yellow top and had a smile on her face. As I beamed a large smile she offered an embrace. It felt so nice to hug this girl again. No, I did not cry this time.

Lan led me along as she surveyed the taxis around us. As a local, she knew which ones were good and which were rip-offs. In a minute we were on our way to Lien Ha.

[Reaper]

another one bites the dust........

[Tomahawk]

Originally Posted by Reaper

another one bites the dust........

But hopefully a stronger Tomahawk will emerge from the dust! Hee...

I have been wondering... Some of you guys have been talking about f*** buddies. How do you define a FB? I know there's a no-strings-attached relationship and you do nothing but do it when you meet, but how do you maintain that relationship? Do you ever send any money to these girls in between meetings? I'm quite certain that Tingting in Shenzhen can be my FB. I have yet to meet up with her since she returned home, but I'm quite sure that we'll be able to have lots of fun when I do visit her. I don't send any money to her, but I know I will buy some simple gifts when I visit.

Now, given a chance, how could I have made Lan my FB right in the beginning? It seems that given the circumstances, I had no choice but to make Lan my gf, and I had to lie that I was single in order to be able to secure some bonks. How differently should I have approached her in the beginning?

[Pearl]

Its all learning process dude.

The common pitfall any hot blooded male to get the fairer sex onto bed is to LIE at the outset. Once u made this move, no more FB scenario.

Just be honest at the outset and if chemistry gels, meaning she knows u have a happy marriage and still flirts with you, u made the first step.

Think big but Keep it simple.

[Tomahawk]

I know what you mean, brother Pearl. The problem is, if I didn't lie in the beginning, I risked not getting Lan into my arms at all. If Lan had been a WL at a brothel or massage place, sure, no problem. I could always tell her the truth. The nature of her work would have deprived her of a bf or husband and I could easily fill in the void. But I had picked Lan up in a disco. If I had made it known to her that I was married, I am pretty sure I would not have managed to bed her at all. Then I would have made an empty trip.

To tell the truth, I felt very bad initially when I had won her trust and lied to her. However, now that I know that she has been sleeping around, I don't feel that bad. We had both been playing games with each other.

Tomahawk

[haha_123]

Hi Bro Tomahawk, just by reading your story above, I can also feel the pain in my heart, especially when Lan said: "You don't come to Saigon, no problem. Then I no call you and sms you"!!!!! It must have been very sad and painful for you at the airport, especially when you have lied to your Queen that you were on an overseas trip due to work!!

Anyway, I've been following your story very closely and I felt that all brothers can learn from your lesson as below:

a) Vietnamese girls are never satisfied. Lan asked for a battery handphone charger, then later ask for a handphone. Next she'll probably ask for a computer so that she can chat with you and other people, including other men on the internet.

b) Vietnamese girls think that we foreigners are the ticket for them to get away from their poverty and country. Once I was whisked off by a Vietnamese syt to see her parents the moment I touch down at the airport, eventhough I only met her a few times at a Joo Chiat pub. I guess we foreigners are considered a "Ji Ping" in Vietnam and they can't wait to show us off to their parents and friends. But why should we play along with them?!!

c) As I mentioned in my earlier posts, you'll never know what they are doing behind your back in Vietnam. If you can cheat them, so can they. But they are experts when it comes to making you part with your hard-earned cash, or toying around with your feelings. But at least you managed to bonk her a few times, so I guess you didn't lugi that much also.

d) Lan even returned all the photos back to you. This means that she is determined to break all contacts with you, and she can then hook up with other unmarried men!!!

e) I'm glad that you have emerged stronger after this episode. But I have a hunch that the same thing will happen to you again the next time you met a sexy syt again. When will you ever learn to "hit and run"?!!!

f) As I mentioned in my earlier posts, we will need to eventually return to my Queen and baby at the end of the day. Sadly I didn't read anything about you buying gifts from Vietnam for your family, nor do I read about you feeling guilty to your family. How can this be!!!!!

g) I'm sure you'll still feel hurt by this episode. But life goes on. Never give up an entire forest because of 1 tree. Besides, you still have a Queen and baby that loved you deeply, and very much dependent on you for support.

Lastly, Bro Tomahawk, thank you very much for your very touching story. Like they say, "love is blind" and "short pain is better than long pain". Anyway, I wish you all the best, to you and your family.

