Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

hahhah, to start up in HCM is seriously not too good for kids. Let me share with you how HCMC makes life difficult for my wife and i.

(1) My twin gals were often sick as the air quality and pollution there is seriously very bad. My twins were regulars at the FV hospital.

(2) when its time for education , international schools cost a bomb. Be prepared to pay more than $1K USD each month, unless you want your kids to study in local schools.

(3) Too much tieng viet is bad for your kid, unless you don't plan to come back singapore anymore. My kids were taught tieng viet when they were in HCMC and when they returned to singapore for education, they were very much slower than their peers. It took them 2 whole years to catch up. I always believe in this, tieng viet is only used in Vietnam and not the rest of the world. Thus, tieng viet has not much commercial value. My children do not speak tieng viet now and they only speak english and mandarin. I want them to master the two main languages before i will consider to let them learn tieng viet. Vietnam's economy, as compared to other chinese speaking terrorities, is still very small. Plus my experiences there tells me that there are too much undesirable cultures linked to it.

Bros may disagree with me as you are now very much in love with the gals and clubs there, but when you start a family and have kids, you may just agree with my views.

hahaha...thank you for sharing...i knew about all these points...of course if the kids are healthy and dun need special medical care...sometimes it is still better for children to play and forget about studies in their early childhood days...they should be able to play in the dirt, longkang, climb trees, catch spiders, etc...let them fall down and still being able to get up before putting them down to regimental Sin education systems...they will appreciate their lives better and even two years behind is still ok lor...i dun wan to feel kiasu...nowadays kids in Sin dun have these opportunities to play like what we used to play in the kampong environment...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Wow.......its even more expensive than everyday chionging pub (beer+tip=$25+$20~=$45*30days)

Now then you know how expensive it is to study in international schools there huh? I think you not ready to settle down yet la, everyday the mind only have beer + tip + cheonging + sex ..... hhahaha

[SingViet]

Year 2002 to Year 2005, i cheong every week in HCMC. Cheong so much and spent so much money. When i say much money, i am talking about 3k to 4K Singapore Dollars each month on alcohol. After getting married and have kids, i go slow on cheonging and alochol, i realised that i can enjoy more and realise more happiness being with my kids and wives. I have not cheong since 2006 in both Singapore and HCMC.

I went to HCMC in 2002 with only S$12K, trying my luck. Now 7 years later, my assets are worth much more than the S$12k i started with. I should thank HCMC for giving me the opportunities to build up my career and family. What i'm trying to say is that brothers should have have directions in life, HCMC is not only for cheonging, its a place where you will find more access to better career and wealth.

There are too many examples of fellow singaporeans in HCMC who hope to find true friends in cheonging but are totally disappointed. These friends only appear when there are drinks to share and disappear when you need assistance. Singaporeans in HCMC telling others how successful they are in their career there, but only turn out to be a pack of lies. `I have a few hundred million USD to buy properties in Vietnam' but turn out to be they are working for property firms , and only earning barely enuff to let them cheong a few nights a month. `I am paid highly to work in HCMC' but turn out to be only a few thousand singapore dollars a month . I have seen too many and heard too many. Eveytime when i am at the business class lounge, i don't see any of these `big earners'.... shame shame.

There's more about Vietnam than just the bars, massage , girls and sex. it takes time to discover. You need to know the right local people... and know the right ways to make them work for you.

Cheers to all brothers who have much interest in Vietnam

[jackbl]

Wow..... u are damn rich

Originally Posted by SingViet

Year 2002 to Year 2005, i cheong every week in HCMC. Cheong so much and spent so much money. When i say much money, i am talking about 3k to 4K Singapore Dollars each month on alcohol.

Eveytime when i am at the business class lounge, i don't see any of these `big earners'.... shame shame.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Wow..... u are damn rich

the fact is that he really rich... but this is relative. it depends on who you comapre with. If compare with you and me, he is damn rich.

did you ever calculate how much you can save if we dun cheong?
I did that calculation, I can save quite alot and can do alot of things (invest, buy stuff) with that money but in the end i still prefer to cheong

different people persue different things in different stage of his life.
at the moment, i think you and me prefer cheonging for different reason.

[jackbl]

Normally I will go with a buddy to cheong, share 1 jug....so each person is about $15. If just count drink alone, its about $500 per month....

Can I be your wingman?

Originally Posted by KangTuo

did you ever calculate how much you can save if we dun cheong?
I did that calculation, I can save quite alot and can do alot of things (invest, buy stuff) with that money but in the end i still prefer to cheong

different people persue different things in different stage of his life.
at the moment, i think you and me prefer cheonging for different reason.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Year 2002 to Year 2005, i cheong every week in HCMC. Cheong so much and spent so much money. When i say much money, i am talking about 3k to 4K Singapore Dollars each month on alcohol. After getting married and have kids, i go slow on cheonging and alochol, i realised that i can enjoy more and realise more happiness being with my kids and wives. I have not cheong since 2006 in both Singapore and HCMC.

I went to HCMC in 2002 with only S$12K, trying my luck. Now 7 years later, my assets are worth much more than the S$12k i started with. I should thank HCMC for giving me the opportunities to build up my career and family. What i'm trying to say is that brothers should have have directions in life, HCMC is not only for cheonging, its a place where you will find more access to better career and wealth.

