Arranging a playdate with my fwb, her kids and mine

[Nelsonlim]

Originally Posted by MixGrill

Many bros here sure support this arrangement

Haha I’m sure. But no thanks. Still like to keep my pretty wife to myself.

[Nelsonlim]

Originally Posted by okcieMon

You are one big risk-taker for sure. Never under-estimate a woman's 6th sense. You even said it yourself that it is a recipe for disaster.

But of course it's your life and your call. Always happy to hear any updates from you in the other thread. Is this the Jap lady that you mentioned in your other post?

Yes it’s the jap lady. Sometimes we ghost each other because of some arguments. But the sex with her is so addictive.

[Nelsonlim]

Originally Posted by bignehneh

To me, I will do it for the following reasons

(1) Never get caught - sibei song. Play till no horse run
(2) Get caught - scenario 1 (wife may join in so become happier)
(3) Get caught - scenario 2 (wife tulan then nothing happens. Still song for you)
(4) Get caught - scenario 3 (wife tulan and divorce. Then you openly can play the divorced wife and your wife other bro can play)

Above scenario nothing bad for you. Just that

(1) have you ringfenced your assets? I got 1 friend forever playing and I realised he ask his mother to look after his assets. Wife get almost nothing as he has no assets but alimony still have to pay
(2) Do you bear to leave your children with wife? My friend no problem as he feels that his children is mere outcome of his sex enjoyment. He buys them expensive gifts but didn’t really care about them so he let his ex wife have his children

My 2 cent worth

Thanks for your breakdown. I think one important point you shared is my kids. There was a point in time during my heist with her that I was seriously contemplating to leave my family for her and her kids. But looking back now I’m glad I didn’t. She being Japanese, there are still quite a few major cultural differences and values compared to SG.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Nelsonlim

Thinking of arranging a play date with my fwb, her kids, and mine. Im married and she is divorced.

It can be a big taboo for divorced ladies too. Many marriages end in bitterness. Her kids may already be exposed to negative comments about their mum from the father's side of the family. Then the mum keeps introducing different 'uncles' to their lives. These 'uncles' come and go frequently. It will create a negative impression of their mum for these kids.

I feel divorced ladies can be more sensitive about the guys they introduce into her kid's life.

[itguy2008]

Bro, before I comment, what do you intend to achieve out of the play date?

Don't tell me you plan to see if your kids can get along with her and her kids?

Does not quite make sense right?

[Upsilon]

I think it is a bad idea.
Your wife was fine with the other lady cause the other lady is married and still with husband, unless you had something going on with the other lady too ?
But this divorced lady, maybe your wife will not suspect, but she may notice.
And that is the last thing you want.
Imagine things get fked up and either one ladies sought the other out.
Going to be quite the scene for you to deal with.

[deathnitez]

My friend did what you plan to do end up wife found out......burnt!!!

[Morava]

Why play with fire ?
Getting burnt is not worth the kick, or any benefits.

[kt88_2]

What I can say is want to drink milk Don bring a cow back, best is Don do all these if u are married, for single like me anything also ok ,but for u better Don.

[bbm82]

not worth the risk, no matter how u look at it when ur wife suspect or found out u also jia lat.

why risk when u already enjoying

[Rickey]

Why go for a divorced jap as a fwb ??...don't yr pretty beautiful wife as u say sexstify u enough all this while in bed as yr wife ??...worry for u for the worse if yr pretty wife finds out wat u r secretly doing behind her back n pussy ..there seems to be some problems in yr marriage but we don't know wat ?

[Nelsonlim]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Why go for a divorced jap as a fwb ??...don't yr pretty beautiful wife as u say sexstify u enough all this while in bed as yr wife ??...worry for u for the worse if yr pretty wife finds out wat u r secretly doing behind her back n pussy ..there seems to be some problems in yr marriage but we don't know wat ?

It’s my fault to eat outside when having a blissful family. I’m not sure about bros. You may still seek outside when everything at home is ok. It is also a rare encounter to meet a jap lady who is ok to have a physical affair with a married man, and is good at sex. So it’s tempting for me to let go with these conditions. However i understand what most bros say, it is not worth the risk.

[haikim999]

Originally Posted by Nelsonlim

It’s my fault to eat outside when having a blissful family. I’m not sure about bros. You may still seek outside when everything at home is ok. It is also a rare encounter to meet a jap lady who is ok to have a physical affair with a married man, and is good at sex. So it’s tempting for me to let go with these conditions. However i understand what most bros say, it is not worth the risk.

Jus curious if your wife prettier or jap fwb? Who do u enjoy having sex more with? If everything is good with ur family why seek out other fun? You wanna have variety with different ladies?

[Nelsonlim]

Originally Posted by haikim999

Jus curious if your wife prettier or jap fwb? Who do u enjoy having sex more with? If everything is good with ur family why seek out other fun? You wanna have variety with different ladies?

They are both pretty in different ways, my cup of tea, slim body (no flabby arms or thighs), sharp features (uncommon for south East Asians), good complexion. But they are distinct in their own ways physically and mentally.

If I were to choose, sex with the jap lady is better, likely because she watches porn and is “trained” by the other guys (mostly caucasian). Her skills are better, her hands and mouth. Her sex drive is higher. Her moans and expressions are addictive. Also the act of doing it with her is exciting. Sex with my wife is ok too, we still do it often, just that it pales in comparison.

Yes like what you said, enjoy some what a variety, but I prefer not to meet a lot. Just a few who we can have quality time together. Problem with this is we may develop more than just physical attraction.

[MDZY85]

Originally Posted by Nelsonlim

They are both pretty in different ways, my cup of tea, slim body (no flabby arms or thighs), sharp features (uncommon for south East Asians), good complexion. But they are distinct in their own ways physically and mentally.

If I were to choose, sex with the jap lady is better, likely because she watches porn and is “trained” by the other guys (mostly caucasian). Her skills are better, her hands and mouth. Her sex drive is higher. Her moans and expressions are addictive. Also the act of doing it with her is exciting. Sex with my wife is ok too, we still do it often, just that it pales in comparison.

Yes like what you said, enjoy some what a variety, but I prefer not to meet a lot. Just a few who we can have quality time together. Problem with this is we may develop more than just physical attraction.

Somehow I feel u might have develop abit of feeling for her already. If this play date succeed, I am sure you will find yourself planing more of this. Slowly u will feel she is your wife. Dun play with fire bro, it not like your marriage is having some problem. At the end of the day, your wife is the one spending the rest of your life with not the Jap lady. Your jap lady fwb is just a passing ship unless you are serious about her and willing to break ur marriage. If things get serious, you might not be able to handle the consequences.