Discover GF Disappointed Past

[BMW69]

I agree that the news is hard to handle and breaking up would be the initial reaction. But I suggest that you take a step back and get her to check for STD and ensure that she does not continue to sleep with other men while she is in a relationship with you. Slowly let her build your trust again. If she manages to do that, I'm sure all will be well I wish you all the best

[MindFucked]

Originally Posted by disappointedbyu

Dear all,
Recently I'm very disturbed by my GF's past.
I discovered tat she had slept with 20 men, be it from ex-bfs, potential guys to-be bf, customers, and one night stand.

I love her lots but it seems that I can't forget her past.
Anyway, have similar experiences n manage to get over?
Wat u guys suggest?

You are childish. SO what? You expect a virgin? If so go KK hospital get to know your future father in law and mother in law first. Advance booking and wait for 18 years.

[cup112fu]

Hi bro , u r silly . Who u r in the past before u know your girlfriend. Why u bother abt her past if u love her . Come on move forward n give other a chance.

[buigongzai]

Originally Posted by BMW69

I agree that the news is hard to handle and breaking up would be the initial reaction. But I suggest that you take a step back and get her to check for STD and ensure that she does not continue to sleep with other men while she is in a relationship with you. Slowly let her build your trust again. If she manages to do that, I'm sure all will be well I wish you all the best

nice advice.

honestly darn curious how you found out. The tough part is when she told you so herself. The honesty means a chance should be given yet her past will haunt you a lot. Are u just the 21st guy? will she sleep behind your back? simple but hurtful question.

Lots of sacrifices and hardwork to build back the rs unless you can just ignore everything and look at the future (but seeing you asked the question you can't). If she was the one that told you the truth, why not let her know your thoughts and see how things go from there. Like many bros here say it is about the present and future. If she can change, is willing to change and put in the effort to build that trust (honestly building trust requires tons of effort) things should be ok

[maxman]

In this day and age of ever increasing westernized liberal attitudes towards sex, it is difficult to find a girlfriend or wife who hasn't already clocked some, or even much, sexual experience with past men in her life. The same can be said of men. I think we should stop kidding ourselves.

Some girls/women know that sometimes they may have to give sex to win a man's love if they are attracted to him, or sometimes a man pressures the girl/woman to have sex. Really, what goes around comes around.

When I was younger, I felt the same way, jealous, angry, disappointed, etc, but not so much anymore as I have come to terms with reality, especially as I age, and the women I meet are also aging.

If any man is very upset about a woman's sexual scoreboard, then go find your next girlfriend in a kindergarten or hospital birth ward, but of course, I'm not serious about this. You get what I mean. You can't just fault a girl/woman for her sexual past just like that.

I agree with another member here who said that the TS should get tested for STDs. In fact, in Australia, this is what doctors and health services often recommend.

[(o)(o) Tuner]

More importantly, is she infected with any sexual disease after sleeping with so many men?

[camry108]

My GF was also not a virgin when she started going out with me, I don't mind coz I wasn't virgin too

From TS description, his gf is at the most liberal (like us men, we will screw every pussies available) assuming she did not do it for $$.

The problem is she still doing it now, and can u trust enough since u can't be with her 24-7

[divedeeper]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

mate.. if u are saint.
dump her and get yourself a new girlfriend.
however if you have been screwing around then you 2 are made for each other.
live with it..

Couldn't say it better myself.

[divedeeper]

Originally Posted by maxman

In this day and age of ever increasing westernized liberal attitudes towards sex, it is difficult to find a girlfriend or wife who hasn't already clocked some, or even much, sexual experience with past men in her life. The same can be said of men. I think we should stop kidding ourselves.

Some girls/women know that sometimes they may have to give sex to win a man's love if they are attracted to him, or sometimes a man pressures the girl/woman to have sex. Really, what goes around comes around.

When I was younger, I felt the same way, jealous, angry, disappointed, etc, but not so much anymore as I have come to terms with reality, especially as I age, and the women I meet are also aging.

If any man is very upset about a woman's sexual scoreboard, then go find your next girlfriend in a kindergarten or hospital birth ward, but of course, I'm not serious about this. You get what I mean. You can't just fault a girl/woman for her sexual past just like that.

I agree with another member here who said that the TS should get tested for STDs. In fact, in Australia, this is what doctors and health services often recommend.

I would like to add that some women - many women - like sex, no differently than men. There's nothing wrong with that. Many men have bonked 20 women or more. Is the gf supposed to be okay with that, but the bf is not okay with her past? I don't think so. If OP is not as experienced as his gf, he should either accept it or move on to find a woman that he can accept. If not, all that matters is that they share the same expectations for the future.

[Tai_zi21]

If you really can't get over her past, Just break up dude! Wat So hard? Not as if ur are married! Accept and love a person for who he or she is! Plenty of gals ard Singapore

[acidicavex]

Like u mention it is the past. Matter now are u willing to give her the chance since u say u love her a lot?

Are u willing to er bygone be bygone. Ask yourself deeper...... U can always dump her! But pls don't come back and post that u new gal is not into sex and is boring in beds etc.

It could be a blessing in disguise who know. if she doesn't go back to her old way. And concentrate to be your one an only giving u the lifetime of experience.

Just my worthless thought.

[AlphaRomeoo]

Originally Posted by disappointedbyu

Hi Guys,
Thanks for the msg. I'm not any saint lah. U know jus that when u want to settle down with tis gal u think she's okie. U realise tat her history.. A bit sore n upset.
But wat u guys said were all correct, if I can't take it then break is a better solution for everyone lor. Sometimes, say is easier than done.
If my frenz asked me, I will give the same answer tat u guys gave.
But when it comes to me.. I'm totally stunt.
Thanks bros.

Hey don't rush it yet. I used to rush things in the past and didn't like to keep my options open as I prefer closure but I have regretted it. I know not all guys can stomach their girlfriend or wife having been with so many guys before but what happens if you really break up with her and you realise you actually do love her but too bad some other guy came along and they fell in love.

A lot of people have this mentality. When a guy sleeps with many girls its okay but when a girl sleeps with many guys it is wrong. I always believe for both gender it is okay.

In the past I also used to mind and wanted a less promiscuous girl but sometimes in life you experience more and more and you get more open-minded. So for now my advice is just go with the flow and continue with what you have. Until one day you really have to make a decision to settle down then you decide again.


Who knows, your decision and mind set might have changed by then and then your problem will automatically be solved.

Cheers wish you the best whatever your decision is but give yourself and her a chance. She does sound like a good catch so...well as long as you don't make any decision you will regret and are happy

[spidey7]

Ts dis will depend on whether u can accept her despite her pasts. If nt break n search again. Does she luv u? W u will she screw ard still?

[taureanwoman08]

Originally Posted by disappointedbyu

Hi Guys,
Thanks for the msg. I'm not any saint lah. U know jus that when u want to settle down with tis gal u think she's okie. U realise tat her history.. A bit sore n upset.
But wat u guys said were all correct, if I can't take it then break is a better solution for everyone lor. Sometimes, say is easier than done.
If my frenz asked me, I will give the same answer tat u guys gave.
But when it comes to me.. I'm totally stunt.
Thanks bros.

Think of the bright side - at least she will know how to "service" you and make you happy in bed.

[Sirrus]

i guess the reason why ur feeling this way is cause ur uncertain of her loyalty.
she seems like alot of fun and thats why ur afraid maybe because you feel that she isnt having as much as fun with you.

but it might be ur perception or it might be true. try and do stuff with her that will prove her loyalty. like doing things that she never would do before but with she is willing to try.