my affair with my sis in law - Page 53

basfreak · #**781** 25-03-2019, 06:51 AM

I like this story TS, shall wait here for more installments of it.

seowlang · #**782** 25-03-2019, 09:35 AM

So… where shall I begin??

If I may summarize the last 6-7 years up, there were several key events and major turning points. I will attempt not to be too long winded, break up key events into several parts and hopefully still make some sense to you all.

I am humbled that what started almost 8 years ago as a skeleton in my closet brought along quite a few readers. I would also like to apologize if I do not answer some of the questions you readers may ask. Most of the time, the only reason is to prevent any remote possibility that somehow, someone might be able to lead anyone to J and her family. Stay tuned for part 1…

lobangkingz · #**783** 25-03-2019, 10:52 AM

do update more, support your thread ts.

otamay · #**784** 25-03-2019, 11:44 PM

Camping here for part 1.

StaminaIsKey · #**785** 26-03-2019, 01:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by seowlang

So… where shall I begin??

If I may summarize the last 6-7 years up, there were several key events and major turning points. I will attempt not to be too long winded, break up key events into several parts and hopefully still make some sense to you all.

I am humbled that what started almost 8 years ago as a skeleton in my closet brought along quite a few readers. I would also like to apologize if I do not answer some of the questions you readers may ask. Most of the time, the only reason is to prevent any remote possibility that somehow, someone might be able to lead anyone to J and her family. Stay tuned for part 1…

Already camping here for part 1 liao

kone3 · #**786** 26-03-2019, 01:35 AM

Camping here !

Cash8877 · #**787** 26-03-2019, 06:53 AM

nice story, keep on sharing TS.

diputs1269 · #**788** 26-03-2019, 04:57 PM

Camping here for more updates.

MPLover · #**789** 27-03-2019, 07:03 AM

really like your story ts! hoping for more juicy updates.

seowlang · #**790** 27-03-2019, 12:57 PM

Part 1: the 1st family talk

Starts with J and mother in law (mil) knowing that we are going through a divorce and ex-wife (ew) acknowledged that there is another ‘better’ man in her life. There was a family conversation between the 3 of them: EW, J and MIL. This was related to me mainly by J (once at that point of time and some points I only know much later) and my mil. I put two and two together to piece snippets of what I thought would be the conversation here.

Mil: If you treat us as a family, I think you have to be totally honest here with J and me. What could be so wrong that there is zero chance of reconciliation?

ew: In your eyes, is he a good husband? I agree he provides for the family very well financially. I never had to contribute much for the house. But besides money, he hardly carries out the duties of what husbands should. Be it when it comes to spending quality time, giving me a listening ear, supporting my emotional needs etc. I do not just need a man in my life; what I am looking for is a partner, one that is with me not just physically, but emotionally supportive as well. When I had problems with work, he always interjects as if his work problems are always more serious than mine. Whenever I talk about my friends, he shows little interest, let alone join us for our majong games/ gatherings. He only cares about integrating me into his circle of friends. Aren’t these proofs of selfishness, self-centredness and most importantly, an increasingly chauvinistic character? He wasn’t like that when I first met him. He has changed into a person I no longer know. Very cold. At times, I feel like we are 2 strangers living together. Don’t you all feel it at all when we meet up?

Mil: I do feel that SL has been much quieter and less chatty in recent times. But I take it that he is very stressed up at work. I can always hear him talking on the phone about work to colleagues or clients when he is here. He is so dedicated to his work and always travelling recently. I guess maybe that has affected your relationship? I have never heard you mention problems you all had. Why are you only telling us now that it has reached such a state?! No problem is too big to solve if you are willing to give him a chance right?

ew: ma, i am old enough already. The marriage is between me and him. The truth is, I have been giving to him big hints that things are going south. But he doesn’t care at all. The last 1-2 years, every time I go out on my off days, he hardly even asked whom im going out with. I only need to tell him with friends or colleagues. He wont even ask where im going. Really?? Is that how one will behave if a man truly loves his wife? His actions speak for itself. To me, I feel we are only married in name.

Mil: last time during dating, I remember you told him off for ‘controlling’ you. He wants to follow you out, you tell him ‘girls’ night’. Sometimes when he asked certain things, you will say things like ‘you men won’t understand’ or ‘long story to start from the beginning’. Do you realised you do brush not only him, but towards J and me as well?

Ew: At times I do that but when someone bothers to ask again, I will tell. If a person is keen to know, he/she wouldn’t stop at one attempt.

The conversation was largely between my mil and ew. Until ew kept asking why J was almost radio silence and only looked down without any eye contact with the rest. Took a bit of coaxing before J attempted to speak.

J: Sis… I am not in a position to comment at all.. Just feeling… very sad that it has turned out like that. You always tell me that you know what you are doing. And I have always believed in you. You are older than me and definitely richer than me in terms of experience in life, wisdom and maturity. Our family has been through hard times with pa leaving us as the lowest point in our lives. I always thought the worst is over and things are looking much brighter and happier for our family. But I never expected this to happen... Seeing you in this state of marriage just makes me… very, very upset… (her voice was trailing off…)

EW: Don’t worry, you know I am a strong person.

J: Frankly, the happiest memories that I have of our family wasn’t our childhood. Pa was working all the time and we hardly spend time together. After he was gone, ma spent even more time working and hardly had time for us. We were a family but led separate lives. It was only when you started holding a full-time job that we were more comfortable financially. But more importantly, do you remember what you told ma and me when you first got together with him? You said this is the guy that is different because he is family oriented. We agreed because he was the only that tried to integrate and treated us as family members too. He joins us for dinners, bothers to remember our birthdays to bring us out for minor celebrations instead of just doing it at home as we always do, always available to help out the little nitty gritty stuff at home and festivities etc. and most of all, he brought laughter and joy to the family. I have never seen a man that is able to bring that much happiness to you and our family. Don’t you agree? He wasn’t only your boyfriend and subsequent husband, he was a part of us. He was family. (her voice cracking…)

Ew: Stop being so emo and start to make ma cry too as well can? I am ok.

J: It not that I do not hear the changes of him in recent years but ma and I can’t judge. You are the best to answer this yourself. From me, the most important questions I guess are:
Are his mistakes/faults bigger than the person that he is? There is no way of turning back? Have you tried talking to him and giving him a chance? You sure about leaving him for another man?

Ew: I have thought very carefully, and I have also given him enough chances. And more accurately, I am NOT leaving him for another man. The cracks were there for at least 2 years. Like I have said, he is a changed man. Your opinion of him cannot only be based on how much you know of him in the past. We haven’t spoken that much to each other in the last 6 months because every time we talk, we always end up quarrelling. I am very tired, really tired.. I arrange this session today to tell you all my plans, not because I am unsure and seeking your advice. I have already made up my mind to move on….