Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

I were reading thro these, realised so many ppl kana these stuff.

I worst.

Married 3 yrs. WIth kid

Have no sex,
she does not assist me when i am financially down, (borrowed money kana fucked by her)
she does not do housework,
she does not care for me,
she does not listen to me,
when she take care of kid, she do more she cao beh.

which brings me to tink:

no sex, no care, can't do housework, not good at taking care of kids, can't help me financially...


then she come here for wat? i married her for wat?
at times i feel like she is a friend living with me

As a married man, bro, I really feel for you.

just post your unhappiness here, will render you a listening ear

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by waitawhile

Why did you marry her in the first place? 难道爱情真的让人冲昏了头？

No bro, before marriage she everything ok, seems very CHIN CHAI person.
Even my common friend felt the same. But things turn out the other way. Maybe i din't pat toh for too long (1 yr +)


I think wat keeps me off is the kid (I want to see her everyday) and the procedure (paper works, how i face my relatives with qns..to see her packing and moving out)

I yearn for a normal family. I dont believe in a total perfect wife.
But i do believe:
If a wife cant cook, at least she looks after baby well, take responsible.
If a wife don't like sex, at least she cares for me.
If a wife not chio, at least she eat u up in bed...

Strong points to compensate for shortcomings.
I kw all ppl have shortcomings, but at least maybe something tat i can give thumbs up to? But up till now -NO

Esp when i am in crisis she din bother to help. What hell?!

[fictionman]

My case is tt we hv been married for 14yrs aldy...Like every newly wed couple, the first few years of marriage we hump like rabbits...It was great the sex..When we were dating we will go hotels for our rendevous...Trying out almost..well almost the styles of porn stars...Sex was great with wifey...Dont mind cof or cim...

Eventually our precious son came along...Sex was limited aft tt...My wife still wats it as she wats another kid...So do i...We tried & tried but till tdy unsuccessful...But at tt time we would only hv sex maybe 2 or 3 times a mth aft our son is born..The last couple of years is even worse...The frequency has drop to once a mth!!!...Guess I dont hv the kick in having sex wz my wifey...

But aside fm sex, I feel i am the most blessed husband ard...She is caring,helpful & a loving person...Though I seldom initiate sex wz her, she's still the same girl I married 14 yrs ago...No regrets watsoever..

Sex might be dried up but I will spend the rest of my life wz her..I hv resorted to eating outside...Dont think my wifey knws abt it..I hope so...But when we had sex its more like goin thru the motion...Like fulfiling my duties as a husband...But she is still the only woman for me...

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by fictionman

My case is tt we hv been married for 14yrs aldy...Like every newly wed couple, the first few years of marriage we hump like rabbits...It was great the sex..When we were dating we will go hotels for our rendevous...Trying out almost..well almost the styles of porn stars...Sex was great with wifey...Dont mind cof or cim...

Eventually our precious son came along...Sex was limited aft tt...My wife still wats it as she wats another kid...So do i...We tried & tried but till tdy unsuccessful...But at tt time we would only hv sex maybe 2 or 3 times a mth aft our son is born..The last couple of years is even worse...The frequency has drop to once a mth!!!...Guess I dont hv the kick in having sex wz my wifey...

But aside fm sex, I feel i am the most blessed husband ard...She is caring,helpful & a loving person...Though I seldom initiate sex wz her, she's still the same girl I married 14 yrs ago...No regrets watsoever..

Sex might be dried up but I will spend the rest of my life wz her..I hv resorted to eating outside...Dont think my wifey knws abt it..I hope so...But when we had sex its more like goin thru the motion...Like fulfiling my duties as a husband...But she is still the only woman for me...

its the same for me, the only reason why we are having sex is because we want children, and even that, takes alot of timing, planning and sometimes delays(excuses)

[sexualfantasi]

looks like these are the common problems married man facing.
i wonder how can we spice up our sex life again especially after we have kids? any suggestion?

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

its the same for me, the only reason why we are having sex is because we want children, and even that, takes alot of timing, planning and sometimes delays(excuses)

[jay2968]

Originally Posted by darrenlai

looks like these are the common problems married man facing.
i wonder how can we spice up our sex life again especially after we have kids? any suggestion?

Bro, I am married for 14yrs...and i still love having sex with my wife...and now she's pregnant with my number 4....hehehehe but thats not what i want to tell...i also did cheong around once a while however i thot that having sex with wife is so much better that those paid ones....

Sorry if my post upset some people here....cheers

[fictionman]

Originally Posted by jay2968

Bro, I am married for 14yrs...and i still love having sex with my wife...and now she's pregnant with my number 4....hehehehe but thats not what i want to tell...i also did cheong around once a while however i thot that having sex with wife is so much better that those paid ones....

