How to handle a Breakup

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Originally Posted by dap26

No matter how u deceive yrself,fact is juz fact.U juz hv to face it.I rather she left some gd memories whenever i think of her than hurting myself and her again...

By dumping me, whatever good memories she had with me past 7yrs doesnt help at all. Wish those memories, bitter or sweet, be erased off completely.

[vesfreq]

Just don't think about it. I used to fret over the break up with my ex. But, life goes on. Recently, I met my friend's wif's.... friends. One of them like auntie. The other one looks good.

Still, the feeling of bitterness is difficult to ignore... somehow. Its easy to say forget everything. Somehow unpleasant memories resurface from time to time. Before I know it, I was looking away from all the pretty young ones and avoiding the loving couples along the street. I realise I'm not one who likes to be emotionally defeated. No one likes to be. To love means having to pay a price sometimes. But, to what extent? ... What for? To live in ignorance.... knowing pain was and is never there, isn't that better?

If not being in love means being able to think about nothing but knowing one's family is happy, what else really matters?

I bought a new car not too long ago. Its nothing much... just a sports car. Girls used to tell me that money cannot buy happiness. But, money buys me the things I missed and the things I like, though not the love I long. The love I long... is just a misty dream which was never real to begin with.

Each time I go to the car park, I know my sports car is waiting for me. Ready to hit the road and turn some heads. People on bike will turn their heads in envy. At least, it beats feeling down cos' of being ditch by a gf.

Bgr not for everyone. I cannot bring myself to like a girl less than attractive. I know I will continually look at girls (unpleasant in appearance) with prejudiced eyes. I can't help it, but its really something human. So be it if I have to see girls in GL. If there is a girl so sweet you ever saw out there, there is probably a hooker who looks just like her in GL.

I suppose what we can all do is just look forward to tomorrow. A day (not known today)... at least it promises more glow than today. It is easier to be happy alone than to be torn by a girl who doesn't care. No one was ever born or made to be cold, its just the things that happened. Its just easier to be cold and devoid of emotions than to offer warmth to people.... you never "know".

[Lord Imperious]

True. If parted on a good note, all nice memories preserved if parted on an ugly note, all nice memories suddenly become horrid ones. That is why always be prepared to destroy everything when a relationship heads south.

Those girls that say money cannot buy happiness usually fall into 3 groups:
1) Those who have no money
2) Those who are too stupid to know happiness
3) Liars!

[old_yet_horny]

Originally Posted by no_faith

itz not easy but try not to torture urself.
y torturing urself where she might be wif another guy happily together bonking?
which makes u all time loser. which also might indirectly gives the guy's a chance tat telling u, u r weak or else ur gf wun be wif me now?

be cool, relax, be happy. she has left you becuz a better one is coming for u.

Totally agree..
Bad ones dun go, good ones never come.
Jus be strong and move on.

Life is never about only just 1 girl.
If we dwell about a broken relationship with a girl, how will those bros here who have been through divorce?? It's much more worse isn't it?

Lift up our head look forward and walk down the path with thoughts that a better one will come along.

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Originally Posted by vesfreq

Each time I go to the car park, I know my sports car is waiting for me. Ready to hit the road and turn some heads. People on bike will turn their heads in envy. At least, it beats feeling down cos' of being ditch by a gf.

Bro, u still lucky can drive around in your sports car. For me last time breakup with my ex, I had to go arcade and play Daytona. Cos I am not bad in that game, when I hit the pedal also can turn some heads, hehe

But I not sure those folks riding arcade bike got turn their heads in envy or not... hehe

[petrolheadsg]

OK like to inject slight twist to this...pls dont flame me bros. If you dont like what you read just read something else.

Us guys get taken for a ride plenty times. I want to return the power to us. So instead of being taken for a ride, I want to take the offensive and be in the drivers seat. What do you bros suggest based on experience and expertise, to initiate the break-up with the intent to take control and have her on a leash instead. Any suggestions on how you would go about this? remember its not a break up per se but a ploy to regain power! Lets not go into discussion about true feelings and about treating each other with respect.

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Originally Posted by petrolheadsg

OK like to inject slight twist to this...pls dont flame me bros. If you dont like what you read just read something else.

Us guys get taken for a ride plenty times. I want to return the power to us. So instead of being taken for a ride, I want to take the offensive and be in the drivers seat. What do you bros suggest based on experience and expertise, to initiate the break-up with the intent to take control and have her on a leash instead. Any suggestions on how you would go about this? remember its not a break up per se but a ploy to regain power! Lets not go into discussion about true feelings and about treating each other with respect.

