Met someone online but I'm married

[JuzNiceM]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

JuzNiceM, u sound like a 过来人, I suppose u used this method to get over someone? I'm sure it helped u that's why u recommend it. Thanks very much for sharing. And yes I will concentrate on being a good dad and hubby. Thanks for praying for me n good luck in whatever you do too

No worries bro.
I will never forget how I got over my issues. I write to her everyday, I know she read it. She just refused to replied back.

I waited, waited .. days turned into weeks, weeks flowed into months. By the time she did so, I stopped for a while and well over her. Because all I need to say, I've said it.

It is fate that we always find dat 1 person. but life is about choices. Some good, some bad, some nasty.

If we were to regret everything damn choices we made, life will lose it's meaning. The woman I supposed will stay as a memory in your mind. But your wife and your kid will stay for good.

Do cherish it. Might be tough at the moment but when a family is bonded as one, nothing can break it off. It all depends on how much you're willing to work for it.

[LeGarcon]

A little update:

Somehow I texted her out of the blue, when I was smoking downstairs at the carpark. It was past midnight and I was just back from meeting some uni friends. I told her, "I wouldn't expect any reply but hey take care of yourself" locked the phone n put in my pocket

Suddenly the phone beeped, "Why do you keep on trying if you know I might not reply?"

I was very shocked. I didn't know what exactly to say in reply.

I swear I really didn't have time to think and this is probably the most stupid answer anyone could come up with. "cos I'm irritating." seriously wtf right.

Sobering up a bit, I added, "or maybe I'm genuinely concerned."

Her: "hhmm. Ok."

We've started talking again but now it's more like I'm providing her my virtual shoulder and virtual ear. My texts don't get replies most of the time unless she needs to talk about her problems. Am I sad about this? Yes I am but just as a friend. Honestly, au contraire to all logic and sense I still like her (perhaps virtually too?? Lol). But I guess the reality of work, family, kid, wife etc is weighing down on me and I cannot afford to be affected again like last time.

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Me: " I'm a text away if you need me"

Her: "thank you."

I guess I don't have to update anymore dear friends on SBF. unless there's some big unexpected change in events. Really appreciate those who shared their own problems with me. Those who offer support and advice, and those who wanna make friends. stay in touch via PM, I'll be sticking around.

[evildolly]

Originally Posted by Klein76

I dont think the suggestion will work on this type of unreasonable partner as i had try it before......Do you have any more ideas?

Just my 2 cents,

I would assume that the partner was not like that before marriage. Coming from a lady's POV, some women became unreasonable because

1. they were given the opportunity to. In the dating stage, all the woman has to do is just cry and the man melts and say yes to everything.

2. the woman resents the man for not doing something, (not showing TLC, spend too much time on the computer etc)

For number 1, I think it may work if the man threatens to leave. It may shock the woman into knowing that she is not going to win anymore. But of course, there will be a storm. (interrogation, calling of friends, parents to complain etc...). Some men are afraid of what the woman can do. But it is precisely because of this fear that feeds the woman's ego.


For 2, need to dig to find the root of the problem.

[AdGuy]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

I guess I'll stop the story here. Many bros have advised me that I'm just infatuated with her and it's not worth risking my marriage and young child for someone I haven't even met.

You can be sure you aren't the only one to be in such a situation.

Those who have given you those so called 'healthy advice' are probably single.

You need to be talking to your wife about this problem, but in many cases, talking doesn't solve everything. That's when you start to decide whether you wish to live with your wrong decision.

[goodpartner]

Howdy everyone! Nice breakup song to share

[-SBF-]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

I am married with a child. My child is still very young. We got married primarily because she got pregnant and because I love children. My wife and I had been together for more than 3 years when she got pregnant. So we just had a simple wedding and soon my bundle of joy is born.

Definitely. But I decided it must be fate and began planning for the wedding with her and began to do all the things parents do to welcome their child.

You said it; you love ya child and it fated to be together. Then why bother about other girls? You should take good care of them instead of letting her down.

[LeGarcon]

Originally Posted by -SBF-

You said it; you love ya child and it fated to be together. Then why bother about other girls? You should take good care of them instead of letting her down.

Dear bro or sis SBF,

I really don't mean to be rude but clearly you haven't read the rest of my story. If things can be so simple, men can just detach themselves from their feelings so easily, divorce lawyers wouldn't have their jobs anymore. Yes of course duty calls for a husband and father to fulfill his responsibilities. But things aren't so simple.

