Should I continue with this unsure r/s with Viet girl?

[Bibibabiboo80]

A couple of months back, after my reservist, I went partying with the mates at one of the KTVs famous for the wild Viet girls. During selection of gals, I realised one of the girls kept looking and smiling at me and me only. Mind you, I don't consider myself handsome, average at best, and I'm more on the chubby side. Most of my mates were younger and some were quite good looking. So I quickly pick her. She was really into me for some reason we exchanged numbers and had our hands over each other and she didn't butterfly much the whole night. I didn't want to finish there so we agreed to go to a hotel after that. She even reminded me to buy condoms.
While we were making love, could tell that she enjoyed it very much, to the point that she inserted my condomless dick into her. I was abit taken back at 1st but small head soon took over the big head(as usual) and we went raw and finished COB. We stayed till times up, paid her and sent her home.

Soon after that we exchanged SMSes of "I miss you" "You miss me" and agreed to meet again the following week. Went to pick her up after her working hours and went hotel again. This time we didn't talk about the $, however I was abit worried and still paid her.

So after the 2nd meet up, we started seeing each other on weekends outside of her work-time. Went dating at ECP, Bugis and other places. But each of our meetings ended up on bed, all condomless.(she even asked me to shoot inside saying she wants baby, which I refused of coz, since I still wasn't sure of my feelings for her, and also how my family would react to me marrying a Viet girl) But most of the times were initiated by her. So when I say I want to send her home after the dates, she will give me a sad face and say things like "you don't love me that's why don't want to accompany me?", "I want to stay with you" etc. so I Lanlan.

Anw, after dating her abt a month she found out she had to go back to Vietnam early coz her boss booked a return flight the next day for her already. That night I went to meet her and hugged each other and cried. It was also during this time that I realised that I had feelings for her and not just for the sex(can't blame me we fuck EVERYTIME we meet!) I sent her off the following day and I agreed to fly to Vietnam to see her whenever I am able to.
Even when she went back, we constantly keep in contact thru Wechat and sometimes she'll call me. And yeah, I do miss her from time to time.

So now my dilemma is, should I continue seeing her and risk my mother's fury?(I told my mother about her and she was very against it...)
Or move on with my bachelor life?(she told me recently she will not be coming SG to work in the near future)
The only thing I didn't like about her was her pte ltd English, communication is a big problem for us.
Any kind and experienced bros wish to give me advice on this? Seriously lost now..

[justl00king]

Bro,

She had gone back, time to move on to next target.
Dun tell me u r thinking to go serious and maybe marry her? lol

Anyway, all that should be the least of your worries.
Better go get yourself checked soon!

Good luck!

[sammyboyfor]

She's a WHORE!

Who on earth would want to be in a relationship with a WHORE!

You must be nuts.

Read the link in my signature.

[maxsee]

No offense...but did u check for HIV after she went back???

[lt0l0tl]

U Cheong vb ktv. No one ever tell u that they always sao nhieu nhieu?

[Accela]

Move on. She's a working girl and you're beibg suckered by the whole "I miss you" "you don't love me" bullshit. Sorry for being harsh, but I don't want this to end badly for you.

Just move on.

[3someking]

Same as my case.

mine is we post a photo of us kissing and post on facebook.

her frens other ktv gals all like the photo and know that we are both tgt. We also went out to orchard, bugis, etc also and did raw once. She did tell all her sisters that we are together. Hence all know.

From now on, evrytime I go to that particular ktv, all the gals try their best to avoid me and not sit with me as they know me and her are "together". When she working in the ktv, i never fail to book her where she will sit with me all the way for 4 hrs without living the room. I would pay her $150. She did tell me before one shift she can easily earn $200 - $300. So she give me special price of $150. Dunno how special that sounds though.

there is also once where she went back hanoi alrd, but i still went to that ktv. When i was there I receive a wechat msg from her asking why am I in the ktv (one of her sister who saw me msg her)Then I told her coz my fren Birthday.

then she said ok. I sat with one of her sister and she even tell me that I can sit with her but cannot kiss her.

Bro, u want that ktv gerl to be as possessive as mine ah??
I'm not telling u to fall in love or not fall in love with her.
I'm telling u to do it in the name of fun and dun get too serious.