[MrDevil]

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

Now, given a chance, how could I have made Lan my FB right in the beginning? It seems that given the circumstances, I had no choice but to make Lan my gf, and I had to lie that I was single in order to be able to secure some bonks. How differently should I have approached her in the beginning?

There is always a line to be drawn if you intend to further the r/s or just a sweet holiday. From the start, you were assuming that she could be a GF material, instead of just a FB or fling. Otherwise, you won't have put it so much effort, time and money to maintain and continue the r/s.

Unless you looking to increase your investment on her even further, otherwise this is the best and sweetest ending you could get. Just imagine if she accepted your marital status but demanded even more attention, time and money? How would you manage your time, attention, emotion, financial and responsibility equally well on both sides? Would you risk your family happiness for her?

If you get a chance to return to Vietnam or any other poorer country, continue to explore further beyond the WL venue, I am sure you will find plenty more LAN. The storyline will be about same and soon you will realised these are all just part of the game and you got to play the game by its rules. That is to enjoy the sweetness of the moment while you can and give up when time reached.

[Tomahawk]

Hello haha_123, let me respond to your points one by one. A couple of corrections are in order.

Originally Posted by haha_123

It must have been very sad and painful for you at the airport, especially when you have lied to your Queen that you were on an overseas trip due to work!!

No lah. I didn't feel any pain at all, because I knew that I was only playing a trick on Lan mah. I was sure that both Lan and I would be happy to see each other when we met.

Originally Posted by haha_123

a) Vietnamese girls are never satisfied. Lan asked for a battery handphone charger, then later ask for a handphone. Next she'll probably ask for a computer so that she can chat with you and other people, including other men on the internet.

No. Lan never asked for a handphone charger. In fact, right from the beginning, Lan didn't ask for anything at all. She brought me to that unnamed hotel on my first trip, and she didn't ask for money. She didn't take the wallet that I had left on the dressing table as I had my bath. Even on the last day, during that tearful farewell at the airport, she didn't ask for anything. I bought the battery and charger for her on my own accord, because I knew her old phone was giving problems. The strange thing is that even though I made it clear I was only giving her these accessories, she thought, or perhaps she "thought" I was giving a new phone. Maybe it was only from this time that she saw the "Robert" potential in me? I don't know. But I gave her the benefit of the doubt. For the sake of future bonks, I bought a new phone.

Originally Posted by haha_123

b) Vietnamese girls think that we foreigners are the ticket for them to get away from their poverty and country. Once I was whisked off by a Vietnamese syt to see her parents the moment I touch down at the airport, eventhough I only met her a few times at a Joo Chiat pub.

Agree with you on this point. I would like to know your experience. How was the meeting like, apart from the fact that you bi shou hua jiao? How did you end the relationship eventually?

Originally Posted by haha_123

c) As I mentioned in my earlier posts, you'll never know what they are doing behind your back in Vietnam... But at least you managed to bonk her a few times, so I guess you didn't lugi that much also.

Precisely! That's why I was intent on continuing to play the game and get something in return. I had a few scares along the way though. You'll read in the next few instalments of the story what actually happened.

Originally Posted by haha_123

d) Lan even returned all the photos back to you. This means that she is determined to break all contacts with you, and she can then hook up with other unmarried men!!!

Nope. The photos that she passed to me on my last day weren't my photos, nor were they photos of the two of us. They were pictures of Lan and her colleagues from Bar Stop. Some of them were taken during their holiday in Mui Ne, and others were taken during Chau's wedding. If you remember, Chau was a Mandarin-speaking colleague of Lan's. So, those were entirely Lan's personal pictures. I'm not sure why she gave them to me. But I won't discard them. Though I had a painful episode, I still want to retain some memories of this short-lived sweetness.

Originally Posted by haha_123

e) I'm glad that you have emerged stronger after this episode. But I have a hunch that the same thing will happen to you again the next time you met a sexy syt again. When will you ever learn to "hit and run"?!!!

I probably won't! Haha... Okay, seriously, I have to learn to let go at some point in time. I have this soft spot in me that tells me to chase skirts when I meet them. Yesterday, when I was feeling blue, I called up my girl in Bangkok. I had met her at the Embassy Lounge in March. She was so elated to hear from me, and honestly, each time I speak with her, I find that she's so much more sincere than Lan. She asked when I would go visit her, and asked me to be with her during her birthday (January). I told myself to not fall for her like what happened between me and Lan. I want to declare that I'm already married. But I'm waiting for the correct time to do that. I think I'll do that only when we meet face-to-face.

