Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[poop_ant]

ya i also think of let her clear her debts first. She initially also thought that would be a better solution. But im the one who wants to be fast, i cannot take it to have her leaving me for months. I'm so addicted to her with me. If not whats a better solution?
Ask her to study here? it costs like 6-8k.

maybe im single child thats why i need a company so badly. And i definitely know that im not doing this base on impulse. i know she can really be a good wife, her character, the way she interact with my parents, and 1 thing, she speaks chinese and abit of taiwanse as well coz shes been working in taiwan for 4 years coz her family use to do "PI1 FA1" clothes from china to vietnam and taiwan to sell.

[jackbl]

She wants to get ROM first then can get LTVP so that she can stay 6 months or so without returning to VN..... (Am I right???)

Originally Posted by SingViet

let her clear her family debt first then marry her. Not long, just 1 1/2 years

[iCoPuLaTe]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

Out from the 1st topic, may i know what are the steps for a marriage? We plan to get married but the wedding feast be held in a later date.
All i know is we need 2 witnesses, pair of rings, proper attires, guy need tuxedos?
Another friend told me that its better to go ICA to inform them we getting married and so on, dunno the exact procedures..

I only see tis post then reply,so if my post is abit weried, apologies.

Firstly, do understand what pass is she currently having.If its WP, under certain guideline, need to inform MOM bour marriage.(Does not apply to all)
Ifs is normal visit pass, might hv to inform ICA,(again, does not apply to all)

Go internet book date, then go down ROM, they will ask u come for 2 time.Then pronounce u husband & wife. Over Viet side, u gotta sent gifts,feast etc, can call the er dunno wat money to help...Jus pay $ then ok liao.

Then as now u legal married, u sure wan to let her beside u long long time in Sg. The tricky part is the time frame u have when she in Sg from booking of date to AD @ ROM...Gotta do the e-xtend from ica web.
**Once u got the date of AD of ROM, do furnish the date to ROM.(During tis time technically she is Visit pass or wat ever pass she is holding).

For LTVP, remember to hv your 3 years income tax statment (if dun have, do include a letter stating why dun hv which year..can say never reach $30k etc),cpf statment,watever letter from company to state u are currently working in,the nessary doc & VERY IMPORTANT, bring her go see doc..NEED the doctor writing..If your wife pregnant, even better,most prob will get it.

the LTVP form can also download from ICA web, if u dunno, PM me, i gv u the link & tel wat they look out for.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

ya i also think of let her clear her debts first. She initially also thought that would be a better solution. But im the one who wants to be fast, i cannot take it to have her leaving me for months. I'm so addicted to her with me. If not whats a better solution?
Ask her to study here? it costs like 6-8k.

maybe im single child thats why i need a company so badly. And i definitely know that im not doing this base on impulse. i know she can really be a good wife, her character, the way she interact with my parents, and 1 thing, she speaks chinese and abit of taiwanse as well coz shes been working in taiwan for 4 years coz her family use to do "PI1 FA1" clothes from china to vietnam and taiwan to sell.

you believe she worked in taiwan for 4 years? I think the probability of her being married to taiwanese for 4 years is much higher. If her family imports clothes from china to vietnam and taiwan to sell, then she doesn't need to be in the vice trade. Think in a logical way, think with your BIG head, not your DICK. As for company, i feel you are more interested to having sex daily and that's why you are addicted to her. Marriage is not a child's game, if marry the wrong person, the amount of money you lose will be much much more than 6-8k.

[NewandLost]

braddah, something not right. the TW story does not make sense. She know too many languages for a Viet. MAybe "working" in TW in the past or as previous poster states married in TW. Also, you would marry someone who holds secrets meaning the reason for her debt? Your family knows what she does?

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

maybe im single child thats why i need a company so badly. And i definitely know that im not doing this base on impulse. i know she can really be a good wife, her character, the way she interact with my parents, and 1 thing, she speaks chinese and abit of taiwanse as well coz shes been working in taiwan for 4 years coz her family use to do "PI1 FA1" clothes from china to vietnam and taiwan to sell.

Hi bro,

we dun choose to be with someone cos we wanted to fill that emptiness in us. If so, any gals can do it. Choosing a life partner is about being with someone who shared a common goal with you, and are pillars of support during shitty times. That was the reason many folks had advice giving more time to a relationship to understand each other better before marriage commitment.

Vietnamese girlfriend are sweet, but Vietnamese wife can be a tigress at times. Moreover, with the differences in culture as husband and wife often they dun see things eye to eye. So be prepared to have a lot of patience, tolerance and "pyscho power".
Also, you have to be prepared for the financial burden that comes with it after marriage as she may not have much earning power and she most likely have to be responsible for her family financial needs.

Last but not least, I see a great posibility that she was married to Taiwan during the 4 years. So.., you will have to find out about these cos we dun want to see her ended up committing bigamy.

[raibo]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

Hi bros, need some advices really.

Now we also decided to get married, i know its abit insane like some bros here.

One thing she want me to promise her is, i have to let her work for 1 1/2 yr to clear her family debt and im also very clear she mean it when she say no way she will do anything behind my back. She do not want me to interfere her family problem and wants to settle it all herself. Until now, she did not tell me exactly how much debt her family is in and what causes it.

Please advice.