I think I know what u are trying to say. Hmm... if the girl really madly in love with u, once u initiate break-up, she will already be taken aback and most prob u will take control already.

But if the girl dun really have feelings or really got the attitude prob, even if u initiate breakup, there will not be so much effect on the girl... so no control also.

IMHO

[giggz83]

my ex-gf ended a 4yrs relationship with me 2 yrs ago..

yeah .. tats on my P O P day .. u can imagine .. haiz. its been 2yrs .. well, of cos, to say forget is impossible .. but of cos, naively i also will wonder whether one day would she come back. but, chances are slim .. cos, she left me for another guy, while im in NS

anyway .. to the bros out there who are in the "recovery" stage .. dont do stupid things .. find some friends to +++ to.. and yes, all these will pass dont worry ...

it works for me .. and also will work for you.

[dirk_diggler]

Dear bros, really very heartwarming to see all the guys share their heartache here even though it hurts thinking abt it, not to mention sharing it...

I actually have a problem on my hands, but its not exactly the same as u guys....Hope to get some views here....I had this deep liking for this gal A in my company,even though I knew she had a bf(but relationship rocky lah). I stuck by her side all the way until she ended her relationship abruptly, and promised that I will wait for her to recover from her breakup so that she can start afresh(she asked me to give her some time)...but little did I know tat another guy came onto the scene and lo n behold they are together in a short span of 2 mths.....I have already forgotten my emotions for gal A as I hate liars.....

Crux is during this period of time gal B had a liking for me despite knowing tat I like gal A, and I developed some feelings for her along the way as we often hang out....I actually rejected her on one occasion previously saying that I actually like gal A better. Funny thing is that although gal B had started a relationship with another guy,she still calls me frequently and treats me like her bf like saying why I go where never call her, come my hse and stuff, ask me to her hse...The thing is I professed my feelings for her(I felt that I had made a wrong choice in the past), but she said she needed time to think over and only time will tell what choice she shld make.....

Can bros here tell me what I shld do?

[Lord Imperious]

Originally Posted by petrolheadsg

Us guys get taken for a ride plenty times. I want to return the power to us. So instead of being taken for a ride, I want to take the offensive and be in the drivers seat. What do you bros suggest based on experience and expertise, to initiate the break-up with the intent to take control and have her on a leash instead. Any suggestions on how you would go about this? remember its not a break up per se but a ploy to regain power!

Well for the ploy to really work you must first be prepared to backup your words with action and really break up. Only then will you have nothing to fear and will not hold back. Hesitation and regret are your biggest enemies. You must project confidence in yourself and play it real cool.

[Lord Imperious]

Originally Posted by dirk_diggler

Can bros here tell me what I shld do?

Do nothing. You are now on the rebound and your judgement is clouded. You going for gal B now because gal A played you out and gal B once showed interest in you. Given that gal B is already with someone, I doubt she will drop him for you. At the best she will 2 time the both of you.

[LeMans]