[Ken79]

TS bro, listen to your mum, she can smell a rat 10 miles away and this viet woman or most other FLs are nothing more than drama and agony for those that got hooked to the kc trap.

just follow this logic.
A FL is just like a hotel room, no matter how posh and comfortable u still have to pay for a per night basis, u want to stay there every night then u fork out 200-400 daily, if not another guest is waiting behind u.

u can have fun with women out there either FLs or FBs but dont ever think u can love them or that they would love u, because this person would be the one u discuss daily hardships with and how to steer through it together.
FLs only want to know if u can pay them!

[Bibibabiboo80]

Yeah I guess you guys are right. Fell too deep into the KC trap.
There were some factors which made me feel she's genuine and sets her apart from other girls.
1) Other than the 1st night, she didn't ask any money from me at all.
2) Said it's her 1st time working in SG. Which I did check her passport to confirm it. She did went Cambodia a few times and she mentioned that those were religious trips with parents.
3) She's a devoted Buddhist. Goes to temple every Sunday and when she buys offerings and donations etc, she uses her own hard earned money.
4) She kinda disobeyed her boss by not going to work and accompany me. I guess that was the reason why her boss sent her back to VN earlier.

Anw thanks bros for your kind advises, will try to break communications with her from now on.

[Ken79]

Hi TS bro, on the points u mentioned below, some 2 cents from me for your consideration.

1. Many chiongsters have also experienced this before or at least their friends, whereby a FL would not ask for money, ask for less or ask you to pay as u like. This type of FL are dangerous, they want to kc trap u and squeeze u dry later on.

2. Cambodia's capital Phnom Penh is the next bangkok in the making, its open and liberal over there like bangkok, so the sex trade will become more prosperous in years to come.

3. Many FLs are religious also, most thais are Buddhists for eg. so i dont think being religious or not will not make a difference on how she is going to treat u. Anyway ofcos she makes offerings using her own money (earned in whichever way), she cant be robbing or stealing from someone and then goes to the temple with that ill-gotten cash.

4. many other gals can also make some sacrifices just to spend some quality time with u and not go bonk in a motel.

if u dont break contact soon, before long she will tell u how much she miss u and ask u to visit her in VN, then she will introduce u to her whole family or clan.
And when u go back she will tell u how much her family needs money, father needs to pay some debts, mother wants a new tv or chiller, brother wants money for laptop, sister wants to go uni.
If u give in to all these rubbish then she will talk about marriage and with it a house and farmland... etc etc.

Originally Posted by Bibibabiboo80

Yeah I guess you guys are right. Fell too deep into the KC trap.
There were some factors which made me feel she's genuine and sets her apart from other girls.
1) Other than the 1st night, she didn't ask any money from me at all.
2) Said it's her 1st time working in SG. Which I did check her passport to confirm it. She did went Cambodia a few times and she mentioned that those were religious trips with parents.
3) She's a devoted Buddhist. Goes to temple every Sunday and when she buys offerings and donations etc, she uses her own hard earned money.
4) She kinda disobeyed her boss by not going to work and accompany me. I guess that was the reason why her boss sent her back to VN earlier.

Anw thanks bros for your kind advises, will try to break communications with her from now on.

[racerboy]

ok TS, i had the same situation as you. but mine had ended. and i paid a huge price. if u don't mind, let me share my story

our first meeting was at christmas eve 2013, and me and my friends booked a room at one of a viet ktv beside a foodcourt. i am the guy always on time, i was first to reach the ktv. so, i ordered beer and playing hp games inside the room. 9.15pm, and girls started to push open the door to ask, can she sit down or not. believe it or not, i do not have a preference for viet girls, and most of the time, when i sit a girl, it is to appease my friends, as i am really not into them.

so, one by one, i rejected them WITHOUT even looking at them. it was when one girl hestiated to close the door, and i look up at her. she just caught my eye. she is what i always wanted in a girl. shoulder-length hair, sharp features and big boobs (yeah, i like big boobs). but mind you, she is very well dressed (not in a slutty dress) and she carried herself well. she speak good english, which i find it quite rare

so she sat with me. drink with me and sing a couple of viet song which i totally dont understand. but she sings well. after a while she left, and i also transferred room (cos we book the big room but it was not yet ready when i came in, so waitress allocated a small room for me first) and for a few hours, we never met.