You only know her for some months nia. Don't get marry so fast. Spend more time to think and know her more like what other bros say. You might regret later on in your life.

Now is not old days in china where you can just write a 休书, get her out of your house and you are a free man again.

Thanks to the modern law, it will really cost alot to 休 her.
If you really need her, just fly to vietnam. It alot cheaper..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

ya i also think of let her clear her debts first. She initially also thought that would be a better solution. But im the one who wants to be fast, i cannot take it to have her leaving me for months. I'm so addicted to her with me. If not whats a better solution?
Ask her to study here? it costs like 6-8k.

maybe im single child thats why i need a company so badly. And i definitely know that im not doing this base on impulse. i know she can really be a good wife, her character, the way she interact with my parents, and 1 thing, she speaks chinese and abit of taiwanse as well coz shes been working in taiwan for 4 years coz her family use to do "PI1 FA1" clothes from china to vietnam and taiwan to sell.

I dun think you knew her well enough to marry her...this is a potential mine field you are stepping on....one trip to her house and just a few months of knowing each other cannot verify much of her stories...my sentiment is just believe 50%. If she really loves you then sooner or later you will marry her but take your time to verify to her stories...

[Kefka]

Originally Posted by poop_ant

Hi bros, need some advices really.

Now we also decided to get married, i know its abit insane like some bros here. She really can give me the family feeling, everyday cook for me chinese food etc, making me so addicted. After dinner, she will den go to work and i go fetch her home bout 1am. My parents also like her alot, becoz she is capable of doing housework, cooking etc and she is so automatic.

One thing she want me to promise her is, i have to let her work for 1 1/2 yr to clear her family debt and im also very clear she mean it when she say no way she will do anything behind my back. She do not want me to interfere her family problem and wants to settle it all herself. Until now, she did not tell me exactly how much debt her family is in and what causes it.

I know im walking into a dark pit but i really do not know how to give up at this point of time.... I belive its the same when your playing TEXAS holdem, Now im calling an ALL-iN on river which either misery or happiness.

Please advice.

4 months of relationship is a very short time to consider marriage. Unless got very urgent reasons like shotgun. Or you want to marry her so that you can provide for her and she can stop working as a WL anymore.

But since she still want to work as WL, marry for what???
Maybe this is your first love, which can overwhelm you with feelings and cause you to make illogical decisions. But you really have to think carefully and look at the decision tree you have now.

The consequences include :
1) Able to see her everyday but also send her to lion's den everyday.
2) Overtime, you may grow tired of her and you are glad you didn't marry her.

Time makes a big difference. Don't rush into things especially if you know you are this kind of person. Marriage should last till you die. Also i hope you are wanting to marry her because you pity her, Love doesn't work that way.

[SGtalker]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

I dun think you knew her well enough to marry her...this is a potential mine field you are stepping on....one trip to her house and just a few months of knowing each other cannot verify much of her stories...my sentiment is just believe 50%. If she really loves you then sooner or later you will marry her but take your time to verify to her stories...

Very sound advice !! I think you said it right that inexperienced ones like myself are too anxious.

[Honey Boon]

IMHO, too good to believe. Once they have worked in KTV in SG, more or less they have "changed" or "spoilt" ..... easy money to earn. No matter how deep she "loves" your good friend, she still need to eat. $400 for few months in Vietnam, even though in those country sides, also hard to survive. Either she need to "earn" again back home or get another man to support.

sorry for being a bit busybody....

Originally Posted by Spud_Boy

yup, i gotta agree on it..

personally know of a gd fren's VN girl, who used to work at a ktv in SG.. once with him, she totally stopped working.. all her time is spent either with him or wait for him at home.. totally devoted to him..

they have been together for more than 2 yrs & she's mostly now in VN since he doesn't allow her to work.. no $$ given to her when she's in SG, when she comes occasionally.. but he pays for her lodging & food of cos.. minimal sum of about $400 before she goes back to VN for few months.. really low maintainence..

but having said that, she's the only 1 that i met before who's that gd.. the rest, well.. more bad apples than gd.. also wished my VN girl was like that..

[Honey Boon]

fake name, fake birthday with fake breast .... quite common la

Originally Posted by leecs

I have a Viet WL friend whose passport is fake with a fake birthday.

[leecs]

Nabe! fake breasts? They use syringe to inject silicon into their breasts ah? DIY? wahahaha

[iCoPuLaTe]

@poop_ant.

Sorry for the wait, i kanna maligned in some work issue wid gov bodies, jus come out..

Go see ur PM, is quite step by step, wat to look out for b4 preparing the dates issue,how,where & how to count the time,do what to apply & cost u hv to pay.

I may hv left something out, cos now half of brain also thinking how to fight my own case..lol.

Do let me know if u'r unsure of certain steps.

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

fake name, fake birthday with fake breast .... quite common la

oh...u mean those bouncing about at popular hotspots are fakes?...never get a chance to check/verify leh...just see can PCC liao...terrible heat-wave..(no wonder so many bros having flu - runny nose just by sitting around the places).

Originally Posted by ekemono

Hi bro,

....Vietnamese girlfriend are sweet, but Vietnamese wife can be a tigress at times.

..ah... sweet & tigress in bed -- fine. The more the better...will one begs to stop if the demand is 5-6x?