Met someone online but I'm married

[LeGarcon]

Thanks to the bro who upped me telling me to cheer up. Really appreciate it. Pls send me a PM so I can reciprocate in the future.

To the bro who zapped me saying this: " you are a loser please get lost you are wasting the forum bandwidth with your low life stupid fake story thread" without leaving ur nick, I have no incentive to prove u wrong. All I can say is this subforum is for matters of the heart. So I'm not wasting bandwidth. This story is real but unfortunately u don't believe it. I don't see the need to rebutt or prove anything to u.

[LeGarcon]

Originally Posted by Botakhead

Why do I have the feeling that having FB must be emotionally attached? This is 2 hands clap then got sound logic, both parties must agree to just have sex, hot sex, nothing but sex, especially when those married ones cannot get fulfilment from their married other half.

Better to keep emotions clear from FB, or even FL. Some can even go so far to fall in love with WL to the stage of getting married. I'm not here to put any one down, just to be clear what kind of R/S needed to be emotionally involved.

Got to balance this out, marriage is because, both are 'deeply' in LOVE with each other, then you all proceed to VOW. Of course there are also the circumstances of a shotgun marriage......all done already but not really full hearted marriage.

This is where the society accepted anulment and divorce to be legal binding. Make sure you have enough money to go around the situation.

Whatever the case, be clear of what you are doing, not to hurt anyone in the end.

Thanks bro I'm not thinking of going the divorce route. It's a responsibility I have to shoulder. Will not cause any unnecessary hurt.

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Thanks bro I'm not thinking of going the divorce route. It's a responsibility I have to shoulder. Will not cause any unnecessary hurt.

Perhaps not yet but don't discount that possibility. At some point if things do not improve, it would perhaps be better for you BOTH to reconsider your options. You may have noticed many older couples are really together in name... they don't sit together at dinner tables, don't hold hands and hardly even walk side by side anymore. Evidently, there is no passion, no conspicuous love/romance between them anymore. To get to this point and realise you can never U-turn would be regretable. Am not playing the devil here, we all need to project into the future from time to time just to plan ahead. No point waiting until the inevitable happens and in the process, losing all that precious time when you could have re-charted a different course in life.

As for your child, yes, its a responsiblity you have to shoulder but there are various ways to discharge your duties. Sacrificing your personal happiness for it is sub-optimal.

[LeGarcon]

Originally Posted by nuclearkid

Perhaps not yet but don't discount that possibility. At some point if things do not improve, it would perhaps be better for you BOTH to reconsider your options. You may have noticed many older couples are really together in name... they don't sit together at dinner tables, don't hold hands and hardly even walk side by side anymore. Evidently, there is no passion, no conspicuous love/romance between them anymore. To get to this point and realise you can never U-turn would be regretable. Am not playing the devil here, we all need to project into the future from time to time just to plan ahead. No point waiting until the inevitable happens and in the process, losing all that precious time when you could have re-charted a different course in life.

As for your child, yes, its a responsiblity you have to shoulder but there are various ways to discharge your duties. Sacrificing your personal happiness for it is sub-optimal.

Rational course, I dont disagree. But for now my own happiness is secondary. I'll need to bring up my kid in the best way possible. I'll just have to try and work things out so it doesn't have to go to that extreme.

Sigh. On the other hand, I keep hoping for belle to text me. A simple hello would brighten up my day.

Thanks for sticking with me thus far brothers and sisters. Really appreciate your input. I had no other way to fully vent my frustrations and so far only 1 buddy knows what I'm going through.

[sane]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Rational course, I dont disagree. But for now my own happiness is secondary. I'll need to bring up my kid in the best way possible. I'll just have to try and work things out so it doesn't have to go to that extreme.

Sigh. On the other hand, I keep hoping for belle to text me. A simple hello would brighten up my day.

Thanks for sticking with me thus far brothers and sisters. Really appreciate your input. I had no other way to fully vent my frustrations and so far only 1 buddy knows what I'm going through.

Take care, bro.

[nstern]

Bro are u even certain u 'like' her? Does she even give a flying fuck whether u are waiting for her msgs??? Are you the only one she is whatsapping with?? She's playing with u bro!!! While u down there so silly waiting for her msg, she is busy whatsapping other guys, or even bedding them! Wake up your idea!! Does she even consider u a friend?

Do u even think whatever she told u are from the bottom of her heart? If she really had feelings for u too, so easy to let go of u? Wake up bro. I've been through this before. she may even be reading your thread now and laughing at how she made a married guy miss her. Nice guy like u deserve better. We all do. If she has issues, she should come to terms with them. Just ignoring u is like putting u in jail. I went through this before. I know how u feel but seriously la this girl not worth ur love. We guys have weaknesses. Especially if we are in a dead marriage. She knows u won't even meet her so what's her deal? My guess is as good as everyone else's and that is she was never sincere.

My $1 worth.