Originally Posted by haha_123

f) As I mentioned in my earlier posts, we will need to eventually return to my Queen and baby at the end of the day. Sadly I didn't read anything about you buying gifts from Vietnam for your family, nor do I read about you feeling guilty to your family. How can this be!!!!!

Not writing anything about buying gifts and feeling guilty towards my family doesn't mean these things didn't happen! I did buy gifts and I'm constantly feeling apologetic towards the Queen, the baby and my parents. It's just that I concentrated my story on the happenings between Lan and me.

Originally Posted by haha_123

g) I'm sure you'll still feel hurt by this episode. But life goes on. Never give up an entire forest because of 1 tree. Besides, you still have a Queen and baby that loved you deeply, and very much dependent on you for support.

Yes, I know that. In the past few days, I thought my investments in learning basic Vietnamese had gone sour. And I was pondering if I should pick up Thai instead. Then I told myself that I will soldier on and master Vietnamese well (a shipment for higher-level courseware is already on the way actually) and forage again in future, this time with a much clearer head!

Originally Posted by haha_123

Lastly, Bro Tomahawk, thank you very much for your very touching story. Like they say, "love is blind" and "short pain is better than long pain". Anyway, I wish you all the best, to you and your family.

I'm glad that I could help. I am still learning, and I hope brothers will learn from my mistakes too. I apologise for the very cheong hei narration though!

[Tomahawk]

Originally Posted by MrDevil

There is always a line to be drawn if you intend to further the r/s or just a sweet holiday. From the start, you were assuming that she could be a GF material, instead of just a FB or fling. Otherwise, you won't have put it so much effort, time and money to maintain and continue the r/s.
...
these are all just part of the game and you got to play the game by its rules. That is to enjoy the sweetness of the moment while you can and give up when time reached.

I'm not sure why I identified Lan as having gf material in the beginning. When I got close to Tingting in the past, I did like her too, and I was damn sad when she returned home. However, this feeling didn't last more than a week or two. Soon, we started to drift apart, and had it not been for her weekly or biweekly calls, we would have lost contact by now. She does miss me, and I admit that I miss her too. However, I have never sent her a single gift, but I know that we'll bonk like rabbits when we meet. I know she'll be my FB. The background to our relationship is that she had worked in Meiya (GLH) and I had bonked her in a hotel and her Geylang apartment during her stay here.

I think I treated Lan differently because of the need to keep in touch with her following my failure to bed her on my first trip. Had I bonked her at the unnamed hotel, I wouldn't have had the need to cling on to her. It was probably this clinging and the desire to secure future bonks (remember I bought a phone to secure her?) that made me go deeper and deeper. I admit that a major motivator for getting close to her was the fact that she's an 18-year old SYT, someone I would never ever get in Singapore. Looking forward, if I get to meet a SYT like her again, I'm not sure if I would be able to make such a find a FB rather than a gf.

[Tomahawk]

I have something to announce here. I have been thinking hard these two days. I know that brothers here have been asking me to leave the past behind me and look ahead.

At the height of my anger and disappointment over the weekend, I was actually contemplating flying to Saigon to confront Lan. I realised that for all the things that had happened, I had one advantage over her. Because the war happened in Vietnam and not here, I know where she lives, works and plays, but not the other way round. If I wanted to, I could always stalk her and do something nasty to her. I even went as far as to think of grabbing her phone, returning her the SIM card, and smashing the device. Now, thinking back, I realise I had been very childish.

Brother Pearl's post sort of woke me up. I had lied right from the beginning to a girl who had put her trust in me. Yes, I know that Lan had been making us of me (to get a better life) but I had been making use of her too (to get bonks and to a lesser extent, to learn Vietnamese). However, I'm feeling bad about having lied to her. I know I got dumped not only because Lan realised I'm not able to give her the $ that she wants, but also because she's hurt that I had been lying to her. Never mind the intentions behind introducing me to her mum. The fact is, I did betray her trust. If anything, being someone who lives a comfortable life, I should close one eye to her motives and actions. People like Lan and her friends did not ask to be born poor. They do what they have to do to get a better life. Like what you guys say, I should have made Lan my FB. Instead of that, I made her my temporary gf while misleading her into thinking that I was true to her.

