How to handle a Breakup - Page 4

Xdecepticon · #46 28-05-2007, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by TD042

The only way to forget all those bad memories is to find other gal to replace the old one.

That sure lead to another disaster, IMO. Cant just simply pick any Jean, Jane or Mary. We are talking about emotion/feelings. Dont wish to have history repeating itself. Not easy to find one who share same common interest (like my ex).

Horny Gents · #47 28-05-2007, 07:22 PM

My GF dumped me early this year. Gone through the hard times only for a little while. I coped it well by doing things that I miss and love to do, which normally cannot do it when I am with my GF, ie fishing, meet up with some of my mutual friends whom she does not like, play Big-2 with kakis, go Batam ...... etc. It really made me feel better and find new lease of freedom.

#48 28-05-2007, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by dominion

I was once convinced I would love a particular girl forever, and I did even 5 years after losing contact with her.QUOTE]

If shes still unattached, theres always HOPE there for you. But if shes already going steady with another guy, that hurts.

Huh, hao ma bu chi hui dou cao ...

If she dump you, never go back, that means u are not her best choice, there will always be somebody better ... then get ready for more heartache

#49 28-05-2007, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

That sure lead to another disaster, IMO. Cant just simply pick any Jean, Jane or Mary. We are talking about emotion/feelings. Dont wish to have history repeating itself. Not easy to find one who share same common interest (like my ex).

But if you dont try how u know whether they are right for you or not ....

#50 28-05-2007, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Bro, I dont believe in cursing/swearing. Karma. But I told her what goes around comes around and she was so mad. Now, why would one be mad if they think they are doing the rite thing by splitting? Tio boh? Yes, time will tell whos right and whos wrong.

If u really believe in Karma, u shouldnt be here leh ...

Classbonk · #51 29-05-2007, 02:15 AM

Guys I am wondering is this a lousy thread?why i got zap for starting this topic?kenna zap (This is a SEX forum not a Love or Relationship forum, go elsewhere - Mr Kwai Lan!)

Xdecepticon · #52 29-05-2007, 07:58 AM

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Originally Posted by No Sex

If u really believe in Karma, u shouldnt be here leh ...

Karma exist in all religion but I am neither a saint nor a monk.

Presto6969 · #53 30-05-2007, 03:35 AM

I agree that time is the best cure. But time just seems to crawl when I'm in that situation and I freaking hate it.

The tauntings will come during weekends coz' they usuals will not take place anymore. It's best to find someone to hangout with, talk till the cows come home, head home, shower and sleep.

Honestly, it's damn easy to say than done. Those who have been there, done that will truly know what I said. Friends around you will always tell u not to think about it. Yes, we won't think about it when they are around. Sadness sets in when we are alone.

We jz gotta be strong, plan the whole freaking week with activites and time will pass real fast.

Eunuch · #54 30-05-2007, 09:50 AM

There is nothing you can do except wait it out ... instructions in first page is good ... but ultimately depends on you ..

sleaguepunter · #55 30-05-2007, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

If love so great, and age knows no boundary then why the parent must come into the picture? But I always believe theres only one mum/dad. So I let her go but deep inside, i feel rotten to the core. Will never find another similar her.

Bro Xdeception,

i gone through the same thing, steady for 2yr then kenna dump becuz she dont have the "feel" anymore. It she who want to start this relationship in the first place, at first i a bit not keen as she 7yr younger than me and still got a bf who was a sec schoolmate.

So she dump that school bf of hers and started with me. One of my friend cautious me that i could be the next guy she dump. Nabei, my friend words came true.... She started working at a new company and start her HR course, within two months tell me we were not suitable for each other. While i am no saint myself but whatever wrongs i did during the relationship were minor.

So i kenna close out of her life. Took me over a year to get over it. I dreaded the coming of weekend. Most my friends either married or attached, so i would have to be alone during weekend. Either stuck at home or go online computer cafe to play counterstrike. Imagine a 27yo spent his weekend playing counterstrike. To be true, i suck at counterstrike, only play becuz can vent my frustrations at the coms. Furthermore, the actions and loud sounds can block off the brain function to remember her.

I dont agree time can heal everything as memories will always be there. Never try to erase the memories as it will never work. All you can do is try to put them in the deepest corner of your brain and try, i repeat, try not to dig them out too often. Get something to do, things you enjoy doing before your relationship. If your wallet allow, go on a overseas trip, backpacking either with friends or alone. Who knows, some thing good may fall on your lap during your trip. It can happen, as it happen to me when i go taiwan alone.

Milf Lover 2 · #56 30-05-2007, 05:28 PM

In real life its damn hard to find someone loving each other.Life is so unfair when u like somebody she dun like u.She likes u but u hav no feel or crush on her.it always like tat.

Best way to handle breakup will be time passing by together with yr close friends. Till u find the right one appear makes u 4get yy ex.......
Well tis is life still ought to move on

Xdecepticon · #57 30-05-2007, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by sleaguepunter

I dont agree time can heal everything as memories will always be there. Never try to erase the memories as it will never work.

Bro, like one bro told us be it bitter or sweet, its part of a relationship and its meant to be kept and treasured. Whats the point of treasuring it when I know shes already attached with her new found bf. Thats why I wish to erase our past relationship memories for good. And I understand holy water may just help. But we got to have total faith in it.

chinmafan · #58 31-05-2007, 12:44 AM

guy will got hurt so easy meh?? usually after 2 KTV 1 massage i will forgot abt my breakup liao.

life must still go on.

woman...chinmafan

boy_ · #59 31-05-2007, 08:13 AM

haha. bros, to honest, girls really are chin ma fan. they r not troublemakers. they are firestarters. if u really love someone, let them go. if she returns, means ur meant to b, if she doesnt, all it means is tat, she was nv yours to begin with. tis is really true, if a girl truely loves u, she will b there for u no matter wad takes place, affair, or wadeva. she will for-look all ur past n future. like wad bros said, when someone loves u, u will nv treasure it, u will onli cherish n regret after he/she has left.

EvilInside · #60 31-05-2007, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Presto6969

I agree that time is the best cure. But time just seems to crawl when I'm in that situation and I freaking hate it.

Time can cure but the scar remain there to be remember. Somehow one will think back about the past too...