time passed by, it was 11.30pm, and suddenly, she came out from the room opposite me, and i quickly signal her to come in. i asked her why she did not find me, she said she thought i left, cos when she return to the previous room, there is no one.

ok, i thought. and the funny thing is she stayed with me throughout the countdown. i think i heng because the girls will often sit with their fav customer or big spenders for the countdown. but she stayed with me throughout. so time flies and its almost 2am. my friends egged me to bring her to hotel (which i dont want) but again, to appease them, i agreed because all of them have bring girl go hotel. she agreed to go with me (again, strange, if she has bf in sg, she should be spending time with him instead) we proceed on to a nearby disco J-*** and continued drinking until 4am. after that, we proceed to hotel.

however, few days had passed, i started to think of her (dont know whether is the good sex or ?) and we went out. all in all, total i brought her to hotel 4 times, each time paying $200 (i know some might argue its too ex)

then end of jan, time for her to go back vn.but during feb, we start to chat in wechat, to the point of everyday video calling each other and talk till very late. then i itchy mouth say i want come hcmc find her, and she agreed.

soon, time for me to leave hcmc, i chickened out and told her an excuse saying i cannot come because my business failed and owe people many money. but she say i just come, everything she pay for me. i was thinking, wah, all expenses paid trip, why not? so i gong gong proceed there without thinking of the later consequences.

it was an awkward meeting in hcmc airport. i mean, i know her only purely on sexual transaction, but this time, it was something like a friend-friend trip. i dont know what to say or how to behave. i can feel that she feels the same way too. but we started to warm up and we left the airport on her white little lamb. upon reaching the hotel, with the fire burning inside us, we made passionate love and each love session is cum inside her.

on the last night, we drank wine while making love. it was really passionate. then she fall asleep. i then want to surf net, so i took her phone and use. knn i itchy hand go and open her sms and see. whoa, so many boyfriends ah!!! i felt angry and drink finish all the wine plus all the beer in the mini bar. i went to the toilet to drink because i dont want wake her up. still she woke up and see why i so angry/sad. then she ask me did i check her phone. i say yes. she cried and say sorry. i was thinking, fuck it, in a few more hours, i will leave hcmc and treat it as fuck and forget trip.

morning came, and we make love again, then she went for shower. i quietly took her phone and delete all of my contacts, sms, and wechat so that she could not find me. clever right?

we had breakfast (i remember is com tam) and off to singapore i go. she is going to vang tau (i think so) the next day, so i thought maybe we can treat it as a experience learnt.

then 2 days past, one night, my phone suddenly had someone 'LINE' me. i take a look. it was her! the sms is that she is crying and searching high and low for me. well, i dont know how she can find me in line, when i never add her in line. she plead me not to go and she said she loved me alot. i was like, ok, i anything la. strange thing is i dont give her money, i dont have car and house, she is a stunner and many suitors. why would she want to be with me. it was then i continued the r/s with her (big big mistake)

when she came back to sg in april, she would often skip or go work late, just to be with me. i can feel she really want to be with me at that point of time. and on my part, i also slowly fell in love with her. we would often go to east coast beach and sit on the bench, chat until 6am. we talk about our dreams, our lives, and of course, marriage. (knn, at that point of time, i just agree to whatever she say) it was a sweet time for us.

time flies fast, now is july. all in all, i had visited her in hcmc for 5 times. each time i go, is she paid all expenses for me. when in hcmc, she brought me to meet her friends, and also visited her dad's shop. even her good friend ( a male friend) also says she loves me deeply, and she declare i am her future husband. she wanted me to stay her house when i come hcmc, but i declined. but anyway, along the way we also had many problem, and u guessed it. it is regarding her work.

i found that she is keeping alot of boyfriends (during the first hcmc trip), initially that is alright with me. because come on, free sex, who dont want. and also, her boyfriends are giving her money to spend. but when i fell in love with her, i tried to control her. but the more i control, the more lies she tell, to the point i could not take it anymore.