Sorry if my post upset some people here....cheers

No la bro...For me I am not upset but envy u...Hope u guys stay this way for a long2 time...😃😃😃

[centvin]

i didnt realised alot of the bros here r facing similar situation with their wife too
sex at home drops alot after few yrs, but the most turn off for me is she can be happy n cheerful facing her friends or outsider, but instant change of mood n tone when talking to me. constant whining n complaining unlike during courting days when she was full of sweetness n understanding.
I actually enjoy sex most at home(during gd weather) but sometimes cant help to have outside food....
up to now i can perform more than 15min at home but always less than 5min outside, the only exception tt i can break the time barrier is a friend

[waitawhile]

Originally Posted by fictionman

My case is tt we hv been married for 14yrs aldy...Like every newly wed couple, the first few years of marriage we hump like rabbits...It was great the sex..When we were dating we will go hotels for our rendevous...Trying out almost..well almost the styles of porn stars...Sex was great with wifey...Dont mind cof or cim...

Eventually our precious son came along...Sex was limited aft tt...My wife still wats it as she wats another kid...So do i...We tried & tried but till tdy unsuccessful...But at tt time we would only hv sex maybe 2 or 3 times a mth aft our son is born..The last couple of years is even worse...The frequency has drop to once a mth!!!...Guess I dont hv the kick in having sex wz my wifey...

But aside fm sex, I feel i am the most blessed husband ard...She is caring,helpful & a loving person...Though I seldom initiate sex wz her, she's still the same girl I married 14 yrs ago...No regrets watsoever..

Sex might be dried up but I will spend the rest of my life wz her..I hv resorted to eating outside...Dont think my wifey knws abt it..I hope so...But when we had sex its more like goin thru the motion...Like fulfiling my duties as a husband...But she is still the only woman for me...

Fulfiling your duties as a husband is to satisfy your sexual needs or her sexual needs? If it were her sexual needs, means that she still wants sex with you, then is not so bad, just that frequency has reduced...

You are still blessed with a good wife...

[waitawhile]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

No bro, before marriage she everything ok, seems very CHIN CHAI person.
Even my common friend felt the same. But things turn out the other way. Maybe i din't pat toh for too long (1 yr +)


I think wat keeps me off is the kid (I want to see her everyday) and the procedure (paper works, how i face my relatives with qns..to see her packing and moving out)

I yearn for a normal family. I dont believe in a total perfect wife.
But i do believe:
If a wife cant cook, at least she looks after baby well, take responsible.
If a wife don't like sex, at least she cares for me.
If a wife not chio, at least she eat u up in bed...

Strong points to compensate for shortcomings.
I kw all ppl have shortcomings, but at least maybe something tat i can give thumbs up to? But up till now -NO

Esp when i am in crisis she din bother to help. What hell?!

I can understand your plight, but "raw rice already become cooked rice" now..

I guess you can only try your best to salvage the situation and maybe as time goes by, she will see your persistent efforts and become a better wife..

All the best, bro

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by waitawhile

I can understand your plight, but "raw rice already become cooked rice" now..

I guess you can only try your best to salvage the situation and maybe as time goes by, she will see your persistent efforts and become a better wife..

All the best, bro

Tks bro!

No wonder. I heard frm a KTV gal before tat the customers ther alot all married guys. Sun the joint quiet because all married ones have to accompany wife. Then some hate them put perfume for fear of smell.

She said why all married guys like tat. still come out play. After reading threads then realized perhaps it is because of our girls??

[ilovepolkadots]

Tantan1234, have you thought of going for those marriage Counselling class? Might or might not help but no harm trying. Or maybe a short holiday or staycation can help to create some sparks?

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by ilovepolkadots

Tantan1234, have you thought of going for those marriage Counselling class? Might or might not help but no harm trying. Or maybe a short holiday or staycation can help to create some sparks?

Nope. Coz my wife is a stubbon person, dont tink it helps. ALso i already expect wat they will tell us- everyone has faults, bear with it, have conversations etc etc. All very banal from the old textbook stuff. U kw wat i mean?


And fuck. After more than 1 mth without sex thought of asking her for one, also as a chance to better things btw us.
She straight off turn me down.

I wonder why only she can decide when to have it.
And i wonder why she can't just even when she dont have urge, at least when husband ask for it, maybe just give in to me? for 10 request at least 2 to pacify me? Now it is none she gave in out of 10. Only when she feels ok then gives green light. SHe becomes the decider.

Why why why. Girls reading this thread, think again.
I kw u all feelings comes before physical, when u don feel like it means u dont feel like it. But we guys are build differently. At times do give in when yr husband needs it. It is like when a man is hungry, yet u keep starving him. No need lobster feast. GIve him a piece of bread sometimes at least, OR AT LEAST A BONE to keep him occupied.

And i cant be angry, for she will say I only want sex. Pervert.

It is like someone gives me a slaps on face. If i angry and rebuke she will say "why u abit then pain?" The fault COMES BACK to me.

[Hotcoffee]

I just check my wife iPhone. She been surfing Skout.

Me feel like ccb now.

Fuck her la. If I'm not marry I would had drive at least 7 series now.

[Hotcoffee]

Originally Posted by Bryan747

Bro, I think it is too late for me... Have kids as well..
I love my kids.. But I don't know how to love my wife anymore...

I feel your pain. I have 2 kids too. And I love them more then anything in the world.

Knn want to make love still must beg.
She even told her friends before her husband ok to pcc.