Yes I love kids and fate brought me and wife together, but that does not automatically means that I am 'happily' married with a child.

Extrapolating from your point of 'should' and 'instead of', a gf should be faithful to her bf and not fall for someone else. A student should study instead of playing games the whole day. A dog should bark only when a stranger threatens his owner. But the real world doesn't work that way. If it did there won't be wars nor conflict. I hope you see my point.

Sorry for my rant. In a very very bad mood today.

[iossshee]

enjoy the video ... hope you understand cantonese ... ...
lyrics is quite meaningful ...

[-SBF-]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Dear bro or sis SBF,

things aren't so simple.

Yes I love kids and fate brought me and wife together, but that does not automatically means that I am 'happily' married with a child.

Extrapolating from your point of 'should' and 'instead of', a gf should be faithful to her bf and not fall for someone else. A student should study instead of playing games the whole day. A dog should bark only when a stranger threatens his owner. But the real world doesn't work that way. If it did there won't be wars nor conflict. I hope you see my point.

Sorry for my rant. In a very very bad mood today.

Things aren't simple because there is no mutual understanding and trust when problem come they don't solve it. As simple as that!!!

That why nation against nation, humans against humans and so on.

Please accept my humble points, hope it ease ya days!!!

[PRCRammer]

Originally Posted by -SBF-

Things aren't simple because there is no mutual understanding and trust when problem come they don't solve it. As simple as that!!!

That why nation against nation, humans against humans and so on.

Please accept my humble points, hope it ease ya days!!!

Bro, I have been reading your posts and i really do have several questions that I hope you can make me understand. TS is talking about marriage issues but I have read and been told you are single, unmarried, childless & look for sugar babies to fulfill your carnal needs. How is it that you are able to advise a married family man on issues that you yourself have ZERO experience on?

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Dear bro or sis SBF,

I really don't mean to be rude but clearly you haven't read the rest of my story. If things can be so simple, men can just detach themselves from their feelings so easily, divorce lawyers wouldn't have their jobs anymore. Yes of course duty calls for a husband and father to fulfill his responsibilities. But things aren't so simple.

Yes I love kids and fate brought me and wife together, but that does not automatically means that I am 'happily' married with a child.

Extrapolating from your point of 'should' and 'instead of', a gf should be faithful to her bf and not fall for someone else. A student should study instead of playing games the whole day. A dog should bark only when a stranger threatens his owner. But the real world doesn't work that way. If it did there won't be wars nor conflict. I hope you see my point.

Sorry for my rant. In a very very bad mood today.

Damn, this thread is so sweet & sticky like honey

Feel like using a sledgehammer to knock some senses out of u!

Basically you're fed-up with your yellow-faced wife @ home & trying to find some holes to distress. How's your bond with your kid now? How's family days? You're not even in dating stage with another woman & your heart is like a butterfly on messages, wait till you get in bed & screw each other's life up.

Get hold of your life, think what you want. Have a serious discussion with wife about what she wants & how you feel. You guys can work together to save it or dump it, for all you know, she might be extremely stressed living with you as well

Love are plenty out there, got money, got honey. No money & see if your arse is worth anything! The trick is seeing which one is willing to stick with you through poverty. We are living in a money world & this IS the reality. Stop living in dillusion bro.

FYI, @ one stage, I have 4 women calling me laogong! That's a lot of responsibilities you know? Those are not FLs & they've been with me from 1-3yrs while the wife has been 10yrs. 3+1 kids now from two wives.

There's only one thing we cannot control, time. It cannot be rewound so work the best out of it.

Meanwhile, if you want honey pot, there are tons available from $40-unlimited credit you have in this site

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Dear bro or sis SBF,

I really don't mean to be rude but clearly you haven't read the rest of my story. If things can be so simple, men can just detach themselves from their feelings so easily, divorce lawyers wouldn't have their jobs anymore. Yes of course duty calls for a husband and father to fulfill his responsibilities. But things aren't so simple.

Yes I love kids and fate brought me and wife together, but that does not automatically means that I am 'happily' married with a child.

Extrapolating from your point of 'should' and 'instead of', a gf should be faithful to her bf and not fall for someone else. A student should study instead of playing games the whole day. A dog should bark only when a stranger threatens his owner. But the real world doesn't work that way. If it did there won't be wars nor conflict. I hope you see my point.

