How to handle a Breakup - Page 6

EvilInside · #76 03-06-2007, 03:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Bro, let it go lah. Dont end up like me, 7years! Infact 3yrs back she already gave the sign that we cannot be together. Stupid sentimental fool me keep dragging till early this year when we got a real heated argument over our relationship. Now been 4mths plus since our last contact, still cant get over it.

Take it as lesson learnt. You will be wiser in the future

asdfghjkl · #77 03-06-2007, 03:50 AM

kns, during my last bgr he said he wanted to have sex before breaking up.. wtf?

Xdecepticon · #78 03-06-2007, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by EvilInside

Take it as lesson learnt. You will be wiser in the future

Like they said, Love is Blind. 7 years. Well, some ppl can make firm decision. Once decided and theres no turning back. Thats my ex. Wish I could be as firm as her. But for me, I am those sentimental and emotional fool. Still find it hard to accept this breakoff. Thought an oversea posting and change of environment would help to forget the past. But deep inside, I doubt it.

sleaguepunter · #79 04-06-2007, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Me too. I got short temper. Act of impulse, blew off, when I was told she would just treat me as friend. Then I realized I been too harsh, apologised but was ignored till now. Nowadays she dont even sms me. Treat me worst as stranger. Just need to forget her completely. But how? Even while bonking a WL also think of her.

bro,

relax lah... let her go lah... get on with your life, find some gal who love u more than u love her. like that win win situation. Control your temper, not easy but must try. what a gal fear most abt a guy a violent streak. Most gals can tahan cheating on her, lied to her, no money, but once guy who lay a hand on them, he out of her life.

John Cena · #80 04-06-2007, 02:02 PM

Have some beer, keep urself bz and u'll slowly forget abt her. Its hard at 1st but time will heal everything slowly

Xdecepticon · #81 04-06-2007, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by sleaguepunter

but once guy who lay a hand on them, he out of her life.

Bro, I have to agree 100% on that. But my words enough to make her broke down and she end our relationship with just two words "lets split". So, she dumped me! 7 years and indeed Love is blind.

Presto6969 · #82 04-06-2007, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Me too. I got short temper. Act of impulse, blew off, when I was told she would just treat me as friend. Then I realized I been too harsh, apologised but was ignored till now. Nowadays she dont even sms me. Treat me worst as stranger. Just need to forget her completely. But how? Even while bonking a WL also think of her.

Strangely, she txt me a few days back and I told her how much I missed her and she ended it by saying 'We're still friends'. It made me really upset, I rather she don't msg me in the 1st place.

U jz need to move on....catch up with kakis to drink, go out (not fuck) with some females friends, do some things on your own. etc. Remember, time flies...before you realised, its days, months and years.

Don't dwell on it anymore, the more you dwell, its like the scenerio of taking 2 steps ahead, 1 step back. This will eventually ruin your life. Think of it, is it worth it? You thought of her so much till now, but has it crossed your mind that she's already forgotten you? Is it worth it?

Presto6969 · #83 04-06-2007, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Bro, I have to agree 100% on that. But my words enough to make her broke down and she end our relationship with just two words "lets split". So, she dumped me! 7 years and indeed Love is blind.

You just gotta realised that (most) women are hard-hearted creatures. Once they made a decision, there's almost NO CHANCE of turning back - just like my 8yr r/s.

Xdecepticon · #84 05-06-2007, 10:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Presto6969

You just gotta realised that (most) women are hard-hearted creatures. Once they made a decision, there's almost NO CHANCE of turning back - just like my 8yr r/s.

Yes. Thats what my ex made up of. Heart of steel, short tempered and bloody stubborn. Once she made up her mind, theres no turning back. I have to let her go one way or another. But it just take time for me to totally forget the past. Mine 7 and yours 8 years, is a long period of time.

sleaguepunter · #85 06-06-2007, 01:21 PM

[QUOTE=Presto6969;2065254]Strangely, she txt me a few days back and I told her how much I missed her and she ended it by saying 'We're still friends'. It made me really upset, I rather she don't msg me in the 1st place.
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Dont maintain contact, delete all her contact numbers and email. If cannot tahan at BGR, how to tahan as friend. Most gal got this thinking, dont want guy as partner but want as friend, so as to get the best out of the guys. Still want the guy to treat her the same gf but she treat the guy as normal girl.

My ex-gf tried take me for a ride, after break off still call and sms, want me do this do that like i still bf. Sometime when i refuse, she would scold me, said last time i always do for her. I replied i no longer her bf, so i not obilge to help her, kenna the phone slammed in my ear. After that she continue to sms and call my hp whenever she too free. Enough is enough, i went to change my hp model and at same time change the number. I think she get the hint and never contact me again.

Midnightiger · #86 06-06-2007, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by THExorcist

To be honest, there is no definite cure for a break up.. really..

for anything else, the alternative ( some say the true all in one cure )

www.sammyboyforum.com

I couldn't agree any more.

I have recently gone through a bitter and sad divorce. Couldn't get over it and did many things like those stated above.

But nothing beats SBF which was introduced to me by a friend. With his ID, I surf through the forums which kept me busy and as time goes by, I became more of myself with the help of friends of course.

Now I've decided on my own nick, and back to be a cheongster. I think I'll start a thread of my sexploration some day.

Coming back to the subject. The point is to accept what has happened as a reality, understand that life will be tough from that point onwards, and move ahead with a clear mind.

Just my humble 2 cents worth.

dap26 · #87 06-06-2007, 02:02 PM

For me i try nt to contact her back as it hurts when u knw you r juz a friend to her..

Xdecepticon · #88 06-06-2007, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by dap26

For me i try nt to contact her back as it hurts when u knw you r juz a friend to her..

Sad but true. Lovers can never be friends.

Lord Imperious · #89 06-06-2007, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by sleaguepunter

Dont maintain contact, delete all her contact numbers and email. If cannot tahan at BGR, how to tahan as friend. Most gal got this thinking, dont want guy as partner but want as friend, so as to get the best out of the guys. Still want the guy to treat her the same gf but she treat the guy as normal girl.

Agreed. Just delete the number, erase all evidence of her, including pictures, correspondences, email account etc. Alternatively blocking her number also works.

Most girls just want a spare around. So don't be a fool! There be no profit in it!

dap26 · #90 07-06-2007, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Sad but true. Lovers can never be friends.

No matter how u deceive yrself,fact is juz fact.U juz hv to face it.I rather she left some gd memories whenever i think of her than hurting myself and her again...