[SIZE="2"]Hi all samsters, I very rare post view but I think it is time to share my opinion: I just recently got cheated by my gf of 2 years (let's give her a name thru her Initial: LL) - I know by pouring out my saddness in this forum might be seen as a sort of revenge or so called blog..... but I just wish to share my love story although it is just a short 2 years....... LL, a gal who is 1 year my senior, I just met her at one of my work place at a retail store in Orchard Rd. I was working there after graduated with a diploma n waiting for enlistment in early 2005, prior to that, I was also suffering a failed relationship with another ex-gf of mine who had been with me for 2 years plus (she is not the main topic). I still remember my 1st time seeing LL, she was just a plain Jane, slightly chubby ( not fat but just she got broad shoulder as she was formerly a swimmer). Straight to the point, I just intro myself to her n we start to click quite well. Slowly, we went out, but at 1st LL was nothing to shout abt, simply plain Jane who just doesn't interest me, but I was afraid of loneliness as I was going to enlist into BMT in less than 2 weeks time, thus, I asked her to be my gf during 1 of our outings. Thus, she agreed but it lasted only 1 nite as there was no feeling involved as my mind was still thinking of my previous ex-gf as at that time, I love her deeply as she had lost her virginity to me earrlier on. So after that nite, I did not contact LL for 2 months till I was 1 month away from my POP, then I felt a bored inside my BMT life as every book-out, seeing ur mates having their gf waiting for them at Parsi Ris MRT, was just plain envy to them...... Then this was the turning point, I dated LL out every Sat after book-out..... we will surely without fail will go for KTV every Sat n sing till the wee hours. Slowly, our feelings develop for each other...... but I was not sure LL is ready for me or not as prior to me, she had a Indian stalker everyday would stalk her till she had fear in relationship...... It was until the day, which was my 24km road march, then I know that LL had feelings for me as she had msg me 3 times to date me out but unluckily I did not switch on my hp as it was closed to flat battery..... until I went home the next day to charge my hp then I reliased that LL had msg me 3 times to date me on a Sat evening but I felt a little let down, thus asap reply her n asked her out for a short dinner n also get my mum to bake a strawberry strudle for her b4 I report back to camp for my POP. After my POP, we continued to date every Sat. When I was posted to unit,I was damn lucky to be in a stay out unit n thus having more chances to meet her but then, I was reluctant as NSF allowance was too little to go far, but that did not hinder me from dating her (most of the outing, I pay during I try to win her heart). I was 100% sure that LL had fallen for me as one Sunday, she just travelled from her place in the East to my place in the West to jog at my house the nearby stadium n she told me she was nearby, thus I met her up and I was stunned that she was in a track suit, I mean sports bra n tight pants whcih reveal her full front headlight (34C) n her sexy n bouncy bump. I was like: Oh my GOD!! wat a lovely sight..... I told myself to remain calm n hide my wolf tail..... But deep inside my mind, I was like: Jackpot, she can travelled all the way to my place to jog n in suit sexy outfit...... I was like thinking, wat the hack, ur house side no stadium mehz....... then slowly I notice she will try to walk close to me..... brushing side by side...... but yet I had no courage to ask her be my gf as I was quite confused n do not wish to be hurt again for another failed relationship..... 1 month later..... after mid-year, LL n me were chatting on the phone more frequently n we will call each other till 2-3 am even if I had to wake up at 6am to report back to camp in the East...... Then 1 fine nite, I decided to ask her but of no sudden in btw our talk, she drop hint to ask me be her BF n I asap agreed. The following weekend we dated each other out. I still remember kissing her openly at one the shopping centre in the City area in the middle of the nite.... Then I start to carress her 34C boobs..... so soft n tender but after that we stopped there as too much unwanted attention..... n I sent her home. The following Monday, I reported back to camp n my superior wanted all the new-birds to clear their block leave 1st and allow the old-birds to clear their leaves later part of the year b4 their ORD...... Thus I cleared 3 days of my leave. During my block leave, LL also took 1 of the day off n came n accompany me at my house. My horny mind was so turn on as my house was empty in the day, thus I fetch her from my house bus-stop n bring her up to my home. Rite inside my house, I ask her whcih DVD she would like to watch, she say anything, thus I choose a RA DVD (Golden Chicken 1) n told her I haven't watch it b4 (actually watch liao, just another old tricks), thus during the show, I just sit beside her n slowly my hands inch by inch, my hands just get closer to her body n later around her waist n slowly she let me hug her from behind n watch the show 2gether..... Not long, we engage in kissing n slowly, I carry her to my room n place her on my bed..... N iwas just like a hungry wolf, asap kiss her n piece by piece, I strip her..... I undress her blouse n unclasp her bra, then I asap went for her soft pinkish nipples... While sucking her nipples, I was trying to unzip her skirt but found some difficulty, but to my surprise she seems to know my intention n thus she unzip herself while my mouth is busy sucking her nipples. At that point of time, I was like thinking oh my GOD, she must be hungry for sex n must have deprived of it for a long long time...... Thus without hesistation, I just shove my penis rite into her pussy, it was damn bloody tight as I was wondering how long did she not get laid...... n LL at this point was grabbing my arms with her finger nails piercing rite into my skin....... Slowly, inch by inch...... I shove it in n slowly, the tightness was unloose n my penis was disappearing rite into my new love hole for the next 2 years...... then I pump her virgourly and after some 20 mins of pumping, my climax was building up n anytime I was to unload my ammo, thus not long later, I withdrew from her pussy n shot it onto her 34C breast...... n she was stunned...... But I was more stunned as there was a pool of hot blood stain on my bed sheet...... I was taken aback, as I had just screwed a VIRGIN. I was totally confused again as I had just taken someone's happiness but I need to come to a decision at that of time n thus, I ask her: Your 1st time huh?? She replied" Yahz..... Then I told her: U stay by my side n be loyal to me for life..... I willlgive u a official status after afew years time. From then on, we carry on this relationship n have at least 1 sex per week other than her monthly periods.......

