How to handle a Breakup - Page 5

bernie · #61 31-05-2007, 02:08 PM

the worst is when u r staying 2geter. the process of her moving out is damn dificult 2 cope wif. n when u r alone in the rm tinking of the past n looking at her stuffs n photos......... realy heartache.......... the feeling is so difficult 2 describe.. n it jus cums ........v dificult 2 avoid......

mykhel13 · #62 31-05-2007, 03:06 PM

sigh... thread starter bring out my sad memories.

actually how i started on SBf was from my last break-up. feeling lost and sad, I surfed to all kinds of websites due to having too much time on hand. I found SBF by chance and has since been a regular reader, though I don't contribute much. I got dial-up, so no patience to upload stuff.
Well, recently getting depressed again coz i feel another break-up is coming my way... sigh. I detest the thought of initiating it but my GF has recently been so cold towards me. Said she's busy with work but I know she's got some other guy who's she's interested in now. Wanted to talk things over last night but she SMS me say she tired, can talk some other day. Then she went out with the guy!!

damn. i am one stupid fuck... so I guess a breakup is it. wish me luck fellows

Xdecepticon · #63 31-05-2007, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by bernie

n when u r alone in the rm tinking of the past n looking at her stuffs n photos......... realy heartache.......... the feeling is so difficult 2 describe..

Not to mention when listen to certain songs it also reminded me of her. Misses her calls/sms too. Love sick quite unbearable at times.

Xdecepticon · #64 31-05-2007, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by mykhel13

I detest the thought of initiating it but my GF has recently been so cold towards me.

but she SMS me say she tired, can talk some other day. Then she went out with the guy!!

Bro, let it go lah. Dont end up like me, 7years! Infact 3yrs back she already gave the sign that we cannot be together. Stupid sentimental fool me keep dragging till early this year when we got a real heated argument over our relationship. Now been 4mths plus since our last contact, still cant get over it.

sleaguepunter · #65 01-06-2007, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Bro, let it go lah. Dont end up like me, 7years! Infact 3yrs back she already gave the sign that we cannot be together. Stupid sentimental fool me keep dragging till early this year when we got a real heated argument over our relationship. Now been 4mths plus since our last contact, still cant get over it.

Bro Xdecepticon,

slowly lah, only four months, took me almost 2yrs. U abt same as my NS friend. His ex gf from secondary school till his NS. almost 7yrs, she outside working while he stuck in camp. last time HP just come out, very expensive, can only use the pay phone at coyline to call.

On the last yr of his NS, the gf know new guy and dump my friend. He was desvated, from a cheerful guy to a guy who stare into space from his bunk. Whole platoon was worried for him. Even after Ord he still very sad. Took him 3yrs and GOD to help him get over it. Of course it help as he found his present wife at the church.

Peregrine · #66 01-06-2007, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by bernie

the worst is when u r staying 2geter. the process of her moving out is damn dificult 2 cope wif. n when u r alone in the rm tinking of the past n looking at her stuffs n photos......... realy heartache.......... the feeling is so difficult 2 describe.. n it jus cums ........v dificult 2 avoid......

You forgot expensive things that are bought by both. How to split?

spidey69 · #67 01-06-2007, 03:06 PM

I guess there isn't really a scientific formula to cure break-ups.. U can do whatever it suits u.. eg. take up new hobby, go clubbing, go cheonging, go bio-ing, go for holiday alone, go for la-kopi with kakis..

The rule of thumb is, carry on your life as per normal.. go to work, go for entertainment, work hard, play hard, rest hard.. eventually over time, it will hurt lesser and lesser.. until 1 day u may need to concentrate hard to remember how she look like or why both of u parted..

Its 6 years since my breakup.. We were together for almost 10 years prior to that.. The 1st 3 to 4 years after break-up, i too lived like a zombie.. However since then, life slowly goes back to normal.. It also helps that i have found a better gal..

To bros facing the heartache of a break-up now, just remember :

All good things come to an end; fortunately most bad things will also.

Xdecepticon · #68 01-06-2007, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by sleaguepunter

slowly lah, only four months, took me almost 2yrs.

Of course it help as he found his present wife at the church.

Bro, thats why till now (already 4mths) I still cant get over it. Those 7yrs of relationship still very fresh in my mind. May take another couple of yrs to completely forget the whole bitter/sweet relationship. Still searching for some quick fix (eg holy water) to erase past 7yrs memories, if possible.

Another solution is to, of course, find another substitute, like your friend did. Glad to hear hes happily married.

Xdecepticon · #69 01-06-2007, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by spidey69

Its 6 years since my breakup.. We were together for almost 10 years prior to that.. The 1st 3 to 4 years after break-up, i too lived like a zombie.. However since then, life slowly goes back to normal.. It also helps that i have found a better gal..

All good things come to an end; fortunately most bad things will also.

I can imagine 3-4yrs after breakoff, u lived like zombie. No different from what i am going thru now. But look like the obvious answer is to find another substitute?

Very true. Nothing is permanent. Goods things are always short and a quick end.

BlackArt · #70 02-06-2007, 03:01 AM

falling in love got risk. treat like investment. if cannot work out also need move on

Presto6969 · #71 02-06-2007, 12:44 PM

Moving on is tough, I had a freaking tough time when my 8yr r/s ended 2 yrs ago. I dwelled over it as long as I can remember and I don't even have the courage to go to place we have been to, neither out or at home. Can you imagine the agony? Just feel like ending every fcuking thing.

I finally got myself out of it when I forced myself to go to places that we have been. Face the obstacles and overcome them. Trust me, its tough - but its good.

Now, 2 years later, I'm into a similar situation AGAIN. Wah lan eh.... CCB sian....

Xdecepticon · #72 02-06-2007, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Presto6969

Face the obstacles and overcome them. Trust me, its tough - but its good.

Now, 2 years later, I'm into a similar situation AGAIN. Wah lan eh.... CCB sian....

History repeating itself? Thats what I fear most. Cant afford to have another relapse. sigh.....

Presto6969 · #73 02-06-2007, 05:42 PM

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History repeating itself? Thats what I fear most. Cant afford to have another relapse. sigh.....

I won't exactly say its a relapse la...fights and arguments has been in the air for sometime already, the break-up might come sooner or later. But i have been working hard not to let it happen, just that an incident sparked it for me to lose all my cool and I made the decision.

Come to think of it, I shouldn't have been so impulsive. Now kana lan like that...going thru the the shitty times again.

Xdecepticon · #74 02-06-2007, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Presto6969

Come to think of it, I shouldn't have been so impulsive. Now kana lan like that...going thru the the shitty times again.

Me too. I got short temper. Act of impulse, blew off, when I was told she would just treat me as friend. Then I realized I been too harsh, apologised but was ignored till now. Nowadays she dont even sms me. Treat me worst as stranger. Just need to forget her completely. But how? Even while bonking a WL also think of her.

dominion · #75 02-06-2007, 08:17 PM

http://www.romanceopedia.com/T-BreakingUpBlues.html

Does this help?

If not, I'm sure time will. Good luck to all those sorrowful hearts out there