Sorry for my rant. In a very very bad mood today.

Giving in all the time cos u love her is actually quite lame bro n asking for trouble.
But if u said u gave in cos u dun wan trouble or quarrels, then i think it's big of you to do so.
Marriage tat is peaceful is nottin short of givin way & confrontation avoidance.
If the situation is giving u a pressure cooker effect, get ur ass out there n find someone to be ur pressure release valve.
U'll be surprised, u come back smiling n actually bring more +ve energy back to ur environment.
Morally not rite but effect is +ve.
Also, getting permission time off to go drink wif mates, my god, r u a man bro?
No offense but dun u tink u r so small?
Wanna go drink!
She make noise say u run outside find women, ok, bring the gang home to drink!
I feel u r using a 1 way ticket to resolve many issues u hv thus cosing ur head to wanna explode.
Bro, stop thinking PAP n move to the world of outside the box thinking n u will find the key u seek to release u from ur probs!
Sometimes, managing a wife a home is no different from running a biz.

It is good that nottin happened between u n belle, else, she will be ur biggest nightmare.
A troubled man will become reliant on one who gives him comfort & peace.
The 1 thing that destroys families!
An untroubled man in the same situation wud go into it wif a evil grin bro.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Damn, this thread is so sweet & sticky like honey

Feel like using a sledgehammer to knock some senses out of u!

Basically you're fed-up with your yellow-faced wife @ home & trying to find some holes to distress. How's your bond with your kid now? How's family days? You're not even in dating stage with another woman & your heart is like a butterfly on messages, wait till you get in bed & screw each other's life up.

Get hold of your life, think what you want. Have a serious discussion with wife about what she wants & how you feel. You guys can work together to save it or dump it, for all you know, she might be extremely stressed living with you as well

Love are plenty out there, got money, got honey. No money & see if your arse is worth anything! The trick is seeing which one is willing to stick with you through poverty. We are living in a money world & this IS the reality. Stop living in dillusion bro.

FYI, @ one stage, I have 4 women calling me laogong! That's a lot of responsibilities you know? Those are not FLs & they've been with me from 1-3yrs while the wife has been 10yrs. 3+1 kids now from two wives.

There's only one thing we cannot control, time. It cannot be rewound so work the best out of it.

Meanwhile, if you want honey pot, there are tons available from $40-unlimited credit you have in this site

Bro porscheclub, how r u man.
It's been a while.
Good to see ur now a member of the elite few wif a BIG family hehehehe
Welcome to the club

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by LeGarcon

Dear bro or sis SBF,

I really don't mean to be rude but clearly you haven't read the rest of my story. If things can be so simple, men can just detach themselves from their feelings so easily, divorce lawyers wouldn't have their jobs anymore. Yes of course duty calls for a husband and father to fulfill his responsibilities. But things aren't so simple.

Yes I love kids and fate brought me and wife together, but that does not automatically means that I am 'happily' married with a child.

Extrapolating from your point of 'should' and 'instead of', a gf should be faithful to her bf and not fall for someone else. A student should study instead of playing games the whole day. A dog should bark only when a stranger threatens his owner. But the real world doesn't work that way. If it did there won't be wars nor conflict. I hope you see my point.

Sorry for my rant. In a very very bad mood today.

Someday, you'll be tired of being discontented with your marriage and will probably just go with the flow if it doesn't end in a divorce. Its not exactly a good thing as we all desire a happy marriage and supportive partner who we can look forward to seeing after a long day's work. Am not exactly saying much here other than suggesting what's potentially next after your disenchantment abates... Sometimes I feel being single, though occasionally lonely, is a simpler life.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by nuclearkid

Someday, you'll be tired of being discontented with your marriage and will probably just go with the flow if it doesn't end in a divorce. Its not exactly a good thing as we all desire a happy marriage and supportive partner who we can look forward to seeing after a long day's work. Am not exactly saying much here other than suggesting what's potentially next after your disenchantment abates... Sometimes I feel being single, though occasionally lonely, is a simpler life.

The day will come when u grow old n is all alone in a house wif no one but u n then u will know the true meaning of lonely.
Worse, u die alone no one will know till ur neighbours smell ur decomposing stench n hv to call the cops & only then, people will knows u dieded
Even worst, no one to do arrangements for ur funeral n no one to attend any wake!
Now that's sad to the max.
The decisions we make, dictates the life we live