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Re: Met someone online but I'm married
Hi threadstarter,
From what you mentioned, you are such a wonderful husband. If there are more husbands like you around, how nice will it be! Is it possible to have a talk with your wife? Sometimes human beings don't see how horrible they become after years of being with someone. Also forget Belle. Its just a brief emotional connection you felt with her. You still have a kid to take care of. For the sake of your child, make your marriage work! |
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Thanks sis. Ur 10 years is even more miserable than my one, two months. I respect u for that.
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I have spoken to some people online after this episode. I guess I'm in this rut cos I'm not looking to replace her. Normally I don't get this attached to online chatters. So i guess she really is someone special to me (of cos, it's my own POV, she probably has already buried my name away). So no, I'm not chatting online anymore. Thanks for the honest advice bro. Would up your points if I could. Really appreciate it. |
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Thank you for your kind words and I wish you the same. |
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I am trying my best to put her deep in the abyss of my mind. But really, I sometimes read the entire 6 weeks of conversation with her and can't help but feel a lil warm and fuzzy inside. Pardon my indulgence here. What I experienced with belle, I don't experience anymore with my wife (up to now at least). Yes for my kid I'll do anything. When push comes to shove, for his happiness his old man has to sacrifice his own. Thanks for the advice sis evildolly. Really appreciate it. |
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LeGarcon,
Pardon me if someone has already said this... Brief relationships come and go especially in this day of social media. For the sake of your sanity and to stop yourself from going crazy thinking too much, I would suggest you move on and not think too much about Belle. Concentrate on your role as a father if you really like kids. Talk to your wife too... I'm sure she has redemning factors. Look on the bright side.... your reward with doing all the feeds and diaper change is that your kid will be dam tight with you. Enjoy that. -J |
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Then you should make yourself busy so that you do not have time to think about her. Actually, you cannot sacrifice your happiness for the sake of your child. You would not want your kid to grow up in a family where they see parents having frequent cold wars / fights. The child will not be happy. Thats why I said you have to make your marriage work. Some suggestions could be: 1. Have a heart to heart talk with your wife 2. Have one to one dates with your wife. 3. Lastly, stop giving in to your wife. She has to learn to be reasonable. Never mind if she kicks up a huge fuss but stay firm. (not sure if it will work though) All the best! |
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I'll be a bastard for once.
I've noticed the style you write. I can say most girls will be attracted to your honesty. Since you cannot forget Belle. Write it out. Write out your everyday thoughts since you cut it off with her that day/night. Compose it carefully and mail to to her. You can't let it go, you'll never be free. But you must promise me, once you let go, never look back. This is the rule of the game. The idea is to release your emotions about her. Fcuk it if she bothers or not. Not important. Important is you said how you feel, be happy about it and go. Life should be without regrets, and get back to your duty being a husband and father. Good luck and will pray for you bro! |
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Yes I love kids really. But nowadays I'm getting very ill-tempered because of my work n THIS ISSUE. I really need to settle my emotional baggage. Bros here are right, belle is only someone who crossed paths with me briefly. I shouldn't let it manifest into a big problem that affects the well being of my family. She could be the right person at the most bloody wrong time. Again I thank u bro epicurean. I'm actually very surprised at the level of compassion and empathy I get here. This proves that men here aren't just here for sex related activities. We are capable of support! Quote:
I'm now trying to show her more attention, and i am more firm in my actions. No more letting her shit on my head now. Need to tame the shrew and turn her into a nice caring wife. Not quite there yet but I'm beginning to see a little improvement. thanks again sis evildolly Quote:
And just in case anyone's interested, no I cannot disclose the blog, cos it will definitely ID me and her. I hope bros could respect my need for privacy here. JuzNiceM, u sound like a 过来人, I suppose u used this method to get over someone? I'm sure it helped u that's why u recommend it. Thanks very much for sharing. And yes I will concentrate on being a good dad and hubby. Thanks for praying for me n good luck in whatever you do too |
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If only married women also do the same.
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feelings openly and freely. I really feel so bad now.. I feel punished for being completely honest and open. I'm never one to hide away with feelings regardless of any matters but I guess maybe I should refrain revealing too much just so the other party won't be affected. I jinxed the innocent friendship I thought I've found. Never been treated this way before ever and so feel really upset. . he was a great distraction from whatever shit thoughts I had prior to knowing him. He was a great small pillar. He also reminded me of myself when I was at his age. He was like a combination of all that I've experienced minus those bad stuffs I've been through.. So yes, a blog should help as an avenue to channel whatever leftover feelings I have.
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Your goal is your wife, and you are hunting for belle(s) because you feel the one at home has already been hunted and do not need to hunt anymore. Start seeing her as someone attractive, use whatever limited imagination to imagine her being sexy once more, how her boobs have become bigger with the pregnancy and if there are some distance, how do you chase her and woo her again as if u just met her at some pub or some orientation camp. You will fail, because she knows your weakness and your ugliness like nobody else (except maybe your ex gf) but don't give up because it fails but let it motivate u, to fine tune your methods and approach. keep trying and eventually u'll be too tired to notice other belle. that of course is just imo how a hubby should be to sustain a marriage or any relationship.
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You are not alone bro,i had since get used to it and stay together because of the kid sake...
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