[Likeucare]

Originally Posted by Gambit7

Bro, i had a gf of 6 years before and we broke up due to irreconciliable differences and i realised i dont love her anymore cos we always quarrelled without any real constructive solutions. she has her position, and i have mine, which obviously conflicted. I understand how do u feel that love has actually waned when u r too long with someone without any real distance. Therefore, when u found someone that gives u a new love, it's like a fresh thing, a new excitement. Naturally, u will love her more than ur wife at this moment in time. Noone can fault u on that. I was in ur shoe before and i did exactly just that. Fortunately, it was just a gf and not a wife.

However, if u think back, u were in love with ur wife before too!! U love her that's why u married her. She might have changed since then, but to what kind of reasons? Is it cos of ur child? She changed all her attentions to ur child that's why she didn't put any effort into u? Or did she fell to another guy that's why she doesn't care u enough? If it's for ur child, i think u have to understand that. She is right in some way too. U can't fault her for giving attention more to ur child right? Which is also urs?

I think u have to make effort into this and get it to work again like before. Give her some flowers, bring her to candle light dinner, say something nice to her when there's an opportunity, bring her to movies, to a short trip holiday for refreshing, or bring her to the old place where u guys first met. There r thousands of ways to make this thing works again bro. If u love ur child and wife, stop messing around with people that can destroy them. Ur wife is the real person u can depend on. There's no girls better than ur own wife.

wow Gambit7. u r such a sweetheart if only all married guys use their f*king head to think before starting out on anything. the divorce rate would drastically drop le.

[Likeucare]

Originally Posted by Botakhead

Why do I have the feeling that having FB must be emotionally attached? This is 2 hands clap then got sound logic, both parties must agree to just have sex, hot sex, nothing but sex, especially when those married ones cannot get fulfilment from their married other half.

Better to keep emotions clear from FB, or even FL. Some can even go so far to fall in love with WL to the stage of getting married. I'm not here to put any one down, just to be clear what kind of R/S needed to be emotionally involved.

Got to balance this out, marriage is because, both are 'deeply' in LOVE with each other, then you all proceed to VOW. Of course there are also the circumstances of a shotgun marriage......all done already but not really full hearted marriage.

This is where the society accepted anulment and divorce to be legal binding. Make sure you have enough money to go around the situation.

Whatever the case, be clear of what you are doing, not to hurt anyone in the end.

Wow really.. watch friends with benefits.. don't think sex can be really that unemotional especially when u sorta knew each other its not those prostitute kind u know. how not to feel hurt in the end. by the way even if the ger try to remains unemotional sooner or later she will feel the need to bond.. even if the ger already has her heart carved out, the guy still falls for the ger sometimes...

if only our so always try to make everything better... sex with yr SO is tha hard ah? so weird. maybe only asians got this kind of shit problem.

[aerogun]

Wow. I can say that I feel you bro, because I went through roughly the same thing. Except that my wife has still been loving and all. I am happy with my wife and our 20mnth old son, yet I crave for this girl's touch ever since we cut off communication after I got married. and oh, I got to the first base with her just 3 months ago. I felt bad

Anywayyy..back to your case..I feel that you yourself deserve some love and dignity as well. Your wife is not treating you well; it's either you let her know through subtle means , or firm ones. You are after all the head of the family; if she doesn't budge, she's a liability to your very foundation of a happy family. as for your lover, just go on (discreetly) until a certain phase looms up..hmm not much of a help there ey?

[LeGarcon]

Originally Posted by aerogun

Wow. I can say that I feel you bro, because I went through roughly the same thing. Except that my wife has still been loving and all. I am happy with my wife and our 20mnth old son, yet I crave for this girl's touch ever since we cut off communication after I got married. and oh, I got to the first base with her just 3 months ago. I felt bad

Anywayyy..back to your case..I feel that you yourself deserve some love and dignity as well. Your wife is not treating you well; it's either you let her know through subtle means , or firm ones. You are after all the head of the family; if she doesn't budge, she's a liability to your very foundation of a happy family. as for your lover, just go on (discreetly) until a certain phase looms up..hmm not much of a help there ey?

Lol bro frankly speaking really no help. Cos my wife is gone case. In fact just quarrelled again. And this belle is not my lover. She hasn't replied my texts since I told her i am married. So... Really not much help haha but appreciate it bro

[LeGarcon]

Sigh. I miss her terribly.

[redhun]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Sigh. I miss her terribly.

Can totally feel for u! Whn ur marriage ucks, makes you even more vulnerable.

[bonkning]

misery loves company...

it feels good to know dat i am not alone getting all these shit ...
your wife sounds like my wife's twin...

difference is i have no kids...and i think mine is a little tiny tweeny bit better.
sorry this is no consolation for u ...but basically we are in the same shithole...helpless...

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Sigh. I miss her terribly.

Relapse, huh? Write Belle off... and if you really think you would like someone to talk to, start writing around. Do put in some effort with you do so. I have a friend who asks why people don't reply? Obviously when he writes with such obvious indications that he is penning from his loins, how many girls would actually reply? Be sincere when chatting, you will find Belle's replacement soon enough.

Write Belle off...Paiseh, said it twice but you are mind fucked.

[hotstuffm8]

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