I looked back at my own actions and realised that I had been a xiao ren. I am so disgusted with myself for having lied my way to reach some girl's pussy. Why should a man have to stoop so low to do that, don't you agree? I should have been open right in the beginning. Lying doesn't bring one anywhere. Rather than play by the rules, I lied my way through and tricked Lan to bed. In fact, yesterday I even sent Lan a series of not-so-nice SMS while still pretending to be on a high moral horse. I know that right after finding out about the Queen, Lan was already disheartened and disappointed, but still put on a brave front. She acted like nothing had happened and went on to introduce her friends to me and even shopped with me for the baby's clothes. She could have abandoned me or even confronted me, but she chose to suffer in silence and to accompany me right till my departure, then do a silent farewell. And I had the cheek to demand to know why she did not explain things properly. Her actions and mine made me hate myself more. Having made a grave mistake, a man should be gracious enough to apologise. I intend to say sorry and ask for forgiveness.

Apart from making myself feel better, this would also make things less awkward when we bump into each other (and Lan's friends and colleagues) again in future. I know I will visit Saigon again. I will visit Bar Stop and Lan's restaurant again. Avoiding these places doesn't solve the problem. I also want to ward against having anything happen to the Queen and me when we visit Vietnam in future or when Lan comes over to Singapore (though this is unlikely to happen). Like what Chinese say, no matter what happens, we should always hao lai hao san.

I hope I have you brothers' support on this.

[blue_swatch]

Finally i managed to read wat happened. Well, time to move on and back to reality my friend. It must have been hell of an experience aye?

Im rushing now, will post more later when I can.

[Pearl]

Originally Posted by Tomahawk

I have something to announce here. I have been thinking hard these two days. I know that brothers here have been asking me to leave the past behind me and look ahead.

At the height of my anger and disappointment over the weekend, I was actually contemplating flying to Saigon to confront Lan. I realised that for all the things that had happened, I had one advantage over her. Because the war happened

Apart from making myself feel better, this would also make things less awkward when we bump into each other (and Lan's friends and colleagues) again in future. I know I will visit Saigon again. I will visit Bar Stop and Lan's restaurant again. Avoiding these places doesn't solve the problem. I also want to ward against having anything happen to the Queen and me when we visit Vietnam in future or when Lan comes over to Singapore (though this is unlikely to happen). Like what Chinese say, no matter what happens, we should always hao lai hao san.

I hope I have you brothers' support on this.

It takes a brave man to admit his wrongs.

From someone that has gone through all your motions now, I have this to say:

Just close this episode and move on. No point apologizing since the damage is beyond repair. If u still want to see or bed her, throw her money. That is the only way. Hard facts but true.

Lose this LAN u will have other LANs to work it out.

Cheers and good luck with your future LANs.

[longwinter]

l am sorry, tomahawk brother, as lately l hav been a bit busy wif my work stuff. yupps read abt ur incomin msg to ask for my own opinions.

l didnt mean anything, serious. Jus a bad feeling l developed as l continue to read ur stories. l tink the feelings l had, sum brothers in here had oreadi commented it out le.

l tink u should put it to a stop if possible.

there are a few things l suspect, l tink u oso noe it urself.

That this gal, lan, u say she noe the locations of hotels, fro this, u can see tat, she frequent hotels alot, isnt this suspecting. The possibility of her going out wif other guys to hotels cant be ruled out.

And oso, fro ur post, l could see tat she didnt try to probe abt ur stuffs. In my own humble opinions, l feel tat if a gal is really into u, she will surely like to noe more abt ur stuffs, to hav a better understanding abt u. U may term it as their culture of not trying to probe into other ppl stuffs. But certainly l dun tink tat this had to do wif culture thingy.

Summore, she keep asking u for things.

But anyway Tomahawk brother, wadever advices me and the other brothers in here had given u, u can jus listen. Cos l noe had a feeling for lan, and it is impossible to forget a person or break off wif her when u both had spent sum happy and quality time together. right?

U can still follow ur heart and do wadever u deem, but if u smell troubles, do get away asap.

Anyway ur stories really interesting,l had read ur stories of tingting and this one. From the start to the end. Learned sum tinz fro u as well.