we decided to break off in late june (my last trip was 13june to hcmc) and we had a huge quarrel. but, she would often wechat me 'dm ni, how can forget u' and many other things. and from the sms, i can feel she really love me alot. she also cried alot and had sent me voice messages saying why i hurt her. i am heartbroken too, but i really cannot continue the r/s when she needs to sleep with so many 'boyfriends' for money. i again decided to KIV the r/s ( fucking stupid mistake on my side)

when she arrived a few days ago, i knew she come on 1st. but she said she come on 2nd. when i grilled her, she said she went to hotel with one customer (now i dont know is boyfriend or not, because the guy always sms her) when i grilled her again, she said she dont love me anymore. she only love him. then i asked her why she can love him so fast. she said she no more love me but love him now. i am more heartbroken. perhaps she is out to spike me, or perhaps she really loves me and do not want to hurt me further. so by saying this, i will leave her. or perhaps, she really love him. or perhaps that guy is giving her alot of money. i dont know, and maybe i forever will not know the answer.

finally, i do not think she is out to scam me. in fact, i think during that point of time, she loves me very much, to the extend of she wants to be my wife. she is willing to have my baby. during my last trip to hcmc, all love making session, she forced me to come inside her during the fertile period.

when i go out with her, i portray myself as a very poor man (remember i told her my business failed). when i go out with her, basic things i will pay. but sometimes she will slip a couple of $50 into my wallet when she see i have no money. she even says she will borrow money for me when i jokingly ask her have 1k to borrow or not. and she also say she will help me take back my rolex ( i bluff her i pawn my watch) she told me, she must let me have 'face' when i am out with my friends. i have a galaxy tab, when she met me on 2nd july, she ask where is it. i say sell already (because she loves to check my phone etc and ask many question on who is this, who is that) then she ask me how much i sell. i anyhow shoot say $200. she then pass me $200 tell me go take back the phone.

and no, she does not wants to do the marriage scam. why i can confirm? because i read her phone sms and know there are 2 men wanted to marry her (1 in early 30s, 1 in early 40s). she also told me personally, if she ask 1 of them to marry, sure they will agree.

anyway, 2 things i can confirm. one, is i slowly fall in love in her, to the extend i need her. second, is she really loves me unconditionally at that point of time. we both have debts ( i bluff her i owe people lots of $) but she always encourage me to work hard. she told me to wait her 1 year. let her settle everything, she will come to me. we discuss many things, like how to grow my business, what business can be done etc. you know, at that point of time, we are really excited about our future. its like in the movies, 2 poor souls that have nothing but debts, but share a common goal with a view to live together forever.

yes, i love her alot now, but just felt we met at the right time but at the wrong place in the wrong situation.

anyway to TS, i paid a big price, but the price i paid, the currency is not in dollars and cents. in my case, the currency is my feelings, and it cost 10times more than money. it will haunt me for very long.

so TS, if u are strong and able to withstand this kind of shockwaves ( which i think 99% viet ktv girls will bound to give u) then u can try to be with her. if not, just let her go, so that she can find her own happiness.

[banana81sg]

ermmm.......TS if u want to continue, y dont u go in with 1 eye open......touch n go, test a bit here n there, know each other more through time etc and see how it goes.

of course remembering, never to put whole heartly into it till sure

[conquer]

Just enjoy the sex and the romance. Life then moves on...

Wait until next time when you meet another chick, she will bring you the same enjoyment like all other girls who you have "loved".

Cheers.

[devilchan78]

You shld marry her quickly and make babies cos garmen
giving a Better Baby Bonus come 2015

[Bote]

Yes u should continue the r/s with her since she and u love each other so much...dont be afraid of what other tell u.

u must take responsibility to take care all her needs...best is send her money to Vietnam every month to let her know u are true to her, u tell her u will take care of her and whole family.

u try to work hard, spend less and send all your money u save to her...then u have a very happy ending with her because u touch her her heart....

Originally Posted by Bibibabiboo80

A couple of months back, after my reservist, I went partying with the mates at one of the KTVs famous for the wild Viet girls. During selection of gals, I realised one of the girls kept looking and smiling at me and me only. Mind you, I don't consider myself handsome, average at best, and I'm more on the chubby side. Most of my mates were