Sex with my colleague

ahseng9 · #1 14-09-2007, 10:40 AM

Last night I had too much drinks with my colleagues. After drinking, we disbanded with me sending a Korean colleague back.
We have know each other for 11 months & even went out for drinks.
She's not a looker but is slim & plain looking.
As I send her back to her block, she wanted to drink some more & insisted that on paying for the beer that we bought near her block.
After that we sat at the void deck talking & drinking. As she was quite drunk & started talking loudly, I suggested bringing her home 1st.
Once in her flat, we suddenly just started hugging each other & she was expressing how she felt abt liking me. We ended up kissing & having sex.
This is very unsual for me becos I cannot cummed (I was very high & drunk).
She knows that I am married with kids & told me that this will happen once only & she felt bad. I couldnt control myself too.
The next day, back at work. She msn me telling me to forget abt the whole incident & remain as friend as she like me as one.
I felt bad. I mean after having sex & remain as friend as if nothing ever happen? She telling me that she can & will be able to control.
I dont think she's telling the truth. Now I really regret not leaving her flat.
This is not the 1st time I send her home drunk. I didnt do anything the last time becos I felt that the friendship wont be the same after having sex.

Now I am feeling awkward having to face her becos we are also lunch buddies!

CoolBlack · #2 14-09-2007, 11:06 AM

Stuff like this do happens. Anyway i believe you both are adults and should be able to handle the situation well.
To a certain extend, this is how FB relationship starts.
She have already mentioned that she can handle it......so what is your problem?
I did have similar experiences and now these gals are still my friends.

Cocky · #3 14-09-2007, 12:10 PM

Bro, is all up in your mind.
I use to have a japanese colleague, she use to travel to Sg for business and we have become good friend via msn.
There is once I stay over after some drinking session with her and the other japanese guy colleague. Ended up is too late to go home as we are drinking into the early morning hours. So I instead of going home I stay over at the japanese guy room with him and my the other SG guy colleague. So we had 3 guys in a room with me on the sofa, japanese guy on bed and the other Sg guy on the floor. Both the SG & Japanese colleague are dead drank.

Than the room phone ring and it was the japanese lady colleague. She mention that since there are 3 guys in the room with only 1 bed. I could go over to her room and share the bed with her. To me is an open invitation but ended up I stay put on my sofa telling her is better I stay along with the guys just in case they need help cos their are dead drank.

I dont know what is up in my mind but I am sure that some bro out there will call me stupid to let go such a good chance to have sex with a japanese lady but anyway I stay put...! LOL

pokeman71 · #4 14-09-2007, 12:27 PM

Bro, is a good problem for your case. Me alway think of upping my colleague. As she lareday dun mind and you should make it clear again that no sting attach. Continue to up her

tomvoyeur · #5 14-09-2007, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by ahseng9

Now I am feeling awkward having to face her becos we are also lunch buddies!

Keep us updated after ur lunch....

humpcheepang · #6 14-09-2007, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by tomvoyeur

Keep us updated after ur lunch....

Yeh man, up her during lunch time for a quickie

Make sure you can cum this time.....

Castrol · #7 14-09-2007, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ahseng9

I felt bad. I mean after having sex & remain as friend as if nothing ever happen? She telling me that she can & will be able to control.
I dont think she's telling the truth. Now I really regret not leaving her flat.
This is not the 1st time I send her home drunk.

you will feel worse if she dont let you fuck after you send her home so many times.

smellycat · #8 14-09-2007, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by pokeman71

Bro, is a good problem for your case. Me alway think of upping my colleague. As she lareday dun mind and you should make it clear again that no sting attach. Continue to up her

problem is, how to make sure it stays "no strings" because many would advise "don't eat and shit in the same place" right?

ahseng9 · #9 14-09-2007, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Castrol

you will feel worse if she dont let you fuck after you send her home so many times.

Hi, I dont think this will happen again.
She's a nice lady & she felt bad, not wanting to breakup someone's family.

zeddy · #10 14-09-2007, 03:56 PM

let the whole thing slide, bro... enjoy it while it lasted, just make sure it's a once off thing.

office romances don't usually end well..couple that with the fact that you're in a serious relationship... not good.

Steadyman1 · #11 14-09-2007, 09:16 PM

She seem to be very understanding and has dealt the situation well by opening up to you after the incident.

She believe in herself (ability to control emotion) and so can you (she seem to have faith in you). Cherish the friendship.

Remember don't let emotion destroy your family.

Pay to have fun and don't messy with emotion...

Pkunk · #12 14-09-2007, 09:18 PM

Don't be too hard on yourself. It was the booze.

soundworks · #13 14-09-2007, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by CoolBlack

I did have similar experiences and now these gals are still my friends.

Bro,i must said u a very lucky man!! i never hav the luck,whenever those gals i up knew i got a gf,all broke off with me and sms me nasty thing.

ahseng9 · #14 15-09-2007, 12:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Steadyman1

She seem to be very understanding and has dealt the situation well by opening up to you after the incident.

She believe in herself (ability to control emotion) and so can you (she seem to have faith in you). Cherish the friendship.

Remember don't let emotion destroy your family.

Pay to have fun and don't messy with emotion...

Thank you for your encouraging works. But somehow I am feeling depressed thru out the whole day. Although she said to forget it, I know its difficult especially when she mentioned that its been a few yrs since she had sex.
I felt that she's putting up a brave front for me & that made me feel miserable even more. All these time, I kept telling myself not to cross that line among collaegues & there I am. Stupid me!
I feel that I need to talk to her & not ignore as if nothing happen. Only then can I get the depressed feeling offf my chest.
I dont understd why I am feeling so down. I meant I had girlfriends during my younger days, do "things" together & breakoff, dont feel anything. But now, just cant let go the depress feeling. I am wondering if it is because I am actually falling for her. Something that I never thought of. Sight.

qazxcvbnm · #15 15-09-2007, 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by ahseng9

Thank you for your encouraging works. But somehow I am feeling depressed thru out the whole day. Although she said to forget it, I know its difficult especially when she mentioned that its been a few yrs since she had sex.
I felt that she's putting up a brave front for me & that made me feel miserable even more. All these time, I kept telling myself not to cross that line among collaegues & there I am. Stupid me!
I feel that I need to talk to her & not ignore as if nothing happen. Only then can I get the depressed feeling offf my chest.

Bro, seems like you are really troubled by the situation. I agree with you that you need to talk to her. Afterall something did actually happen and nobody can deny that. BUT before you do that, please think about what kind of ending would you like. Its pointless if you don't even know what you wanted. Cheers.