There are too many examples of fellow singaporeans in HCMC who hope to find true friends in cheonging but are totally disappointed. These friends only appear when there are drinks to share and disappear when you need assistance. Singaporeans in HCMC telling others how successful they are in their career there, but only turn out to be a pack of lies. `I have a few hundred million USD to buy properties in Vietnam' but turn out to be they are working for property firms , and only earning barely enuff to let them cheong a few nights a month. `I am paid highly to work in HCMC' but turn out to be only a few thousand singapore dollars a month . I have seen too many and heard too many. Eveytime when i am at the business class lounge, i don't see any of these `big earners'.... shame shame.

There's more about Vietnam than just the bars, massage , girls and sex. it takes time to discover. You need to know the right local people... and know the right ways to make them work for you.

Cheers to all brothers who have much interest in Vietnam

Wow! Impressive! Did you make your money in the education biz? E.g.
student placements

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by papillon30

Wow! Impressive! Did you make your money in the education biz? E.g.
student placements

Bro, student placements cannot earn you much la. properties and shares investments are the key players

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Wow..... u are damn rich

I do not consider myself rich. I am only middle class.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, student placements cannot earn you much la. properties and shares investments are the key players

Now equity and property markets roaring again. Money is rolling in again.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Normally I will go with a buddy to cheong, share 1 jug....so each person is about $15. If just count drink alone, its about $500 per month....

Can I be your wingman?

You are rich to spend $500 on drinks alone.
I don't drink more than you, so I spend lesser on drinks. How can you be my wingman? I think it should be the other way round

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, student placements cannot earn you much la. properties and shares investments are the key players

everything got a starting point. properties and shares are key player but some do not have that big amount to jump straight to properties.

student placements don't earn much for you, but it means alot for others when they are looking for their 1st million or 500K.

Originally Posted by SingViet

I do not consider myself rich. I am only middle class.

everything is relative.
you consider yourself middle class because you compare yourself with someone higher status or got more $ than you
you will see yourself as rich if you compare to salaried workers like us.

[KangTuo]

While in HCMC, my galfriend tells me a sad story about her cousin, cousin's wife, consin's girlfriend and HIV

Her cousin is married and everyday he will gamble on buying numbers. He don't go to work but put out hands to get money from his wife. His wife works in massage palour to earn money to feed him. As his addiction to gambling go out of control and need more money, his wife got to sleep with other men to earn enough for him to gamble. As a consequence, she caught HIV and also pass it on to him. HIs wife pass away 3 years ago.

Now my girlfriend cousin is in critical condition and will not live any longer than 10 days. His girlfriend, who knows him not for very long but already got his offspring in her womb for 4 months. She still do not know what sickness he is having only till yesterday when my girlfriend tells her. According to my girlfriend, this unborn baby still can be safe from being infected from HIV since it is only 4months. So she brought the gal to the hosipital to have some injection (got to go monthly till the baby is born). 1st payment of $40 is enough for such injection. The girl also went through counceling by the doctor.

I told my girlfriend that if I am in such case, I will just abort the child instead of bring him/her to the world to suffer. But my girlfriend told me otherwise. She say that it is a life inside the body and her cousin also wish to have a child even he dies. Her cousin family also want to have the child so that they can also remember her cousin. My girlfriend even tell the girlfriend of her cousin to look for her if she needs help.

this is the difference in thinking from me and my girlfriend.
Why she think this way?

If bro here are in this situation, what will you do?
If any bros wife is in my girlfriend situation, what will they do?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

everything is relative.
you consider yourself middle class because you compare yourself with someone higher status or got more $ than you
you will see yourself as rich if you compare to salaried workers like us.

Main thing is not about how much money one has, but what one has done to make him feel fulfilled. You may be salaried but if you are happy with what you are now, then you feel fulfilled and satisfied. Happiness is what most people lacked and what most people look for

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

this is the difference in thinking from me and my girlfriend.
Why she think this way?

If bro here are in this situation, what will you do?
If any bros wife is in my girlfriend situation, what will they do?

Even after marrying my wife for 6 years roi, there are still differences in thinking between my wife and i. The way they are brought up is very much different from us. I often find my wife's thinking very KAMPONG. But i have learnt to accept and adapt and explain to her. This makes everybody happy. Even though my wife carries a PINK ID, i still don't find her singaporean in a way or two.. hahha

Most normal singaporean man will think that its better for your cousin's woman to abort the child than to let her suffer in the future. But in VN , they have a very much different idea. No money can find foreigners to chop and feed the child.. hahahha. next being if they are catholic, abortion is out of the question.

2 different countries, 2 different cultures will lead to differences. But true love and endurance will conquer these differences.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

According to my girlfriend, this unborn baby still can be safe from being infected from HIV since it is only 4months. So she brought the gal to the hosipital to have some injection (got to go monthly till the baby is born). 1st payment of $40 is enough for such injection. The girl also went through counceling by the doctor.

Never heard of such treatment...think chances the baby will be HIV positive when born and will be carrier...dun know when the disease will hit and how long this baby will survive...