How to handle a Breakup

[master gecko]

still hurt after 2 months

[MMM88]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

If theres really such technology that could erase off memories, I may not want to. I only wish to erase off memories of my relationship with my ex. Thats all. Heard "holy water" could do just that.

....Holy water ....geezzzz.....i would rather not erase ani memories at all....t beautiful part of being HUMAN is to savour t bitter n t sweet ....

[dominion]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Any guys here can recommend any Chinese monk, Hindu priest or Malay bomoh to chant holy water just to stop one from thinking the past?

Got, called time....

I was once convinced I would love a particular girl forever, and I did even 5 years after losing contact with her. But time heals all wounds and even though she remains special in my heart, and I would marry her anytime, even now, bad memories dont hurt anymore and I just enjoy the happy ones.

[no_faith]

holy water?

juz tinking of having unwanted memories to be deleted to start afresh.

[Xdecepticon]

Thats what everyone say, time will heal. But I am no saint, just plain human who got little patience. Some ppl within a short span of time could overcome the agony of lovesick. But for me, being emotional type, maybe take longer to heal. And thats torturing. And thats why if theres no medical cure for lovesick, may as well seek divine help. Just to forget past episode.

[tk-king]

Originally Posted by tk-king

all of my breakup end up with a patch
i just dunno why

Originally Posted by L P P L

Oh, by patch, u mean hooking up with another ... in this case, yours may not be break up in the strictest sense, bcos there was no emotional attachment in the first place, just sexual.

both my rship broke, patch then finally break again

[just4fun]

i agree with the thread starter steps in alleviating the pain of a breakup...although it cant really make u happy again..but hopefully the pain will subside and life goes on....

just a personal experience....i remembered during my NS days...my ex-gf left me for another guy as I was so freaking busy with work and helping working out at my family business during the weekend and my dad was critically sick at the point of time (anyway...she initiated the breakup shortly after my dad wake - cruel hor ...also my mum passed away just 18 months ahead of my dad)...She complained that i neglected her.. This really broke my heart at that point of time...I was devasted...

But luckily...i had some friends with me at that point of time...which they gave me tremendous support and all companion that i needed.... We were like meeting up for coffee everyday...going out for dinner...so i managed to tide over the darkest period of my life....

So i am suggesting to our bros here....dun hide urself in 1 corner....talk to ur friends and I believe that they will be more than happy to lend u a listening hears...

Time will heal your wound no matter no deep is it...however time cant make u forget abt the happy moments...the scar it caused... Sometime...we really need to apreciate our loved ones when they are still ard....

[Peregrine]

Originally Posted by just4fun

So i am suggesting to our bros here....dun hide urself in 1 corner....talk to ur friends and I believe that they will be more than happy to lend u a listening hears...

Buddies support is important, and you know who are your true friend when one is in need.

[spidey69]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

If theres really such technology that could erase off memories, I may not want to. I only wish to erase off memories of my relationship with my ex. Thats all. Heard "holy water" could do just that.

Bro Xdeception,

U can't really delete the memories all at once.. it will fade over time.. together with it, so will whatever love or hatred u still harbor for that person..

Just get on with your life.. No need to curse her, and also no need to bless her.. just let go and let it be.. u will be surprised what life have install for u later..

Chin up..

[surfer888]

Time will try to heal... yes... but it never completely heals... always a scar depending how bad the fall was. Just when you thought the scar is fading, it finds some way to resurface.

It never heals... just lying dormant waiting for the next silly opportunity to return. We'll just have to learn to deal with it. The only good thing about scars are that they leave your skin thicker.

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Thats what everyone say, time will heal. But I am no saint, just plain human who got little patience. Some ppl within a short span of time could overcome the agony of lovesick. But for me, being emotional type, maybe take longer to heal. And thats torturing. And thats why if theres no medical cure for lovesick, may as well seek divine help. Just to forget past episode.

I think you can find divine help in those KTV ... haha, go find a regular lor ....
These regular, make sure u dump them, not they dump u ....

[Xdecepticon]

[QUOTE=dominion;2050158]I was once convinced I would love a particular girl forever, and I did even 5 years after losing contact with her.QUOTE]


If shes still unattached, theres always HOPE there for you. But if shes already going steady with another guy, that hurts.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by MMM88

i would rather not erase ani memories at all....t beautiful part of being HUMAN is to savour t bitter n t sweet

Even after she dump you for good and left for another guy? Nor..I rather erase all those past memories be it bitter/sweet. Not worth treasuring those happy moments when you know for sure she started and ended the relationship.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by just4fun

...she initiated the breakup shortly after my dad wake - cruel hor ...also my mum passed away just 18 months ahead of my dad)...She complained that i neglected her.. This really broke my heart at that point of time...I was devasted..

Some time I will never understand WOMAN! They tend to follow their heart instead of using their head. Yes, they are cruel and some do have heart of a man.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by spidey69

No need to curse her, and also no need to bless her.. just let go and let it be.. u will be surprised what life have install for u later..

Bro, I dont believe in cursing/swearing. Karma. But I told her what goes around comes around and she was so mad. Now, why would one be mad if they think they are doing the rite thing by splitting? Tio boh? Yes, time will tell whos right and whos wrong.