[LeMans]

Continued from above: tilll recently...... She meet a FAT ASSHOLE, by the name of CHRIS TAN, even if it mean tarnish his reputation, i willl do so now: CHRIS TAN, 29 years old, live in the North of Singapore, formerly work as an out-source telemarketing agency supervisor/manager for a cable tv company, there is where LL work as part-time telemarketer n got to know this FAT ASSHOLE...... Slowly, bcoz of my busy camp duties, I rarely spend time with her n we meet only on weekend, maybe if I happen to be free on weekdays n she also not working part-time in the nite, then we will go out n date..... Back to the point, LL develop feelings for this FAT ASSHOLE n after this out-source firm close down, they decided to plan for an overseas trip..... n prior to this trip, LL always sing praises of this FAT ASSHOLE in front of me, treating me as if I m invisible...... Then 1 fine Sunday, as usual, LL will come over my place to have lunch 2gether with my family. Then I happen to spot check LL's hp that this guy send some lovely sms to her n b4 I could even read the latest sms, she deleted all the SMSes.... I was taken aback by her actions..... n immediately, I accused her of having an affair, but she insited NO n stilll cried on my sholuder saying she still LOVE me (bullshit)...... Not long she went holiday with that FAT ASSHOLE. Prior to this adulterous couple's holiday, she wanted to break up that immedaite Sunday evening with me...... I did not agreed n even make a commotion at her house...... the next day, I appeared at her house again n she told me we needed a cooling period n I agreed initially n in return she will spend 2 nites servicing me with sex. Later, I reluctant as her words were not tally to what she said.... n again we had another commotion but it was later resolved as we had sex again at my home. During the sexual intercourse period, I asked her to shout out whoever man is in her mind n she wanted to have sex with..... To my horror but not surprising, she shouted that FAT ASSHOLE's name: CHRIS CHIRIS..... n I was so mad that I immediately just pump her harded n without caring for her pain or not.... I twisted her nipple as if i was like pinching her......this caused her to moan louder......n as she moaned n shouted that FAT ASSHOLE's name..... my ammo were building up n to punish her for her unfaithfulness...... I just shot my sperm rite into her lovehole, attempting to make her pregnant although it's not the 1st time shoting my ammo into her pussy.....After the sex, I thought we had patch up already as we even went for a nite movie b4 sending her home...... The next day, to my horror, she went to complain me to the authorities for the commotion at her place..... n there is my nite mare beings..... which I dun wish to say much...... After her holidays n around 2 weeks later, she called up n told me she wanted to totally breakup n I asked her wat is the reason, any 3rd party involved, she said no n cited that my rashness is too uch for her taking, thus I gladly n foolishly agreed to her..... Not long ago, I found out she was indeed lying to me that initially she had no feeling for this fat asshole but yet now with this fat asshole..... I confronted her n she told me feelings can't be controlled.... of all sudden she just like him bcoz he treated her nice n he is more matured than me....... I was taken aback by the fact that she told me this n worse she started to have mixed feelings b4 the breakup.... meaning 2 months b4 I found out those lovely SMSes by that Fat Assholes......Moral of the story: Do not trust any woman easily..... Even if they may lost their VIRGINTY to you..... You may feel honoured...... But that doesn't mean she is your's forever.......Woman tend to have change their hearts very fast...... But imagine being betrayed by a woman who can go thru thick n thin during my NS days (now I am working as a trader) , but then leave u for a FAT asshole who has no personality and appearance..... LL once told me her this new bf look like Wilbur, the pig in Charlotte Web movie...... Yet I don't understand woman who rather go for a pig....... N worse, LL was actually a good n virturious gf n wife to me....... But now she just left me picking up another shatter pieces n I got to face any uncertainties by myself...... Guys out there, Gals these days are very wildful n they want to be on par with us, male counterparts.......I was loyal n sincere n loving to LL, not even contacting any of my female friends when I was with her....... Thus Gd gals r hard to come-by.... so do cherish if one really happen but b4 u rush into marriage..... look thru whether the gal is your lifelong loyal partner or else, u will join me into the heart-broken club.........Sorry if I had caused sammyboy to be my unwind personal forum[/SIZE]

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Originally Posted by LeMans

Moral of the story: Do not trust any woman easily..... Even if they may lost their VIRGINTY to you..... You may feel honoured...... But that doesn't mean she is your's forever.......Woman tend to have change their hearts

On this para, I cant agree with you more. Nowadays woman take sex as a matter of curiosity. No emotional or bondage feelings. For me, when I had sex with my ex, I never once treated her as a sex object. I never once did it raw for fear of making her pregnant. Care and love were showered on her. But still in the end, she dumped me! Woman hearts are hard and tend to change in no time.

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Even after so many yrs with my ex, only today I realize how hard her heart was. Before dumping me, she told me we still frds. But been four mths, she didnt even sms me unlike those time when we were together, practically every day we sms/called each other. Been thru depression stage and she cant bother to call and enquire on my health. I know its not nice to curse but I hope she will be in my shoe near futere and get dump too by his future bf!